MARRIED IN THE HOUSE INCLUDING SINGLES.PLEASE AM IN D HABIT OF HELPING ONE WAY OR THE OTHER IN D DOMESTIC CHORES, NOW EVEN WHEN AM A BIT BUSY AND MY WIFE INTENDS ME DOING SOMETHING MY REFUSAL IS TURNED TO A KIND OF U CANNOT HELP AND ALL SORTS, AS A CHRISTIAN I TOOK IT UPON MYSELF DOING MY BEST BUT IS LIKE I HAVE DONE WRONG. MORESO AM AN INDOOR PERSON, NO FRIENDS, NO OUTING, NO DRINKING NOR PARTY EXCEPT IF ON JOB, NOW IF I REACT WHAT PEOPLE SAY COS I THINK HELPING WOMEN AT HOME IS LIKE MEN ARE ALSO EQUAL TO THEM THE WAY THEY SEE THINGS.

Ur wife is lucky to have u for helping out with domestic chores because not all men do help
even wen d woman is down.
she shouldn't turn it to be ur obligations.

You haven't done anything wrong & it didn't make u equal with women either.

I think u should give a break in helping out
so that she would appreciate u more anytime
u offer to help.

seunsola2411:
MARRIED IN THE HOUSE INCLUDING SINGLES.PLEASE AM IN D HABIT OF HELPING ONE WAY OR THE OTHER IN D DOMESTIC CHORES, NOW EVEN WHEN AM A BIT BUSY AND MY WIFE INTENDS ME DOING SOMETHING MY REFUSAL IS TURNED TO A KIND OF U CANNOT HELP AND ALL SORTS, AS A CHRISTIAN I TOOK IT UPON MYSELF DOING MY BEST BUT IS LIKE I HAVE DONE WRONG. MORESO AM AN INDOOR PERSON, NO FRIENDS, NO OUTING, NO DRINKING NOR PARTY EXCEPT IF ON JOB, NOW IF I REACT WHAT PEOPLE SAY COS I THINK HELPING WOMEN AT HOME IS LIKE MEN ARE ALSO EQUAL TO THEM THE WAY THEY SEE THINGS.

It's your household why are you concerned about "people", and what's wrong helping your wife with some chores[s]. I don't understand that part won't you want your wife to be stress free to some point, maybe am different sha [/s]

Nonsense!
How can you be helping everyday. Please stop.
Also, Stop eating everyday too.

She is a lucky woman, most married men don't help their wives.

Never start what you can finish.

Women are wired in a way that only God understands. You will hear things like 'you don't love me like before the reason you stopped lending a helping hand, 'you are not caring anymore' etc.

You have started, you need to continue even when it's not convenient otherwise, wahala dey or you reduce or stop totally Which I won't advice you to, face the wahala once and for all and you gain your freedom. The choice is yours.

pcguru1:


It's your household why are you concerned about "people", and what's wrong helping your wife with some chores. I don't understand that part won't you want your wife to be stress free to some point, maybe am different sha

He said when he is " busy"..... not like he don't help
at all.

Can you get a maid to help around the house?

If she's not coping , and you're both overwhelmed with house chores, get someone to come in and clean your house daily or every 2-3 days.

Modelqwen:




He said when he is " busy"..... not like he don't help
at all.

Oh thanks I didn't see that

Whats the big deal! This thing is in u especially when u like a good environment or dont actually get satisfied with how others clean, and what specifically do u do? D only reason u are concerned is because of what society as placed in ur head, but my friend u will die of what society expects u to do. Do what u can and dont make a big fuss out of it. help while u can and if u are busy tell her u are busy without batting an eyelid.

Nawaooo,what you are supposed to be happy about.Dont you know your wife is your glory and angel?it could be s her way of you bonding her then please help her out so that she doesnt get to look older thsn you even when you senior her.

my husband works his butt off at home when he's at home,babysits even at night and also accompanies me to the mkt,and yes he is a traditional igboman,he'd proudly tell you ''its my duty'',so i dont see what the problem is here

Does your wife go to work @ least 5 times a week?

Do you live in the house @ least 5 times a week?

It is funny how people in marriages or committed relationships don't see that house chores causes more divorce/breakups than infidelity.


It is your house, biko do the best you can especially if your wife works too.

Or, just get a maid! EOD.

If you can't cope with chores then imagine what your wife is going through. You don't even need a live in maid. Look for someone to clean the house once or twice a week and pay weekly or monthly. We eat out, take clothes to the cleaners, kids to daycare, have drivers, gardeners, bankers, accountants, security men, etc but when it comes to chores, na the woman problem be that.