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She Stopped Cooking. by dlawsamesq(m): 9:37am On Feb 12, 2018 |
We had a little word exchange and she stopped cooking whenever I am around. I still drop feeding allowance every morning but now I am thinking of stopping. Advice needed |
Re: She Stopped Cooking. by Donald3d(m): 9:41am On Feb 12, 2018 |
Your wife or .... ? |
Re: She Stopped Cooking. by Shedrack777: 9:41am On Feb 12, 2018 |
advice: go get an adult housemaid or give her signs of you marrying again (but no go marry o) 1 Like |
Re: She Stopped Cooking. by babythug(f): 10:12am On Feb 12, 2018 |
Why not resolve the conflict? It's her way of protesting /showing displeasure to the matter at hand so have a discussion and make amend as may be needed 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: She Stopped Cooking. by dlawsamesq(m): 10:30am On Feb 12, 2018 |
That has been her way since we got married. I am thinking of keeping my money. |
Re: She Stopped Cooking. by Donald3d(m): 10:40am On Feb 12, 2018 |
dlawsamesq:As babythug said , thats her way of protesting , in what manner(tone of voice etc) did you try to resolve the dispute , women are not that hard to tame (except she is extremely stubborn), even if she is, she is your wife , you know her weak points and things you can easily use to persuade her to calm down. You should probably change the manner (tone in your voice etc) , you use in resolving issues with her 1 Like |
Re: She Stopped Cooking. by Oyindidi(f): 10:51am On Feb 12, 2018 |
dlawsamesq:Enter kitchen go cook 3 Likes |
Re: She Stopped Cooking. by Oyindidi(f): 10:54am On Feb 12, 2018 |
dlawsamesq:Men think keeping the money is a punishment keep your money and see if she will die of hunger 6 Likes |
Re: She Stopped Cooking. by Nobody: 11:01am On Feb 12, 2018 |
Trust me if you could cook, she would feel threatened that you don't even feel bothered. That's what happens when you have to rely on people for things and they know they are your only hope. Communicating should work out, no need for passive aggression 2 Likes |
Re: She Stopped Cooking. by ImaIma1(f): 11:10am On Feb 12, 2018 |
Order a bowl of soup and stew. Remove the name sticker of the restaurant you ordered if from so that it seems like a friend made it for you. That should stir a conversation and lead to a resolution. 4 Likes |
Re: She Stopped Cooking. by dlawsamesq(m): 11:57am On Feb 12, 2018 |
ImaIma1: I am a very good cook she knows that, it's just that I came back home exhausted every night but I think I will go with ur advice 1 Like |
Re: She Stopped Cooking. by eniolorunfe: 12:00pm On Feb 12, 2018 |
Hmm...instead of two adults to sit down and talk with the aim of sorting out their issues and getting to know each other more, they will be playing games upandan.... Why collecting feeding money, when you know you don't plan to cook? people committing 'thiefery' under the guise of protesting / passing across a message. Whenever she needs extra cash, all she has to do is to start vexing and pocketing soup money....lol 2 Likes |
Re: She Stopped Cooking. by MetroBaba1(m): 12:31pm On Feb 12, 2018 |
eniolorunfe: No Be Africans Again
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Re: She Stopped Cooking. by Acidosis(m): 12:51pm On Feb 12, 2018 |
Buying food outside or ordering food from a friend won't resolve your issues. Try and figure out the underlying problem, and why she has chosen to use food as an attack strategy. Make her understand your displeasure and improve on your communication with your wife. Meanwhile, the idea of dropping feeding allowance every morning is not a good idea. Make her a part of your finance. Unless the nature of your work does not permit you, it is better to give her a lump sum weekly, monthly or bimonthly. Daily feeding allowance is meant for children because they can't manage finance. Make your wife your manager and she will automatically begin to treat you like the CEO that you are. 9 Likes |
Re: She Stopped Cooking. by realtalk19: 1:23pm On Feb 12, 2018 |
dlawsamesq: hmm it is well. one who has head dnt av cap. u dey try. u stil dey drop allowance,when some wunt even drop at all nd stil meet sumptious meals. some women annoy me when i hear them taking their hubby for granted op plz cal her attention to her sudden behavior nd resolve it. dnt stop doing ur responsibility. 1 Like |
Re: She Stopped Cooking. by Agbaletu: 1:27pm On Feb 12, 2018 |
dlawsamesq:Why dropping feeding allowance every morning? I think it is high time we discouraged this. It is better you make it monthly or bi-monthly. 2 Likes |
Re: She Stopped Cooking. by dlawsamesq(m): 1:37pm On Feb 12, 2018 |
I always give her money to buy food stuff monthly. the money I always drop is for running cost. She is not doing anything presently since she just put to bed so I made it my obligation to drop something daily to complement what I have given her already. 2 Likes |
Re: She Stopped Cooking. by ImaIma1(f): 3:42pm On Feb 12, 2018 |
dlawsamesq: As long as you guys love each other and want the marriage to work, everything will be fine. |
Re: She Stopped Cooking. by Nobody: 5:40pm On Feb 12, 2018 |
Stop dropping feeding allowance and start cooking for yourself. She will threatened and willing to iron the underlying issues. |
Re: She Stopped Cooking. by thorpido(m): 6:10pm On Feb 12, 2018 |
You didn't say anything about how you have tried to resolve the conflict. |
Re: She Stopped Cooking. by bukatyne(f): 7:02pm On Feb 12, 2018 |
thorpido: He didn't even say what the conflict was about. 1 Like |
Re: She Stopped Cooking. by Nobody: 9:00pm On Feb 12, 2018 |
What is the cause(s) of the problem(s)? |
Re: She Stopped Cooking. by grafixdon: 9:03pm On Feb 12, 2018 |
In any circumstances, responsible wife shouldn't starve her husband! It's pure evil. Let's call a spade a spade, that woman isn't acting normal. Old challenges demand new approaches, slash the feeding allowance into 2, go to good restaurant and feed your stomach. Don't even expect her food anymore. When she's finally come to her senses, if she prepare you meal, don't eat it, reject her food for complete 5days, that way she'd realise that she has overstep her boundaries. What nonsense! There're numerous ways of protesting your displeasure, starving your husband ain't one of them. Over pampered Adult. Nonsense! |
Re: She Stopped Cooking. by Opentokwowledge: 10:07pm On Feb 12, 2018 |
Yes, Stop dropping feeding allowance. Her brain go sharpaly chop reset. |
Re: She Stopped Cooking. by diportivo: 12:28am On Feb 13, 2018 |
dlawsamesq: if this arrangement suits u as the head of the house,Pls continue don't let anybody tell u how to run ur home.....na so dem go talk say monthly or quarterly like say all home front situations na same ur wife is protesting....she knows u can cook so she's not punishing u use something she likes to entice her so dat u guys can talk Abt the situation on ground she's ur wife..u know her more |
Re: She Stopped Cooking. by Richy4(m): 2:17am On Feb 13, 2018 |
Just storm the kitchen man... and make sure u cook something.. that the aroma alone, Esau would be willing to sell his birth right the second time.. make sure after eating no left overs just to register your displeasure too..After eating the nice dish alone, you guys can reconcile |
Re: She Stopped Cooking. by Tinalex(f): 11:47am On Feb 13, 2018 |
Op please I know her mode of protesting is childish but on behalf on her and other women acting same I say "we are sorry". But note, men are guilty of something " not saying I am sorry". You and your wife had a spat n you just put on your cloth and walk out only for you to come back and expect things to pick up just as before the fight. No its not done, when you come back call her and say I am sorry except if shez at fault ooo. Thanks for reading 2 Likes |
Re: She Stopped Cooking. by Nobody: 12:03pm On Feb 13, 2018 |
Oyindidi:women think if dey dnt cook we wld die |
Re: She Stopped Cooking. by dlawsamesq(m): 4:04pm On Feb 13, 2018 |
thanks to everyone... I am grateful for your advices. |
Re: She Stopped Cooking. by Oyindidi(f): 6:04am On Feb 14, 2018 |
nnamdiokere45:Lol, funny guy |
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