African_queen:

Be best friends to your daughter. . . She'll open up

~Sissy~:

i will have a 'mother-daughter' talk with her if i haven't already

nawtiichic:

when i was 13 my dad walked in on me self-servicing lol! it was soo mortifying! i couldnt face him for weeks!! it really messed things up coz at some point he thought everytime i went out, i was out sleeping with men

~Sissy~:


i PREFER close-net mother-daughter relationship.

let her go out there and have best friends

dont really buy into all those "my mom is my best friend", "my daughter and I, were/are best friends" phrases

nawtiichic:

when i was 13 my dad walked in on me self-servicing lol! it was soo mortifying! i couldnt face him for weeks!! it really messed things up coz at some point he thought everytime i went out, i was out sleeping with men

African_queen:

Try it, its fun. . . She'll never want to hide anything from you

~Sissy~:

lai lai. she will still do. there are certain things you tell your friend that you wouldnt tell your mom and vice versa.

African_queen:

There are so many things I'll love to tell my mom but cos we're not close I turn to friends. So wit kids, its just how close we are to them. See my cosin is 17 now she doesn't hide anything from me but can't say a word to her mom cos she's scared of her reaction. Kids wants to look up to there mom but sometimes we scare them away. Don't push just try to be close to her as a friend, don't judge just listen. You'll see she'll tell u those things she tells her friend. Trust me when I say its fun

tEsLim:

Let it be no harm in it. She'll do it and then stop it. I mean out-grow it. When she start getting the real deal atleast. That wont be my problem with my sons as long as they dont do it publicly/iuncontrollablly. There are several things to worry about than you kids self-servicing. I rather have them self-service than bring home STD. Plus kids will never tell you when infected

MRbrownJAY:

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i want my kids to be able to talk to me about everything and if i should catch my daughter mast*urbating, i would first walk away BUT later have a discussion with her, telling her that what she did wasnt wrong but that she should never do it in the sitting room ever again and to lock her bedroom doors next time.
everybody experiment in some ways or another while growing up but i want to be looked upon as a friend (without forgetting the parent's respect) and let them ask me all the crazy questions on their minds rather than ask some silly brainless friends of theirs who probably has no clue.

nothing should be off limit, although a mother would be better suited/prepared with a daughter and vice versa!

African_queen:

Be best friends to your daughter. . . She'll open up

bawomolo:

what makes you think people outgrow self-service? wake up people.

spoilt:

I think her mother should have that discussion with her not you.
Not that a discussion is always needed. Why should 'catching' someone self servicing automatically warrant a talk? It is normal. No matter where you go to hide and get relief someone will definitely barge in , catch you and offer a talk. I tire.

davidylan:

lol could that be the reason girls here disrespect their mothers the minute they become teenagers? Best friend ko, husband ni.
There is a reason God made her your daughter rather than your younger sibling.

African_queen:

There are so many things I'll love to tell my mom but cos we're not close I turn to friends. So wit kids, its just how close we are to them. See my cosin is 17 now she doesn't hide anything from me but can't say a word to her mom cos she's scared of her reaction. Kids wants to look up to there mom but sometimes we scare them away. Don't push just try to be close to her as a friend, don't judge just listen. You'll see she'll tell u those things she tells her friend. Trust me when I say its fun

spoilt:

There's something a little creepy about a man discussing self-servicing with his daughter. Surely even if the man in question is a single parent there must be some positive female role models she can discuss issues with. Its already a sensitive and akward subject but if you insist go right ahead and watch her painfully cringe and wish the ground swallows her.  .  .  .  .  .  .  . 

francessn:
I dont know what parents are turning into these days, how can a child be masturbating and you think mere talking will stop it. I remember as a child, my mum used pepper on me and that was the end. I discovered that my 5 yr old was masturbating (don't know how long its been going on) I talked to him to stop. the same day I saw him doing the same, I got very angry and gave him the flogging of his life. he continued and I kept doing same and since then he has not tried it. I monitor him from time to time; he just turned 6. I Really Thank God I wonder what I would have done if it became a very uncontrollable habit.

francessn:
I dont know what parents are turning into these days, how can a child be masturbating and you think mere talking will stop it. I remember as a child, my mum used pepper on me and that was the end. I discovered that my 5 yr old was masturbating (don't know how long its been going on) I talked to him to stop. the same day I saw him doing the same, I got very angry and gave him the flogging of his life. he continued and I kept doing same and since then he has not tried it. I monitor him from time to time; he just turned 6. I Really Thank God I wonder what I would have done if it became a very uncontrollable habit.

desiree:


A child of 5 should know nothing about sexual release or sexual pleasure unless he is being abused. All he know is that touching his pee pee feels good and that is why he keeps doing it.

My 4 years old innocently touches himself and gets scared when his gets a" hard on" he comes running to me saying " my pee pee is growing". After that I had a good talk with him that the pee pee should remain in your pants and it is not a toy. Don't play with it and don't let anybody else play with it. He now understands the function of his organ.