frozen70:
Children all the way
They are the least person that will brake your heart

MrBrownJay1:


you also do know that these same kids are the least that will stay with you forever (unlike a husband)... these kids would eventually leave you to go and live their own lives....

Mindfulness:


A husband can't leave or die?

And who takes care of people in old age, especially elderly women? Their late husbands? Last time I checked they die earlier.

MrBrownJay1:


yes they can just like a wife does.... but chances are that if someone will stay with you then thats the job of your husband, not your kids.



there is a huge difference between taking care of you in your old age, and being by your side til death do you part, like your husband would. but if you claim here that mothers should love their kids over their husband because they will be the ones taking care of them when husband is dead, then you sista have a wild imagination, to say the least!

disregard loving your husband PROPERLY at your own peril

MrBrownJay1:


you also do know that these same kids are the least that will stay with you forever (unlike a husband)... these kids would eventually leave you to go and live their own lives....

Godmother:
My child comes first with me, I can't help it. Haven carried her in my womb for nine months and formed that special bond with her, no other person comes close.

This doesn't mean my husband isn't important too o; he is. But if I had to choose between the two, I'd pick my child first.

TonyeBarcanista:

Women and double standard!

The same woman will cry blue murder that her husband's mother is too attached to him (not minding the fact that she as well carried him for 9 months, birthed him and nurtured him into an adult).

I will continue to say that any woman that complains about attachment of their MIL on her son, (woman's husband) is selfish, wicked, evil and despicable.

I don't expect a mother not to have less affection on her child even more than her husband, the love a mother has for her child is amazing. This is one reason every sane man must make their mother proud by showing her unregulated love and ensuring that no woman in the name of wife causes her sadness or tears.

frozen70:
Children all the way

They are the least person that will brake your heart

Godmother:


That one has grown naa. I'm talking about little kids. And any man that's too attached to his mom is a mommy's boy not fit to marry. QED

Godmother:
My child comes first with me, I can't help it. Haven carried her in my womb for nine months and formed that special bond with her, no other person comes close.

This doesn't mean my husband isn't important too o; he is. But if I had to choose between the two, I'd pick my child first.


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Acidosis:


You want your child to be "mummy's boy", but you don't want same bonding between your husband and his mother? Isn't this satanic in.sanity?

It is the same reason many married men today find love and affection elsewhere (side chick). I think women like you are their own problem.

Marriage is between a man and a woman, simple! MOGs who are fond of imposing children on newly weds through their amebo prayer points have also contributed to these stupidity. That you're married doesn't mean you must raise children! It is not a must to "hear the cry of a baby" 9 months after your wedding. It's a man made and somewhat satanic principle; a tool used in leading many families to depression.

jaszplus12:

oh yea?
let's suppose your hubby remains faithful I'm sure you'll feel good....
then ....let's suppose your children suddenly become criminals ...I'm sure your heart won't break!

frozen70:

Since you wish your children to be criminals So shall it be unto you

TonyeBarcanista:
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No problem!

I am a proud Mummy's boy and will proudly wear a badge to signify that!

Mizwisdom:



Lol, proud mummy boy. This shows your level of maturity, don't worry your future wife might be proud daddy's girl, perfect match

uvemi:
https://uvemi..com/

The question of who should be a woman’s number one priority, husband or children, has become somewhat of a "chicken or the egg" argument in parenting circles. Women seem to be split on the question; however it would seem that more women believe that children should come before their spouse.
Many women adamantly assert that their children are and should be their first priority. The argument goes something like this, “my children are my flesh and blood and they need their mother, my husband is more than capable of fending for himself.” Some will go so far as to say “husbands will come and go, but your children will be your children forever". Perhaps there is some truth to that, particularly in some countries where divorce has become so prevalent, but it certainly is not the ideal.
Certainly there is no doubt that children, at least up until a certain age, require more in the way of time, attention, and care, than a husband. And no one is suggesting that children be deprived or neglected. Children require not only material necessities from their parents but also a great deal of attention, love, and discipline.

Remember that a woman marries her husband and takes vows with him. Ideally a marriage is supposed to last a lifetime. Your children will be with you for perhaps 25 years before beginning a life of their own. Long after the children are gone, you and your husband will be together.
A big part of being a parent is modeling good behavior. Children learn most of what they know by watching mom and dad. Parents who model a loving, respectful, mutually supportive relationship are giving their children a huge gift and an incredible head start as they move forward towards adulthood. Another job of being a parent is to raise happy successful future adults. So whatever parents can do to keep their relationship strong and in tact is good for the child. If a mother were to consistently put her children before her husband there is a chance that the husband/wife relationship would suffer.

So what is the answer?
The answer, from the view of psychologists, is that when a man and woman marry they take a vow to one another and nothing should supersede the husband/wife relationship. When and if children come along then the parents are to love and nurture them but never put them above their spouse. The greatest gifts that a parent can give their children are parents who love, respect, and support one another. This is a gift that children will take with them forever.
So, a woman’s first priority should be her husband and together (husband and wife) the parent's priority is their children.

Source:
https://uvemi..com/2018/09/who-comes-first-husband-or-child.html

TonyeBarcanista:
And do I appear like one that cares about a young lady being Daddy's girl or not? In fact, if she is a daddy's girl sef will even be better and a welcome development.

Mizwisdom:


Good. When she places her dad above you, it will make you feel even better

TonyeBarcanista:

Women and double standard!

The same woman will cry blue murder that her husband's mother is too attached to him (not minding the fact that she as well carried him for 9 months, birthed him and nurtured him into an adult).

I will continue to say that any woman that complains about attachment of their MIL on her son, (woman's husband) is selfish, wicked, evil and despicable.

I don't expect a mother not to have less affection on her child even more than her husband, the love a mother has for her child is amazing. This is one reason every sane man must make their mother proud by showing her unregulated love and ensuring that no woman in the name of wife causes her sadness or tears.

bukatyne:


You have such strange view of MIL/ DIL relationships.

Ideally, if a MIL had a loving relationship with her husband, she would understand and encourage that her DIL comes first in her son's life because she enjoyed same.

She would be too busy with her husband / minding her businesses/church/ mosque/affilations and groups to be a pain in her DIL's neck.

Rather than men plan how they would ensure their wives take back seat in their own homes, let them imply their fathers to treat their mothers right.