Harvard Reveals Biggest Secret to Success and Happiness

Harvard spent 79 years studying the lives of 724 men to determine what keeps people healthy and happy. They discovered it has nothing to do with fame, wealth, social class, IQ, or genes, but instead, a single trait.

The director of the study, Robert Waldinger, a psychiatrist at Massachusetts General Hospital and a professor of psychiatry at Harvard Medical School, said the study revealed that our relationships impact powerfully on our health.

He also said the study uncovered these lessons about relationships:

Social connections are good for us; loneliness really kills.

While calling loneliness toxic, Waldinger said social connections made people happier and physically healthier. It made them live longer too.
On the other hand, he also said:

"People who are more isolated than they want to be from others find that they are less happy, their health declines earlier in midlife, their brain functioning declines sooner and they live shorter lives than people who are not lonely. And the sad fact is that at any given time, more than one in five Americans will report that they're lonely."

The quality of our close relationships matter.

Instead of focusing on the quantity, it's vital to focus on the quality of our friendships. Living in the midst of conflict affects our health. High-conflict marriages, for instance, affect our health negatively, perhaps more than getting a divorce. And living in the midst of warm, wholehearted relationships is protective.

Waldinger said they could tell which of their men was going to grow into a healthy, happy octogenarian by looking back at them in midlife:

"When we gathered together everything we knew about them at age 50, it wasn't their middle-age cholesterol levels that predicted how they were going to grow old, it was how satisfied they were in their relationships. The people who were the most satisfied in their relationships at age 50 were the healthiest at age 80."

Good relationships protect our brains, not just our bodies.

The study found that being attached to a relationship in your 80s is protective. Such people had sharper memories while people who were in relationships where they couldn't really count on the other person experienced gradual memory decline.

Arguments, Waldinger said, didn't affect the memories. They didn't matter as long as the octogenarian couples knew they could count on the other when the going got tough. "The good life," Waldinger concluded, "is built with good relationships."


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If relationship was truly the secret to success and happiness, you just have to wonder why "Romeo" and "Juliet" died so early and miserably, and also wonder why "Jack" and "Rose" died so early and unsuccessfully.


The truth is, "Money" is the secret to happiness!


The like and need for money will make you seek for it in high places.

But the love and want for money will make you keep seeking till you fall off the cliff.


Still, "Money" is the secret to happiness.


FIND IT!