Lilisticlili:
Children are blessings from God after marriage yes true but that is a layman understanding because modernised prostitues today under he guised of "slay mamas" have children without marriage but the married ones looks out for it.

So what's the main essence of having children as most people disagrees with it and prefare to live childless.



Happy children day to Lalasticlala amarabae

Lilisticlili:
Children are blessings from God after marriage yes true but that is a layman understanding because modernised prostitues today under he guised of "slay mamas" have children without marriage but the married ones looks out for it.

So what's the main essence of having children as most people disagrees with it and prefare to live childless.



Happy children day to Lalasticlala amarabae

Lilisticlili:
Children are blessings from God after marriage yes true but that is a layman understanding because modernised prostitues today under he guised of "slay mamas" have children without marriage but the married ones looks out for it.

So what's the main essence of having children as most people disagrees with it and prefare to live childless.



Happy children day to Lalasticlala amarabae

Lilisticlili:
Children are blessings

CHILDREN ARE TINY LITTLE PLEBS OF DISCOMFORT, FRUSTRATION, AND REGRETS.

UDUJ:



It is your personal choice whether you want to have one or not. Having a child, just because everyone has it, doesn't work. It is not just a new addition in your life. With a baby, comes a whole new set of responsibilities.[/b] Life would definitely not be the same anymore. Outings and expenditures would have to be worked around your baby. That's not all. [b]At every stage, there is a new set of challenges. When your child is a toddler you may have to run behind her/him to ensure safety, while later on their academic performances and personality development activities will keep you engaged. Basically, the child should be your prime focus.

If you ask my personal opinion, I would say why not. Why not explore the parent in you. After all, living to the full is also about exploring every aspect of life. From being a child to a sibling to a parent, you should live it all. So whenever you feel you are ready, you must have a child.


Let’s use this analogy:

Imagine you live in a nice, comfortable house. It has everything you need, is large enough and you have no desire to move elsewhere. You love your house and wouldn't mind spending the rest of your life at the same address.
There's one room in the house that's always locked. You've never used it and you don't foresee the need to use it. So you keep it locked forever.

You don't know what's behind that door. Your house is perfect just the way it is. You don't feel the need to open that door ever. You live happily in your house, blissfully unaware of what's in that locked room.

Let's say one day you do decide to open that door. You're uncertain - is this the right decision? Will it make my perfect house imperfect? What greets you behind that door blows your mind away. Is this for real? You lived in this house all these years with this perfect room that you never explored. You love the room. It seems the room loves you too.

You love spending each moment at home in that room you never explored, the room you never knew existed. You experience new feelings with an intensity that's beyond what you've ever felt before. That room becomes the most important room in the house.

The experience of having a child is somewhat similar. If you don't have one, you have no idea what you're missing. No one can “explain” the feeling of being a parent. You know it only when you have a child. Since you don't know what you're missing, you won't miss it.

But if you have a child, a whole new world opens up to you. You're so glad you opened that door. Once opened it can never be undone. Once you've experienced what it's like to have a child, you'll realize no other love can compare.

My 2 cents




UDUJ...I hope you are human. Too much wisdom. ...Perfect analogy..well said.

Lilisticlili:
Children are blessings from God after marriage yes true but that is a layman understanding because modernised prostitues today under he guised of "slay mamas" have children without marriage but the married ones looks out for it.

So what's the main essence of having children as most people disagrees with it and prefare to live childless.



Happy children day to Lalasticlala amarabae

Lilisticlili:
Children are blessings from God after marriage yes true but that is a layman understanding because modernised prostitues today under he guised of "slay mamas" have children without marriage but the married ones looks out for it.

So what's the main essence of having children as most people disagrees with it and prefare to live childless.



Happy children day to Lalasticlala amarabae

mistyebby:

UDUJ:

Thanks dear. I hope you're doing good!

Rubbiish:

Sir is that u @dp?

UDUJ:


Thanks dear. I hope you're doing good!

UDUJ:


Yes, why?

Rubbiish:

U really look like those America hip hop artist...like 50 cent, Lloyd banks & d likes...i am sure u are a hip hop fan...

Amarabae:

The decision to have a baby must be made when one is physically,emotionally etc ready.
Yes children are blessings.
They bring something unique into your life,
Mere looking at a child that comes out from your body as a woman is a wow feeling.
Children are unique.
Whether the child was born in marriage or before marriage,
For me, it doesn't matter,
I don't go about judging people's decision and choice.
Have a nice week dear

donstan18:


@Embolden.

That's not a layman understanding, but a baby mama's understanding.

Only a bitter woman who got pregnant out of wedlock will say that children aren't blessing. Only them.

A married woman can't say such.

ClimberG:


I don't know why some people feel single mothers are suffering, many single mothers are actually happy they are single when they see what married women go through on daily basis. The financially stable ones prefer to even remain single.

Infact there are a lot of aka 'married women' who are silently living like single mothers in their marital homes, lets be honest here. They basically take care of the kids alone and do the house chores plus school runs alone. Ontop of that, they now have to deal with a master that dictates and gives orders on how the home should be run. And you have to sacrifice your body for sex whether you like it or not cos its your marital obligation.

In naija, married mums and single mums are almost the same abegii. Naija women can cover up a lot ehhhh to protect their marriage, and its understandable. Only a few will open up and tell you the truth.

revolt:
is tht how ur mum n dad were or u ate..became fat, got dumped for a slim chic , you joined FIN, became a useless feminist?!!!!

ClimberG:


For the record, im a slim beautiful mistress/and single mother chopping the cash of a rich married man. And yes i am proud to say that i am mistress. You can go and hug a transformer if you like.

CAPSLOCKED:



CHILDREN ARE TINY LITTLE PLEBS OF DISCOMFORT, FRUSTRATION, AND REGRETS.

UDUJ:



It is your personal choice whether you want to have one or not. Having a child, just because everyone has it, doesn't work. It is not just a new addition in your life. With a baby, comes a whole new set of responsibilities.[/b] Life would definitely not be the same anymore. Outings and expenditures would have to be worked around your baby. That's not all. [b]At every stage, there is a new set of challenges. When your child is a toddler you may have to run behind her/him to ensure safety, while later on their academic performances and personality development activities will keep you engaged. Basically, the child should be your prime focus.

If you ask my personal opinion, I would say why not. Why not explore the parent in you. After all, living to the full is also about exploring every aspect of life. From being a child to a sibling to a parent, you should live it all. So whenever you feel you are ready, you must have a child.


Let’s use this analogy:

Imagine you live in a nice, comfortable house. It has everything you need, is large enough and you have no desire to move elsewhere. You love your house and wouldn't mind spending the rest of your life at the same address.
There's one room in the house that's always locked. You've never used it and you don't foresee the need to use it. So you keep it locked forever.

You don't know what's behind that door. Your house is perfect just the way it is. You don't feel the need to open that door ever. You live happily in your house, blissfully unaware of what's in that locked room.

Let's say one day you do decide to open that door. You're uncertain - is this the right decision? Will it make my perfect house imperfect? What greets you behind that door blows your mind away. Is this for real? You lived in this house all these years with this perfect room that you never explored. You love the room. It seems the room loves you too.

You love spending each moment at home in that room you never explored, the room you never knew existed. You experience new feelings with an intensity that's beyond what you've ever felt before. That room becomes the most important room in the house.

The experience of having a child is somewhat similar. If you don't have one, you have no idea what you're missing. No one can “explain” the feeling of being a parent. You know it only when you have a child. Since you don't know what you're missing, you won't miss it.

But if you have a child, a whole new world opens up to you. You're so glad you opened that door. Once opened it can never be undone. Once you've experienced what it's like to have a child, you'll realize no other love can compare.

My 2 cents