Introduction

I just wanted to write a brief note on my perspective on the transaction between resources and sex. The connection between resources and sex has become ingrained in the human brain, and exists in every culture ever studied. Men with lots of resources is attractive to women, and women exchange resources for sex. In the purest form, we call this prostitution. This term has a very negative connotation in Western culture, and I do not necessarily agree with this stigma. After all, the exchange of resources for sex exists it countless other forms even today. If we consider the amount of resources that are spent in the hope of sex, the examples increase even further.

Evolutionary Psychology

Women have a biological need to be the gatekeepers of sex. They can only have a maximum of 8-12 children in their reproductive years. Men can theoretically have infinite numbers of children. This is the ultimate reason why men have a 'spread their seed' strategy, while women have a dual mating strategy of both short term, and long term, mates. The short term strategy involves having sexual encounters with men that bear strong genes, evidenced by features that suggest high testosterone, athleticism, and physical attractiveness. The long term strategy involves having the greatest resources for their offspring, and ideally involves cuckoldry by having a provider male as their long term partner.

Now these biological urges result in men generally having more of a desire to accrue excess resources (rich as Bleep), which combines with the spreading the seed instinct, to create endless situations where resources are traded for sex. To most people, this is merely prostitution, which is the contractual exchange of resources for sex. However, this exchange occurs much more frequently in all aspects of life.

Prostitutes, Sugar Babies, and Trophy Wives

We have already discussed the most straightforward example, prostitution. However, 'sugar-babies' and 'sugar daddies' are becoming much more common. This is a similar contract to an escort, but on less clearly defined terms. In a sugar daddy contract, the male offers money in return for companionship over a continual period of time, in the form of an allowance. This typically involves an older less attractive male, with a younger more attractive female. Sex is not specifically included in the contract, but if sex was not provided at a satisfactory level, then the male would likely pull away from the contract, and not provide any more allowances. I believe this is for men who want to 'kid themselves' into thinking they are not paying for sex, however, I also think it attracts men that want more than just the physical relationship with a women. The cost per period of sex I would imagine would be much higher than the prostitute, but not several times higher. The investment for the female is greater than the prostitute, but still not very significant, and guaranteed immediately upon performance.

Now we have the trophy wife. The trophy wife term was used because it is the more extreme example, however, we see softer forms of 'trophy' wives with less attractive women (e.g a '7' trophy wife with a 4 male). This is the most common example, and you have several people that would fit this criteria in your life. This requires the greatest investment by the female, many times with no payout at all. Rather than getting immediate control of a small amount of money, they choose to get partial control to a much, much larger amount of money. Although this requires the biggest investment, it has enormous payouts for the women involved, especially at the extremes. There is no need to rehash the insane billion dollar divorce settlements we've seen in the past, because there are endless smaller examples that you have probably witnessed yourself. The cost per sex in this example would be by far the highest, but it would have the most long term emotional support as a side benefit.

Society's Perspective

My point being is that society hates prostitutes. It also has a negative view on sugar daddies/babies. However, aside from perhaps the more extreme trophy wife examples (Anna Nicole Smith), society generally does not view trophy wives negatively. If we consider the endless soft examples of 'trophy' wives (guys with decent amounts of cash trading up), society largely accepts it, and even enables it with the family law system.

When you start to think about it, the prostitute is the most honest of the three examples. It is a clearly defined contract with consideration provided by both parties. The sugar daddy, is a less clearly defined contract. And the trophy wife offers no contract (with respect to sex) at all. Furthermore, the trophy wife is the most deceptive of the three, while the sugar baby falls in the middle.

I am writing this article to get people thinking about why society accepts the trophy wife lifestyle, but condemns the sugar baby, and rejects the prostitute. If you view the roles objectively, society's perspective is completely upside down. However, beta males and women make up the vast majority of society. This includes the people at the top of society, and the ones that do not agree with this philosophy would not dare speak out against it due to the concern of being perceived as politically incorrect, thus ruining their reputation. Women and provider males will always constitute the majority of people in the world, and the system will try and appease the majority. We have come to shame prostitution because it works DIRECTLY against the female dual sexual strategy, while benefiting the male's. If the majority of men participated in prostitution regularly, there would be less providers available. This would ultimately cause more women to turn to prostitution as a source of resources, when accruing a long term mate becomes a less viable strategy.

One could also look at prostitution and marriage as polar opposites, with one side benefiting the female sexual strategy, and the other benefiting the male. Now this is not to say that there are many reasons that prostitution has a seedy reputation in the West. The illegal nature of the trade, the association with drug use, and human trafficking, all are very real problems. However, societies that have accepted and regulated this have much less problems then societies with a black market.

Conclusion

I personally don't use prostitutes, but I just wanted to offer a different perspective. I have as much respect for a sex worker as I would for any other woman, however, I cannot say the same for a trophy wife. I just wanted to offer my view of how societies views on the three categories of women trading sex for resources can be viewed from an evolutionary psychology perspective.

TL;DR Society views prostitutes negatively, but not trophy wives, and this perspective strongly benefits the dual female sexual strategy.