I've been with this girl for 4 years now, she has a young son who's 9 years, the baby daddy remarried.

She has always wanted me to marry her, but deep inside I don't think I can settle down with her.

I've been leading her on for these years, she tried to break off with me twice when she was drunk but it wasn't successful.

Now she wants to see my parents, my siblings, my friends... I've never introduced her to any of those. She knows where I live, but she doesn't have the keys to my place.

She is a good lady, she fell in love with me first. She gave me some sense of stability back then, I wish I were open with her from the start that I wasn't looking for something serious. I support her financially, I am able to manage that.

She keeps saying that she's getting older and I need to make up my mind to marry her but am not ready yet. I don't wanna tell her that for fear of hurting her. She will ask me why I didn't tell her the truth if I knew I was not in it fully?

How do I let her free without looking like I've been using her for all these years? Is there a soft landing here?

Perhaps she also wants out, how do I tell that she does?

Tell her you have HIV. Forge a lab result and show Her, she will do hers and it will show negative.. She will run from you forever and ever..

dingbang:
Tell her you have HIV. Forge a lab result and show Her, she will do hers and it will show negative.. She will run from you forever and ever..

Hahahahahahaha! This guy can kill somebody!

But sincerely OP, you’ve been very heartless. You led her on for 4 good years knowing that she was really hoping on you. There is no soft landing anywhere, tell her you cannot marry her so she can start looking for alternatives. But whatever action she takes against you, you deserve it for wasting her time

dingbang:
Tell her you have HIV. Forge a lab result and show Her, she will do hers and it will show negative.. She will run from you forever and ever..

Badt guy, am sure that would work...

9japrof:



Badt guy, am sure that would work...

1000percent bro.

If, after 4-years of dating, you don't want to settle down with her, you're never going to, which you already know. Be honest: tell her, and state the reason. If it's because she has a child or there's another reason, tell her. That way, with the next man she'll know the right questions to ask from the get-go or what to look out for just so she doesn't waste her time again! You owe her that much. The truth would set both of you free and allow you to find your own person, so don't lie, or sugar-coat it, or forge a lab result (dingbang, you no well ).

Quiescere:
If, after 4-years of dating, you don't want to settle down with her, you're never going to, which you already know. Be honest: tell her, and state the reason. If it's because she has a child or there's another reason, tell her. That way, with the next man she'll know the right questions to ask from the get-go or what to look out for just so she doesn't waste her time again! You owe her that much. The truth would set both of you free and allow you to find your own person, so don't lie, or sugar-coat it, or forge a lab result (dingbang, you no well ).

can you take me to Tanzania?

StPete:
But sincerely OP, you’ve been very heartless. You led her on for 4 good years knowing that she was really hoping on you. There is no soft landing anywhere, tell her you cannot marry her so she can start looking for alternatives. But whatever action she takes against you, you deserve it for wasting her time

Yeah, I'll be forced to come clean with her.

dingbang:
can you take me to Tanzania?

Sure, when are you ready to leave?! What country are you in right now? I hope your craze won't affect me fa?

Do you have your shots/vaccinations updated?

Quiescere:
Sure, when are you ready to leave?! What country are you in right now? I hope your craze won't affect me fa?

Do you have your shots/vaccinations updated?

urm this week Thursday I shall be ready, I'm in Nigeria , Naah I'm gentle so you don't get to worry about crazy.

As per the shots and vaccinations, are there any diseases in Tanzania?

dingbang:
urm this week Thursday I shall be ready, I'm in Nigeria , Naah I'm gentle so you don't get to worry about crazy.

As per the shots and vaccinations, are there any diseases in Tanzania?

Typhoid, Cholera, Hepatitis A and B, Malaria, Dengue, Yellow fever, Rabies, Influenza.

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Quiescere:
Typhoid, Cholera, Hepatitis A and B, Malaria, Dengue, Yellow fever, rabies, Influenza

but people are living there right? Nigeria also has these diseases so its not a problem.

dingbang:
]but people are living there right? Nigeria also has these diseases so its not a problem.

Yes, of course. 59,091,392 of them.

Yes, Nigeria does too.

Quiescere:

Yes, of course. 59,091,392 of them.

Yes, Nigeria does too.

still not afraid.. I really wana visit.

Quiescere:
Typhoid, Cholera, Hepatitis A and B, Malaria, Dengue, Yellow fever, Rabies, Influenza.

Come to Nairobi, I'll host you

Tompoi:
Come to Nairobi, I'll host you

Another wasted four years loading....

Tompoi:
Come to Nairobi, I'll host you

Another wasted four years loading

dingbang:
Tell her you have HIV. Forge a lab result and show Her, she will do hers and it will show negative.. She will run from you forever and ever..

The joke will be on him when she comes back with a positive result

virago:


The joke will be on him when she comes back with a positive result

then I know she slept with someone else.

virago:


Another wasted four years loading....

Lete virago nitombe

Op I must say you are heartless if u weren't serious from the start you would have made it known. you just want to hurt an innocent lady because of your dishonesty and selfishness. you just might end up ruining that girls life for good trust me and when u ready to settle down you will never get her type cos you said she is a good girl. BT since u ain't ready I won't suggest u force yourself tell her the truth she deserves it.... BT remember karma's a bitch

That is d problem with u guys. U don't wanna hurt her and u can't marry her, so what do u wanna do. After wasting her time. And when she comes to social media to look for Love , ur type will be like after she is done doing her runz. My case is Very similar. I just pray her heaven sent locate her asap

Tompoi:
I've been with this girl for 4 years now, she has a young son who's 9 years, the baby daddy remarried.

She has always wanted me to marry her, but deep inside I don't think I can settle down with her.

I've been leading her on for these years, she tried to break off with me twice when she was drunk but it wasn't successful.

Now she wants to see my parents, my siblings, my friends... I've never introduced her to any of those. She knows where I live, but she doesn't have the keys to my place.

She is a good lady, she fell in love with me first. She gave me some sense of stability back then, I wish I were open with her from the start that I wasn't looking for something serious. I support her financially, I am able to manage that.

She keeps saying that she's getting older and I need to make up my mind to marry her but am not ready yet. I don't wanna tell her that for fear of hurting her. She will ask me why I didn't tell her the truth if I knew I was not in it fully?

How do I let her free without looking like I've been using her for all these years? Is there a soft landing here?

Perhaps she also wants out, how do I tell that she does?