I'm 18, and I've been suffering from This For As Long As I can remember, I've never really had the opportunity to interact with other people since I was Homeschooled and Attended A HomeChurch(dont ask) , basically my Life Circle Is my Family. But it's weird that I'm the only one in the family with this issue.
This is my 3rd Year in The University and This Disorder has Hindered Me From Living optimally. I can't Make 3 steps in a room where at least 2family members aren't present, without wetting myself like I was Bathed (a little exaggeration).
Some guys think I'm giving them a green light ,
when I smile anxiously Even when I make deliveries.
I'm basically not Living Like A Normal Individual Should, I'm Done With being an Introvert.
If I take Chocolate Vodka Everyday In a Week, will that Harm me like Kidney and Addictions?
About 30ml of Vodka Everyday or 50ml Max!.
Or is there a specific Alcohol Type that can Aid With This ...
I've Tried Everything else, writing A Journal, pin pointing Weak points and all that Google Stuff, Alcohol Is the only Option Left.
I Just Don't want to Be That Bitch ,That smiles at Everything...
So Hit me With Tips Please

Are you African This doesnt look like an african problem.

NnamdiN:
Are you African This doesnt look like an african problem.

Yes oh I'm African -Nigerian

Are you a christian?

fulaniHERDSman:
Are you a christian?

I wrote home church
Of course I'm a Christian

BigSarah:


I wrote home church
Of course I'm a Christian

Ok.
Up your faith then. Also get to see a psychologist to evaluate your case and profer realistic remedies. Nairaland will only confuse and overwhelm you the more

fulaniHERDSman:

Ok.
Up your faith then. Also get to see a psychologist to evaluate your case and profer realistic remedies. Nairaland will only confuse and overwhelm you the more

I'm pretty spiritual, I'm even part of certain evangelism team, but anxiety doesn't kick in then,
A Psychologist and Therapist I've engaged myself with one before but wasn't a Physical Session, Online Web call, but that didn't help much

Don't take Alcohol.

Do you have friends

BigSarah:
I'm 18, and I've been suffering from This For As Long As I can remember, I've never really had the opportunity to interact with other people since I was Homeschooled and Attended A HomeChurch(dont ask) , basically my Life Circle Is my Family. But it's weird that I'm the only one in the family with this issue.
This is my 3rd Year in The University and This Disorder has Hindered Me From Living optimally. I can't Make 3 steps in a room where at least 2family members aren't present, without wetting myself like I was Bathed (a little exaggeration).
Some guys think I'm giving them a green light ,
when I smile anxiously Even when I make deliveries.
I'm basically not Living Like A Normal Individual Should, I'm Done With being an Introvert.
If I take Chocolate Vodka Everyday In a Week, will that Harm me like Kidney and Addictions?
About 30ml of Vodka Everyday or 50ml Max!.
Or is there a specific Alcohol Type that can Aid With This ...
I've Tried Everything else, writing A Journal, pin pointing Weak points and all that Google Stuff, Alcohol Is the only Option Left.
I Just Don't want to Be That Bitch ,That smiles at Everything...
So Hit me With Tips Please

Alcohol won't make you bolder at this stage, only more vulnerable.

You are extremely shy. This has nothing to do with your upbringing.

I suggest you go out more at night.

Find coursemates who club. Go clubbing with them.

Why club?

Cuz that's the no. 1 place I know one is permitted to wild out without people paying attention. No fear of being rejected or feeling eyes on you.

You need to let out that b!tch in you first.

Gradually, you'll get used to being around people & apply it to daytime.

Prinxxdave:
Don't take Alcohol.


Do you have friends

Yeah I do just one

BigSarah:
I'm 18, and I've been suffering from This For As Long As I can remember, I've never really had the opportunity to interact with other people since I was Homeschooled and Attended A HomeChurch(dont ask) , basically my Life Circle Is my Family. But it's weird that I'm the only one in the family with this issue.
This is my 3rd Year in The University and This Disorder has Hindered Me From Living optimally. I can't Make 3 steps in a room where at least 2family members aren't present, without wetting myself like I was Bathed (a little exaggeration).
Some guys think I'm giving them a green light ,
when I smile anxiously Even when I make deliveries.
I'm basically not Living Like A Normal Individual Should, I'm Done With being an Introvert.
If I take Chocolate Vodka Everyday In a Week, will that Harm me like Kidney and Addictions?
About 30ml of Vodka Everyday or 50ml Max!.
Or is there a specific Alcohol Type that can Aid With This ...
I've Tried Everything else, writing A Journal, pin pointing Weak points and all that Google Stuff, Alcohol Is the only Option Left.
I Just Don't want to Be That Bitch ,That smiles at Everything...
So Hit me With Tips Please

you are female, pls don't take alcohol, ur guys will not even like it.
Date a confident guy and learn his ways or look for a mentor that you like

LordLucifer:





Alcohol won't make you bolder at this stage, only more vulnerable.

You are extremely shy. This has nothing to do with your upbringing.

I suggest you go out more at night.

Find coursemates who club. Go clubbing with them.

Why club?

Cuz that's the no. 1 place I know one is permitted to wild out without people paying attention. No fear of being rejected or feeling eyes on you.

You need to let out that b!tch in you first.

Gradually, you'll get used to being around people & apply it to daytime.

Clubbing
I don't enjoy attention or immorality, I just want to be calm less sweaty and damn anxious and perturbed

Onijagidijagan:

you are female, pls don't take alcohol, ur guys will not even like it.
Date a confident guy and learn his ways or look for a mentor that you like

I have a boyfriend, but not in Nigeria at the moment

BigSarah:


Clubbing
I don't enjoy attention or immorality, I just want to be calm less sweaty and damn anxious and perturbed

Who'll give you "attention" in a club when you are with friends?

What "immoral" things happen in a club? People dance, drink & go home. What else?

LordLucifer:





Who'll give you "attention" in a club when you are with friends?

What "immoral" things happen in a club? People dance, drink & go home. What else?

So Hollywood Lies ,will give it a thought Thanks!

BigSarah:


I have a boyfriend, but not in Nigeria at the moment

Doesn't matter but u people do have phone conversations, Skype e.t.c..just start mentoring him and try to do better than him (not only ur bf though)also read books widely and make use of what u've learnt for self development purposes.
all ur problem are coming frm ur minds, d treatment depends on what you feed ur minds too.

Alcohol will help a bit only if you have done your own share of development..but if u take alcohol with anxiety, it brings it out much worst. some alcohol even make someone more shy

Onijagidijagan:

Doesn't matter but u people do have phone conversations, Skype e.t.c..just start mentoring him and try to do better than him (not only ur bf though)also read books widely and make use of what u've learnt for self development purposes.
all ur problem are coming frm ur minds, d treatment depends on what you feed ur minds too.

Alcohol will help a bit only if you have done your own share of development..but if u take alcohol with anxiety, it brings it out much worst. some alcohol even make someone more shy

Tried all those mind workouts, didn't do so good in all social functions..
Thanks for your input, I'll try vodka tommorow and see how I fare

BigSarah:



So Hollywood Lies ,will give it a thought Thanks!

If you try nonsense in a club, bouncers will deal with you & kick you out.

Even in strip clubs where strippers walk around in gstrings, you cant try sh!t. I dont see what's scary in a club.

You stay in a coded, dark corner where you can see everything but no one can see you & you let your wild side out in privacy.

Again, I want to warn you to refrain from alcohol at this stage. Maybe later, but not now.

You are obviously not ready 4 it.

You'll only end up doing fvcked up sh!t that you'll b regret the next morning which will only damage your nonexistent confidence.

Ignore this advise & learn d hard way.

Alcohol will make it worst for its a 2 mins fame giver...the rest of the hours/days will be lived in regrets. Just give yourself time, one step at a time...you will be fine.

BigSarah:

Yeah I do just one

Your own z bigger than mine @ least mine z only shyness

Prinxxdave :
Your own z bigger than mine @ least mine z only shyness

Introvert

BigSarah:
I'm 18, and I've been suffering from This For As Long As I can remember, I've never really had the opportunity to interact with other people since I was Homeschooled and Attended A HomeChurch(dont ask) , basically my Life Circle Is my Family. But it's weird that I'm the only one in the family with this issue.
This is my 3rd Year in The University and This Disorder has Hindered Me From Living optimally. I can't Make 3 steps in a room where at least 2family members aren't present, without wetting myself like I was Bathed (a little exaggeration).
Some guys think I'm giving them a green light ,
when I smile anxiously Even when I make deliveries.
I'm basically not Living Like A Normal Individual Should, I'm Done With being an Introvert.
If I take Chocolate Vodka Everyday In a Week, will that Harm me like Kidney and Addictions?
About 30ml of Vodka Everyday or 50ml Max!.
Or is there a specific Alcohol Type that can Aid With This ...
I've Tried Everything else, writing A Journal, pin pointing Weak points and all that Google Stuff, Alcohol Is the only Option Left.
I Just Don't want to Be That Bitch ,That smiles at Everything...
So Hit me With Tips Please

You should test your reaction to alcohol at home first, don't overdo it at the club and stay away from hard drinks if possible. In general it helps most people reduce their (social) anxiety, wich is the reason why enough anxiety sufferers have alcohol problems.
There's also a reason why alcohol is synonymous with social events. It makes people feel "loose".

Alcohol would only worsen your case, u cant b high tipsy&high all the time.

geneithpharm:


You should test your reaction to alcohol at home first, don't overdo it at the club and stay away from hard drinks if possible. In general it helps most people reduce their (social) anxiety, wich is the reason why enough anxiety sufferers have alcohol problems.
There's also a reason why alcohol is synonymous with social events. It makes people feel "loose".

Yeah, home test is vital

joshboo:
Alcohol would only worsen your case, u cant b high tipsy&high all the time.

Then what do I do I can't go to college and have no college friends

LordLucifer:
Again, I want to warn you to refrain from alcohol at this stage. Maybe later, but not now.

You are obviously not ready 4 it.

You'll only end up doing fvcked up sh!t that you'll b regret the next morning which will only damage your nonexistent confidence.

Ignore this advise & learn d hard way.

I don't stay in the school hostel, I've outside accommodation a self contain, to seclude me self from others(parents will).
I just need people my age, I do well with elderlys

BigSarah:


I don't stay in the school hostel, I've outside accommodation a self contain, to seclude me self from others(parents will).
I just need people my age, I do well with elderlys

Even better cuz I despise clumsy peeps. You can join me when next im going clubbing.

BigSarah:


Yes oh I'm African -Nigerian

Alcohol wont help, change of environment might

BigSarah:
I'm 18, and I've been suffering from This For As Long As I can remember, I've never really had the opportunity to interact with other people since I was Homeschooled and Attended A HomeChurch(dont ask) , basically my Life Circle Is my Family. But it's weird that I'm the only one in the family with this issue.
This is my 3rd Year in The University and This Disorder has Hindered Me From Living optimally. I can't Make 3 steps in a room where at least 2family members aren't present, without wetting myself like I was Bathed (a little exaggeration).
Some guys think I'm giving them a green light ,
when I smile anxiously Even when I make deliveries.
I'm basically not Living Like A Normal Individual Should, I'm Done With being an Introvert.
If I take Chocolate Vodka Everyday In a Week, will that Harm me like Kidney and Addictions?
About 30ml of Vodka Everyday or 50ml Max!.
Or is there a specific Alcohol Type that can Aid With This ...
I've Tried Everything else, writing A Journal, pin pointing Weak points and all that Google Stuff, Alcohol Is the only Option Left.
I Just Don't want to Be That Bitch ,That smiles at Everything...
So Hit me With Tips Please

u are still very young dear....I use 2 b like dis till I turned 25....

Sharonose:
u are still very young dear....I use 2 b like dis till I turned 25....

That doesn't make me feel better at all so I've to be like this for 7 more years ...
What did you do at 25/24 that changed you

I also suffer from anxiety and nervousness. Especially around the opposite sex. I once smoked cigarette mixed with a little codeine. It seemed to help me. And when I smoked two sticks of cigarettes it also helped. I do drink a little at home once in a while.

And right now I am not addicted to codeine, cigarettes nor alcohol.