Let me quickly tell you about three types of people we must meet in life but should not ignorantly conclude that they are all friends. The first are comrades.

COMRADES
They are those who came into our lives because we have a common enemy to fight, a common mountain to bring low. In the last general election, many people in Nigeria formed alliance just to bring down the ruling party. It is fatal to acknowledge comrades as friends. Imagine a cancer patient and a nurse falling in love. Their common enemy is cancer and there is no relationship between them beyond what cancer created. If as a cheated partner you meet another partner that was cheated, you may think that because both of you bond very well in the quagmire of self pity that it is love.

Here this, reality will teach you with time that you are dreaming. Are there not people that came to our lives and after executing a project together, achieving a great feat, ; they left, leaving us with the expression "i thought we are in this together"? Don't mistake people that are around you just for a vision, goal or dream for friends. They are colleagues, business partners and anything other than friends.
Many people in the church are comrades, they don't care to know why you didn't come for the Sunday school, choir rehearsals or band practice. As long as you are attending, they are cool with you but don't care how you survive coping with the church schedules sometimes.
Let's be honest, there are moments we don't feel like coming to church because of a disturbing challenge, a problem that has lingered. If you expect comrades to find out how you are really faring, honestly you will hit the rock. Comrades will say you are proud and saucy when in reality you want the soft touch and tender love of someone who really cares.

CONSTITUENTS
They are those people that are in your life just because of where you are going. They came into your life because both of you are going to the same destination. Its like passengers on a plane or bus, they are not in the vehicle because they love the driver but because they believe that the driver can take them to their destination. These friends will definitely leave your life which is a car when they see a car that can take them to were they are going faster. As employees in the labor market, we do that to our employers incessantly. Are there not people we call friends that neglect us when they get to know someone who seems to be better off?

Many relationships get ruined because a partner met someone richer, prettier/more handsome, smarter or more educated.
We see constituents in all spheres of all, ambitious people forget their promises because a supposed greener pasture is in sight. Many young people miss covenant partners, unique destiny miracles because of the constituents mindset. The window of marriage opportunity has shut down for many ladies because they left a sincere guy for a wealthy one who later disappointed them.

CONFIDANTS
Your confidants are those you can call friends. They will know that you are not always as good as you appear but will not betray your public image. Your confidants loves you not for your performance but your person. You don't need to impress them for them to stay. Even when it seems like there is nothing new your life is producing, they will stick to you. You may hurt them thinking they will go but they will remain because there is something beyond human explanation tying both of you together. You will offend them and when you are apologizing, because they know that you never intended to hurt them, they will tell you to forget about it that its past tense already.

Your confidants don't walk out of your life because they know that they are indispensable to you or vice versa. Many people walk out of our lives because they think we can't survive them. Real friends don't do that. Real friends don't hide secrets from each other.

John 15:15 (KJV) Henceforth I call you not servants; for the servant knoweth not what his lord doeth: but I have called you friends; for all things that I have heard of my Father I have made known unto you.

Anyone that calls you a friend and has not told you deep things about his/her life, don't take them serious. If while you are talking with a friend; he/she doesn't pause once in a while to tell you classified information about his/herself, guy you are on your own o. A word of caution here: Someone that has not committed him/herself to you in care, love, time, attention or investment must not know your secrets. Secrets in the intelligence community is called classified information. Don't give someone who is not really committed to you access to your classified information. If you tell someone things commitment has not qualified him to know in the name of relationship, you will regret it some day. Ladies be warned.
Benneth Godson Azubuike...