We had a little word exchange and she stopped cooking whenever I am around. I still drop feeding allowance every morning but now I am thinking of stopping. Advice needed

Your wife or .... ?

advice: go get an adult housemaid or give her signs of you marrying again (but no go marry o)

Why not resolve the conflict? It's her way of protesting /showing displeasure to the matter at hand so have a discussion and make amend as may be needed

That has been her way since we got married. I am thinking of keeping my money.

dlawsamesq:
That has been her way since we got married. I am thinking of keeping my money.

As babythug said , thats her way of protesting , in what manner(tone of voice etc) did you try to resolve the dispute , women are not that hard to tame (except she is extremely stubborn), even if she is, she is your wife , you know her weak points and things you can easily use to persuade her to calm down.
You should probably change the manner (tone in your voice etc) , you use in resolving issues with her

dlawsamesq:
We had a little word exchange and she stopped cooking whenever I am around. I still drop feeding allowance every morning but now I am thinking of stopping. Advice needed

Enter kitchen go cook

dlawsamesq:
That has been her way since we got married. I am thinking of keeping my money.

Men think keeping the money is a punishment keep your money and see if she will die of hunger

Trust me if you could cook, she would feel threatened that you don't even feel bothered. That's what happens when you have to rely on people for things and they know they are your only hope. Communicating should work out, no need for passive aggression

Order a bowl of soup and stew. Remove the name sticker of the restaurant you ordered if from so that it seems like a friend made it for you. That should stir a conversation and lead to a resolution.

ImaIma1:
Order a bowl of soup and stew. Remove the name sticker of the restaurant you ordered if from so that it seems like a friend made it for you. That should stir a conversation and lead to a resolution.

I am a very good cook she knows that, it's just that I came back home exhausted every night but I think I will go with ur advice

Hmm...instead of two adults to sit down and talk with the aim of sorting out their issues and getting to know each other more, they will be playing games upandan....

Why collecting feeding money, when you know you don't plan to cook? people committing 'thiefery' under the guise of protesting / passing across a message. Whenever she needs extra cash, all she has to do is to start vexing and pocketing soup money....lol

eniolorunfe:

Hmm...instead of two adults to sit down and talk with the aim of sorting out their issues and getting to know each other more, they will be playing games upandan....

Why collecting feeding money, when you know you don't plan to cook? people committing 'thiefery' under the guise of protesting / passing across a message. Whenever she needs extra cash, all she has to do is to start vexing and pocketing soup money....lol

No Be Africans Again

Buying food outside or ordering food from a friend won't resolve your issues. Try and figure out the underlying problem, and why she has chosen to use food as an attack strategy. Make her understand your displeasure and improve on your communication with your wife.

Meanwhile, the idea of dropping feeding allowance every morning is not a good idea. Make her a part of your finance. Unless the nature of your work does not permit you, it is better to give her a lump sum weekly, monthly or bimonthly. Daily feeding allowance is meant for children because they can't manage finance. Make your wife your manager and she will automatically begin to treat you like the CEO that you are.

dlawsamesq:
We had a little word exchange and she stopped cooking whenever I am around. I still drop feeding allowance every morning but now I am thinking of stopping. Advice needed

hmm it is well. one who has head dnt av cap. u dey try. u stil dey drop allowance,when some wunt even drop at all nd stil meet sumptious meals.

some women annoy me when i hear them taking their hubby for granted

op plz cal her attention to her sudden behavior nd resolve it. dnt stop doing ur responsibility.

dlawsamesq:
We had a little word exchange and she stopped cooking whenever I am around. I still drop feeding allowance every morning but now I am thinking of stopping. Advice needed

Why dropping feeding allowance every morning?
I think it is high time we discouraged this. It is better you make it monthly or bi-monthly.

I always give her money to buy food stuff monthly. the money I always drop is for running cost. She is not doing anything presently since she just put to bed so I made it my obligation to drop something daily to complement what I have given her already.

dlawsamesq:



I am a very good cook she knows that, it's just that I came back home exhausted every night but I think I will go with ur advice

As long as you guys love each other and want the marriage to work, everything will be fine.

Stop dropping feeding allowance and start cooking for yourself. She will threatened and willing to iron the underlying issues.

You didn't say anything about how you have tried to resolve the conflict.

thorpido:
You didn't say anything about how you have tried to resolve the conflict.

He didn't even say what the conflict was about.

What is the cause(s) of the problem(s)?

In any circumstances, responsible wife shouldn't starve her husband! It's pure evil. Let's call a spade a spade, that woman isn't acting normal. Old challenges demand new approaches, slash the feeding allowance into 2, go to good restaurant and feed your stomach. Don't even expect her food anymore.

When she's finally come to her senses, if she prepare you meal, don't eat it, reject her food for complete 5days, that way she'd realise that she has overstep her boundaries. What nonsense! There're numerous ways of protesting your displeasure, starving your husband ain't one of them.

Over pampered Adult. Nonsense!

Yes, Stop dropping feeding allowance. Her brain go sharpaly chop reset.

dlawsamesq:
I always give her money to buy food stuff monthly. the money I always drop is for running cost. She is not doing anything presently since she just put to bed so I made it my obligation to drop something daily to complement what I have given her already.

if this arrangement suits u as the head of the house,Pls continue

don't let anybody tell u how to run ur home.....na so dem go talk say monthly or quarterly like say all home front situations na same

ur wife is protesting....she knows u can cook so she's not punishing u

use something she likes to entice her so dat u guys can talk Abt the situation on ground

she's ur wife..u know her more

Just storm the kitchen man... and make sure u cook something.. that the aroma alone, Esau would be willing to sell his birth right the second time.. make sure after eating no left overs just to register your displeasure too..After eating the nice dish alone, you guys can reconcile

Op please I know her mode of protesting is childish but on behalf on her and other women acting same I say "we are sorry". But note, men are guilty of something " not saying I am sorry". You and your wife had a spat n you just put on your cloth and walk out only for you to come back and expect things to pick up just as before the fight. No its not done, when you come back call her and say I am sorry except if shez at fault ooo. Thanks for reading

Oyindidi:
Men think keeping the money is a punishment keep your money and see if she will die of hunger

women think if dey dnt cook we wld die

thanks to everyone... I am grateful for your advices.

nnamdiokere45:
women think if dey dnt cook we wld die

Lol, funny guy