*THIS* *Is FOR Men ONLY* .
*WOMEN Should Not Read THIS*
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By Bola Adewara
Follow me @bolaadewara
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In these few years I have spent on this *terrestrial* divide, I have seen *how* life *treats* men, especially in their *old* *ages* .

I have seen *men* *work* , *labour* , *sweat* throughout their *youthful* lives on their *wives* and *children* and I have also *seen* how they *end* *up* . My *brother* , as you are working *hard* to *train* your *children* and to make your *wife* proud, don't *forget* to have *something* for *yourself* for your old age. May you not be *begging* your *children* to *eat* in your *old* age.

Remember, *women* can be *jumping* from one *son's* house to another *daughter's* house. Not so for *men* .

Can I *tell* you a *truth* ? You are a *stranger* in that *family* you call *yours* today. That house you *struggled* to *build* is not *yours* . Its for your *wife* and the *children* ! Seriously!

A *friend* sent me a *story* recently. Let me *quote* him here: "My *grandfather* told me that a *married* *man* is like a *tractor* that *builds* a *road* , does it very *nicely* but when the *road* is *completed* , they bring a *pay* *loader* and carry the *tractor* away, *claiming* it will *spoil* the *road* ! That *tractor* is never *allowed* to *step* on the *road* it *built* !

" *Same* is the *case* of we *married* *men* . We *deny* ourselves, get *loans* , *wear* used *clothes* , etc, to *see* our *children* through high *schools* , *universities* , etc because we *believe* that the only *gift* we can *give* them is *quality* *education* . When they are *old* *enough* , the *fathers* often become *dispensable* . The *attention* of the *children* *shift* to their *mothers* . *May* *be* these mothers *poison* their *minds* *against* their *fathers* , who *knows* ? You *hear* a *typical* *mother* use *languages* like ...
"If it *wasn't* for me, you *wouldn't* have *gone* to *school* .
"I *sold* all my *gold* , *trinkets* , *wrappers* to *send* you to *school* .
"Your *father* was only *interested* in *alcohol* and *women* while I *suffered* to pay your *fees* !"
(Now the *tractor* that *built* the *road* is being *carried* away!)

" *Once* the *child* starts *working* , *father* could have *retired* . When *he* come *visiting* his *parents* , the poor *father* is *given* *N5k* in front of the *mother* , while the *mother* *pulls* him to the *kitchen* to collect *50* *times* what father *got* ... and the *father* doesn't *know* what mother *got* !

" *Once* the child *drives* off, the father is *told* to bring *money* from his *pittance* to *buy* *this* and *that* , buy *sugar* to prepare *Lipton* unless he wants to *drink* *sugarless* *tea* ! These are some of the *reasons* men *die* early!

"A mother *flies* *abroad* to *visit* her *children* or go do *Omugor* while the father *sits* at *home* , *buying* and *eating* bread and *ewa* *agonyin* every *morning* ! *Six* months, the *mother* is *abroad* doing *Omugor* . She *comes* back home *fresh* to meet father *licking* palm *oil* in *ewa* *agonyin* !"

I *warn* you, my *brother* . Nature *does* not *smile* on *old* men *who* did not *cater* for their *old* ages when they were *young* .

*Build* your own *house* where you will *live* in your *old* *age* .

*Build* businesses that will *feed* you in *your* *old* *age* .
*Create* *conveniences* that will *engage* you in your *old* *age* .
*Build* *friendship* and *goodwill* that will *serve* you in your *old* *age* .
*Right* *now* , *start* to be *relevant* in your *mosque* or *Church* and *community* so you could be *reckoned* with in your old age.

* *Old* age could be very *lonely* and *agonising* for *men* who did not *plan* for it.
* *May* you not *become* a *liability* on your *children* in your *old* *age* .
* *May* your *children* not *wish* you an *early* *death* when they *can't* *manage* you again in your *old* *age* .
An *old* *age* without *penny* in your *pock


*THIS* *IS* *FOR* *MEN* *ONLY* .
*WOMEN* *SHOULD* *NOT* *READ* *THIS*
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By Bola Adewara
Follow me @bolaadewara
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.
In these few years I have spent on this *terrestrial* divide, I have seen *how* life *treats* men, especially in their *old* *ages* .

I have seen *men* *work* , *labour* , *sweat* throughout their *youthful* lives on their *wives* and *children* and I have also *seen* how they *end* *up* . My *brother* , as you are working *hard* to *train* your *children* and to make your *wife* proud, don't *forget* to have *something* for *yourself* for your old age. May you not be *begging* your *children* to *eat* in your *old* age.

Remember, *women* can be *jumping* from one *son's* house to another *daughter's* house. Not so for *men* .

Can I *tell* you a *truth* ? You are a *stranger* in that *family* you call *yours* today. That house you *struggled* to *build* is not *yours* . Its for your *wife* and the *children* ! Seriously!

A *friend* sent me a *story* recently. Let me *quote* him here: "My *grandfather* told me that a *married* *man* is like a *tractor* that *builds* a *road* , does it very *nicely* but when the *road* is *completed* , they bring a *pay* *loader* and carry the *tractor* away, *claiming* it will *spoil* the *road* ! That *tractor* is never *allowed* to *step* on the *road* it *built* !

" *Same* is the *case* of we *married* *men* . We *deny* ourselves, get *loans* , *wear* used *clothes* , etc, to *see* our *children* through high *schools* , *universities* , etc because we *believe* that the only *gift* we can *give* them is *quality* *education* . When they are *old* *enough* , the *fathers* often become *dispensable* . The *attention* of the *children* *shift* to their *mothers* . *May* *be* these mothers *poison* their *minds* *against* their *fathers* , who *knows* ? You *hear* a *typical* *mother* use *languages* like ...
"If it *wasn't* for me, you *wouldn't* have *gone* to *school* .
"I *sold* all my *gold* , *trinkets* , *wrappers* to *send* you to *school* .
"Your *father* was only *interested* in *alcohol* and *women* while I *suffered* to pay your *fees* !"
(Now the *tractor* that *built* the *road* is being *carried* away!)

" *Once* the *child* starts *working* , *father* could have *retired* . When *he* come *visiting* his *parents* , the poor *father* is *given* *N5k* in front of the *mother* , while the *mother* *pulls* him to the *kitchen* to collect *50* *times* what father *got* ... and the *father* doesn't *know* what mother *got* !

" *Once* the child *drives* off, the father is *told* to bring *money* from his *pittance* to *buy* *this* and *that* , buy *sugar* to prepare *Lipton* unless he wants to *drink* *sugarless* *tea* ! These are some of the *reasons* men *die* early!

"A mother *flies* *abroad* to *visit* her *children* or go do *Omugor* while the father *sits* at *home* , *buying* and *eating* bread and *ewa* *agonyin* every *morning* ! *Six* months, the *mother* is *abroad* doing *Omugor* . She *comes* back home *fresh* to meet father *licking* palm *oil* in *ewa* *agonyin* !"

I *warn* you, my *brother* . Nature *does* not *smile* on *old* men *who* did not *cater* for their *old* ages when they were *young* .

*Build* your own *house* where you will *live* in your *old* *age* .

*Build* businesses that will *feed* you in *your* *old* *age* .
*Create* *conveniences* that will *engage* you in your *old* *age* .
*Build* *friendship* and *goodwill* that will *serve* you in your *old* *age* .
*Right* *now* , *start* to be *relevant* in your *mosque* or *Church* and *community* so you could be *reckoned* with in your old age.

* *Old* age could be very *lonely* and *agonising* for *men* who did not *plan* for it.
* *May* you not *become* a *liability* on your *children* in your *old* *age* .
* *May* your *children* not *wish* you an *early* *death* when they *can't* *manage* you again in your *old* *age* .
An *old* *age* without *penny* in your *pock

*THIS* *IS* *FOR* *MEN* *ONLY* .
*WOMEN* *SHOULD* *NOT* *READ* *THIS*
.
By Bola Adewara
Follow me @bolaadewara
.
.
In these few years I have spent on this *terrestrial* divide, I have seen *how* life *treats* men, especially in their *old* *ages* .

I have seen *men* *work* , *labour* , *sweat* throughout their *youthful* lives on their *wives* and *children* and I have also *seen* how they *end* *up* . My *brother* , as you are working *hard* to *train* your *children* and to make your *wife* proud, don't *forget* to have *something* for *yourself* for your old age. May you not be *begging* your *children* to *eat* in your *old* age.

Remember, *women* can be *jumping* from one *son's* house to another *daughter's* house. Not so for *men* .

Can I *tell* you a *truth* ? You are a *stranger* in that *family* you call *yours* today. That house you *struggled* to *build* is not *yours* . Its for your *wife* and the *children* ! Seriously!

A *friend* sent me a *story* recently. Let me *quote* him here: "My *grandfather* told me that a *married* *man* is like a *tractor* that *builds* a *road* , does it very *nicely* but when the *road* is *completed* , they bring a *pay* *loader* and carry the *tractor* away, *claiming* it will *spoil* the *road* ! That *tractor* is never *allowed* to *step* on the *road* it *built* !

" *Same* is the *case* of we *married* *men* . We *deny* ourselves, get *loans* , *wear* used *clothes* , etc, to *see* our *children* through high *schools* , *universities* , etc because we *believe* that the only *gift* we can *give* them is *quality* *education* . When they are *old* *enough* , the *fathers* often become *dispensable* . The *attention* of the *children* *shift* to their *mothers* . *May* *be* these mothers *poison* their *minds* *against* their *fathers* , who *knows* ? You *hear* a *typical* *mother* use *languages* like ...
"If it *wasn't* for me, you *wouldn't* have *gone* to *school* .
"I *sold* all my *gold* , *trinkets* , *wrappers* to *send* you to *school* .
"Your *father* was only *interested* in *alcohol* and *women* while I *suffered* to pay your *fees* !"
(Now the *tractor* that *built* the *road* is being *carried* away!)

" *Once* the *child* starts *working* , *father* could have *retired* . When *he* come *visiting* his *parents* , the poor *father* is *given* *N5k* in front of the *mother* , while the *mother* *pulls* him to the *kitchen* to collect *50* *times* what father *got* ... and the *father* doesn't *know* what mother *got* !

" *Once* the child *drives* off, the father is *told* to bring *money* from his *pittance* to *buy* *this* and *that* , buy *sugar* to prepare *Lipton* unless he wants to *drink* *sugarless* *tea* ! These are some of the *reasons* men *die* early!

"A mother *flies* *abroad* to *visit* her *children* or go do *Omugor* while the father *sits* at *home* , *buying* and *eating* bread and *ewa* *agonyin* every *morning* ! *Six* months, the *mother* is *abroad* doing *Omugor* . She *comes* back home *fresh* to meet father *licking* palm *oil* in *ewa* *agonyin* !"

I *warn* you, my *brother* . Nature *does* not *smile* on *old* men *who* did not *cater* for their *old* ages when they were *young* .

*Build* your own *house* where you will *live* in your *old* *age* .

*Build* businesses that will *feed* you in *your* *old* *age* .
*Create* *conveniences* that will *engage* you in your *old* *age* .
*Build* *friendship* and *goodwill* that will *serve* you in your *old* *age* .
*Right* *now* , *start* to be *relevant* in your *mosque* or *Church* and *community* so you could be *reckoned* with in your old age.

* *Old* age could be very *lonely* and *agonising* for *men* who did not *plan* for it.
* *May* you not *become* a *liability* on your *children* in your *old* *age* .
* *May* your *children* not *wish* you an *early* *death* when they *can't* *manage* you again in your *old* *age* .
An *old* *age* without *penny* in your *pock

Insightful. Lalasticlala, please move to front page.

Sad and interesting.

Facts bruh.
Always make sure you have something for yourself.

They are indeed the facts!
But life must go on.

When men are young are “flexing”, they forget they will get old, feeble and grey. It pays to build a strong family with love, respect and hard work.

Word!

Build your life
Build your future
Make yourself the center of your own world
Don't fall for societal scam called living to please a woman even at the expense of your immediate and future happiness.
Love your kids but ensure they aren't poisoned to love you less and make it a duty to show them how much you love them
Enjoy your youth
If possible, join clubs and associations that are elite (but not a secret cult), this will come handy when you hit middle age...
Ensure you build sustainable wealth around you that will outlive your active service years.

During the middle age, the women are mostly lonely, their one-time lover and best friend become a lover to another younger woman, the man abandons the woman emotionally, he philanders about and in most cases leaves home for his wife and move in with another younger woman. During this period, the woman is lonely and heartbroken, she becomes a shadow of herself all because she has made a lot of sacrifice for the marriage but the man threw all away.
Now the same woman has her kids around her, she nurtures them and grooms them to her own taste, the man is never present, many dads even find it hard to tell their kids how much they love them, tell me how you expect the child to know whom she hardly sees.
Kids naturally grow closer to whoever nurtures them, don't tell me the man goes out to make money for the family, there are many working-class women, they provide for the family yet nurture the kids, they are not superhumans, are they?
A man that could hardly boil water for himself when he was younger would now be the one to go for omugwo? Oya na, hit the road and go live with your daughter or daughter in law so you can help her change diaper for her babies.

Live right in your youth, treat your wife and kids well then watch what happens later in your old age.

Many men will be abandoned in old age cos they invested their useful lives in women and drinks.

Whatever you sow, you shall reap.

Quite insightful.

carammel:
During the middle age, the women are mostly lonely

Live right in your youth, treat your wife and kids well then watch what happens later in your old age.

Carammel eh! So is this a valid justification for how men are treated in their old age?

Man cannot boil water and is insensitive and what not and dont treat their women right, how did you come to this assertions sef?

All those thing you wrote up there just smells of bias for the women folk.

Anyways how are you?

Send your kids to boarding schools as soon as they clock 7 or 8 and you would never have this kind of problem.

Mursz:


Carammel eh! So is this a valid justification for how men are treated in their old age?

Man cannot boil water and is insensitive and what not and dont treat their women right, how did you come to this assertions sef?

All those thing you wrote up there just smells of bias for the women folk.

Anyways how are you?

It is not a justification but simple logic, the parent that takes care of the child better, gives her attention and support is whom she will always recognize, it could be the father or the mother. We have seen many cases of kids who take care of their step-moms better than their moms simply because the mom was never there but the step mom was.
We all know that men wander during their middle age thereby leaving the woman to shoulder most responsibilities on the children, tell me how such child would later know the father better than the mother.

I'm good, yourself?

This is like the most factual thread I av read in a long time on niaraland.

Meanwhile, how come you wrote with asterisk, it messed up a fantastic write up..

The truth is, work hard, give ur family a good lif, but never loose yourself.. enjoy urself, invest in your future

Regardless of whether or not who your children give money more (of course they will give your wife esp if she never actually financially relevant).
A man must ALWAYS plan to never be destitute in his old age.

In fact make fun and lovingly let your children know early that the highlight of your years will be when they all leave your house so you can flex and they can leave you alone. Both women and children alike (especially adult female children) treat the fathers as ATM. A man will always be subject to that "I don't care where he finds money but he should go and find" attitude from the women in his life.

The current 100% parental support thing is something that can still happen in this generation as per you know, a lot of folks parents in village, but as of next generation...if you are an urban hussler, your issue should not be about which of your children will give you garri today. THEY should be receiving inheritance from you.

Plan well.