I have been working really hard and saving some money, by may i gave my mum the money so she can help me buy stuff i can resell when the price skyrocket by dec, it is supposed to be an investment, when i resell those things I'll get like double of the money, whenever i come around and ask mum to show me those stuff i asked her to buy and keep, She'll tell me don't worry its safe, or she'll say don't you trust me, or she'll deflect and raise another topic, i trusted her so i just chill, until its time to sell it, i asked her about it and she started doing the same thing again, i got angry and insisted, only for me to realize she spent half of the money, to avoid doing something I'll regret i just left to a place where i can drink and think, she's like the only person i trusted, now this, what do i do?

Didn't your mum borrow money from you when you were growing up? Did she pay you back? You would have learned from that experience that business is not done with one's mother!
You just have to forgive her and count it as a bitter experience.
As a business man, if your mum wants to patronize you, it is advisable you cheat her and dash her money in return, she will appreciate that better than dashing her the product that she want to buy from you.

Nwodosis:

You don't understand?

Troubledmind:
You don't understand?

I've understood

Never do business with your friends & family members, else you won't be able to treat their fvck-ups when they err.

That said, tell your Mum that you have just consulted a Shango Priest - and that the Priest insisted you should first go & plead with her (your mum) to release the rest of the money before Shango is invoked.

OP, u want to tell me you dont know how to throw punch?

Try throwing some at ur mother and see if heavenly thunder straight from over the seventh heaven will not descend upon u and break all ur bones.

You just have to forgive and forget it and then DONT DO IT AGAIN

Besides, if ur mum is in debt, it will be good of u to help her out of it. So see that money she took as ur move to help her out and seek God's blessings and reward for that.

And remember to ask for the rest of thr money if u still need it.

Again, dont do that kind of business not only with mummy but with any family member and even close friends unless u are 100% asured it is well.

Now leave that bar where u are drinking. that is anothet foolish move. before u spend all the remaining money that u should manage over drinks.

Troubledmind:
I have been working really hard and saving some money, by may i gave my mum the money so she can help me buy stuff i can resell when the price skyrocket by dec, it is supposed to be an investment, when i resell those things I'll get like double of the money, whenever i come around and ask mum to show me those stuff i asked her to buy and keep, She'll tell me don't worry its safe, or she'll say don't you trust me, or she'll deflect and raise another topic, i trusted her so i just chill, until its time to sell it, i asked her about it and she started doing the same thing again, i got angry and insisted, only for me to realize she spent half of the money, to avoid doing something I'll regret i just left to a place where i can drink and think, she's like the only person i trusted, now this, what do i do?

I hope you didn’t make this story up.

You said she spent half of the money ? Good ! Go and collect the remaining half ASAP and never ! I repeat never do any business with her again .
My 10 kobo

Try and get over it quickly and learn a lesson from it.

Next time trust someone else or yourself alone as the case may be

46O1CE:

I hope you didn’t make this story up.

You said she spent half of the money ? Good ! Go and collect the remaining half ASAP and never ! I repeat never do any business with her again .
My 10 kobo

Its not made up, its something serious, if it was someone else all hell would've let loose.

ImaIma1:
Try and get over it quickly and learn a lesson from it.

Next time trust someone else or yourself alone as the case may be

So its now wrong to trust your mother?

Your mum has just betrayed your trust. Shame really, but unfortunately many people can't be trusted with money.
Just count that money as a loss, because im sure she will not return it. If she has bought the things you requested with the remaining half of the money, collect your things and tske it away. If she hasn't even bought it, collect your money immediately, before that one too disappears.
At least, you can confidently take her off the list of those you can trust and send money to in Nigeria, to help you with projects if you get to live abroad.

Troubledmind:
So its now wrong to trust your mother?

No it isn't. However, it doesn't mean that if he has money for an important project he should give it her again knowing she might spend it and he won't be able to react and it will jeopardize my he project.

It's just like my friend who lost her grandma (father's mum). They sent money for preparations plus for coffin to their dad. By the time they went for the burial, there was no coffin and a lot of things were not done. They had to do last minute fund raising. Will you advise them to trust their dad next time?

So to avoid stories, he should look for other alternatives.

ImaIma1:


No it isn't. However, it doesn't mean that if he has money for an important project he should give it her again knowing she might spend it and he won't be able to react and it will jeopardize my he project.

It's just like my friend who lost her grandma (father's mum). They sent money for preparations plus for coffin to their dad. By the time they went for the burial, there was no coffin and a lot of things were not done. They had to do last minute fund raising. Will you advise them to trust their dad next time?

So to avoid stories, he should look for other alternatives.

She hasn't done this before, and no one knows she's going to spend it, the money was given to her to help buy stuff for resale.

Troubledmind:
She hasn't done this before, and no one knows she's going to spend it, the money was given to her to help buy stuff for resale.

And you want to try it the second time? It is better you don't.If she can dip her hand into the money once, it is likely she will do it again... sentiments aside.

There are some people that will never touch money that is kept with them no matter how bad their situation is. They would rather call and request for money. Let's not be sentimental here. She was wrong to use out of the money. And you will be justified not to trust her with it again

I won’t sugarcoat my words.

Your mother is a very dubious individual. A liar, a cheat and a thief. If she could do this to her own child, she can do worse.

Be careful, a word is enough for the wise...

what your mum did was wrong. she placed her own selfish desire over your own well being. painfully, she deceived you making you think she's got the goods already.
if she was a role model to look up to, she would have told you earlier so you could know what to do. truth is, she is likely not to pay that money so do not expect it. count it as bad business ; collect the balance left and never trust her with money again.
she will try to blackmail you emotionally, but when it comes to money and business, shun her off. she's a cheat , a thief and a liar, yet she's your mother who probably love you most but she's selfish.
I have no problem with her using the money, but she never told you and made you believed she's got the goods and will often divert when you asked to see them. my dear that is fraud.

At times people we trusted most are the ones disappointing us, but for your mum to be the one behaving like this is more painful

I will advice you forgive her, for she is your mother.

Don't talk about it again with her and still be the loving son that you are to her

She has taught you a lesson never to trust anyone in a bitter way

Don't ever raise that issue or discuss it with anyone even your siblings because of family politics

When next you safe plan it your self and execute it your self to avoid losing trust on people

"When you build in silent, your enemies will not know what to attack"

Troubledmind:
She hasn't done this before, and no one knows she's going to spend it, the money was given to her to help buy stuff for resale.

lol. Mine did same to me though I actually wanted her to prove me wrong. I just knew.

Abeg go siddon. Is your mom bank?

Next time go get your stuff by yourself. She probably spent part of the half on you and your siblings.


Better go collect the half way dey with her before she use am prepare Sunday Stew.

Stew everywhere

Troubledmind:
I have been working really hard and saving some money, by may i gave my mum the money so she can help me buy stuff i can resell when the price skyrocket by dec, it is supposed to be an investment, when i resell those things I'll get like double of the money, whenever i come around and ask mum to show me those stuff i asked her to buy and keep, She'll tell me don't worry its safe, or she'll say don't you trust me, or she'll deflect and raise another topic, i trusted her so i just chill, until its time to sell it, i asked her about it and she started doing the same thing again, i got angry and insisted, only for me to realize she spent half of the money, to avoid doing something I'll regret i just left to a place where i can drink and think, she's like the only person i trusted, now this, what do i do?

End time mum

Collect what is left, learn your lesson and move on

It's ur mum so u can't do more than that