greatnaija01:
in my case it was her parents and church counselors i reported to o. AND IT WORKED.

Benita27:
Oga, I'm not a married woman nor a mother but I think my input shouldn't be strictly based on these your criteria.

Actually, your wife has a low sex-drive and there are tones of things you could both engage in to arouse her interest in sex 'cause whether she likes it or not; sex is an integral part of any union if it must survive. That being said, you're overreacting since she had a C-section. You should give her time to heal very well 'cause sex when the wound hasn't heal properly could cause an eruption. Ask her doctor when they think it's ok for her to have sex. Talk to her about what you don't like about her sex life I guess she will adjust with time.

Forestgreen:

there was a reason why I specified those criteria. firstly, I want mum's with real experience to share at what time they got back into active sex after child birth.
I have done my research online (mom center) and most female respondents said six weeks as suggested by their care giver. I want to know what naija mum's here will say.
matter of fact, I'm not even disturbing here anymore.
tnx for your response

Benita27:
She didn't just put to bed, she had a C-section. Did you also google that?.

Forestgreen:

I wish I can do that but I'm a private person. secondly, my pastor is too free with his mouth sometimes

Benita27:
She didn't just put to bed, she had a C-section. Did you also google that?.

LadySarah:
Nope, you are not wrong.My problem is that you saw the signs during courtship but didnt do anything abt it.My dear,what you didnt change before marriage may never be changed after marriage.I hate partners denying each other their conjugal rights...
since you have spoken with her and shes not doing anything,call her parents or your marriage counsellor or her bestie(married oneooo).
Goodluck dear,a lot of women and sex are like pareallel llines,they never hardly ever meet most especially after childbirth

greatnaija01:
Bro... is there no Marriage counselor who handled you both before marriage? was there no marriage class?

Forestgreen:

there actually was a marriage class and a counselor. it feels queer meeting him over issues like this but I think I will give it a shot. tnx Bro

Forestgreen:


i did just that. 7 months is enough time to heal from research online. Im a very considerate person and will never put anyone in harm's way.

Benita27:
Oga, I'm not a married woman nor a mother but I think my input shouldn't be strictly based on these your criteria.

Actually, your wife has a low sex-drive and there are tones of things you could both engage in to arouse her interest in sex 'cause whether she likes it or not; sex is an integral part of any union if it must survive. That being said, you're overreacting since she had a C-section. You should give her time to heal very well 'cause sex when the wound hasn't heal properly could cause an eruption. Ask her doctor when they think it's ok for her to have sex. Talk to her about what you don't like about her sex life I guess she will adjust with time.

coolcatty:
Hahahaha

Guy calm down... You are not alone... Trust me.. So many good girls don't really like seeex like that.... It gets worse once they give birth.... They tend to lose interest in seeex and their husband and dedicate all their time and energy to their kids....... So relax.


We discussed this issue in my office one time like that and discovered that so many men are going thru this same issue of seexual apathy from their wives.

Try and enjoy urself outside... Pls be so so careful not to ever get caught... Always respect and honor your woman by following these rules:

1)NEVER ever bring a woman home

2)Never ever cheat on ur wife with a woman that stays close to ur place.. E.g have chics that stay on the mainland if you live on the island

3)Never deny your wife of love, affection, money and attention because of a side chic

4)Get a young girl that is not ready to get married or one in a serious relationship.... Those ones are in it with you just for fun and will never get jealous or hook with pregnancy.

5)And lastly... Always wear a condom... Don't go and give ur wife disease abeg.

Enjoy ur life bro... It's meant to be lived once... Heaven or hell is not guaranteed.. So enjoy this one that you currently have.

Benita27:
She didn't just put to bed, she had a C-section. Did you also google that?.

Olababymee:



Wow. This advice though
Please Op don't let anyone help you wreck your home.

What your wife is going through happens to a good number of women and I personally know a number of them that have gone ahead to have satisfying sex lives afterwards.

However, you and your wife need to see a Marriage/Sex Counsellor. I hope she agrees to.

You can check out @olawunmiesan on Twitter or www.olawunmiesan.com and make contact.

coolcatty:
Hahahaha

Guy calm down... You are not alone... Trust me.. So many good girls don't really like seeex like that.... It gets worse once they give birth.... They tend to lose interest in seeex and their husband and dedicate all their time and energy to their kids....... So relax.


We discussed this issue in my office one time like that and discovered that so many men are going thru this same issue of seexual apathy from their wives.

Try and enjoy urself outside... Pls be so so careful not to ever get caught... Always respect and honor your woman by following these rules:

1)NEVER ever bring a woman home

2)Never ever cheat on ur wife with a woman that stays close to ur place.. E.g have chics that stay on the mainland if you live on the island

3)Never deny your wife of love, affection, money and attention because of a side chic

4)Get a young girl that is not ready to get married or one in a serious relationship.... Those ones are in it with you just for fun and will never get jealous or hook with pregnancy.

5)And lastly... Always wear a condom... Don't go and give ur wife disease abeg.

Enjoy ur life bro... It's meant to be lived once... Heaven or hell is not guaranteed.. So enjoy this one that you currently have.

TheArchangel:
Oh fvck. I just broke a leg running from this sh!t.

TheArchangel:
awhat the hell is this. What do you mean that she didn't put to be bed? Even with the caveat before your first post you seem to know a whole lots of erroneous info about marriage and copulation. What da Bleep

Olababymee:



Wow. This advice though
Please Op don't let anyone help you wreck your home.

What your wife is going through happens to a good number of women and I personally know a number of them that have gone ahead to have satisfying sex lives afterwards.

However, you and your wife need to see a Marriage/Sex Counsellor. I hope she agrees to.

You can check out @olawunmiesan on Twitter or www.olawunmiesan.com and make contact.

LadySarah:
Nope, you are not wrong.My problem is that you saw the signs during courtship but didnt do anything abt it.My dear,what you didnt change before marriage may never be changed after marriage.I hate partners denying each other their conjugal rights...
since you have spoken with her and shes not doing anything,call her parents or your marriage counsellor or her bestie(married oneooo).
Goodluck dear,a lot of women and sex are like pareallel llines,they never meet most especially after childbirth

coolcatty:


Try and enjoy urself outside... Pls be so so careful not to ever get caught... Always respect and honor your woman by following these rules:

1)NEVER ever bring a woman home

2)Never ever cheat on ur wife with a woman that stays close to ur place.. E.g have chics that stay on the mainland if you live on the island

3)Never deny your wife of love, affection, money and attention because of a side chic

4)Get a young girl that is not ready to get married or one in a serious relationship.... Those ones are in it with you just for fun and will never get jealous or hook with pregnancy.

5)And lastly... Always wear a condom... Don't go and give ur wife disease abeg.

Enjoy ur life bro... It's meant to be lived once... Heaven or hell is not guaranteed.. So enjoy this one that you currently have.

MilitaryControl:



What will her parents or bestie do about it?

Care to explain?