DaBogu:
Man tells woman he doesn't want the pregnancy early enough.
Woman still decides to keep it anyway thinking that he will change his mind. Man doesn't acknowledge the existence of the child.
Woman causes a public scene and drags man's relatives into the matter

We keep forgetting that Nigeria is not known to have a strong child support policy for single mothers. I've never heard of a single case. If there was, we can easily enforce compliance on the side of the man , whether he wants the child or not.

Knowing that the policy is unlikely to be enforced anytime soon, many women will always be at the receiving end of negligent baby daddies. History has proven this.

bukatyne:


Let me understand you well.

A man and woman have unprotected sex and lady gets pregnant. She decides to keep the baby even when the father is not in support. She should get child support once the man is confirmed the father. Ok! The child support is a punitive measure (i.e. he loses the control of his funds) in that the father should have been responsible to use protection if he did not want a child.

Let's flip the narrative:

The man wants the baby while the woman insists on aborting it. What should be the punitive measure? We can also argue that she should have used protection if she did not want the child.


A woman would be at the receiving end if the man doesn't want the baby and absconds. Here, she wants the child.
A man would be at the receiving end if the woman doesn't want the baby and abort it. Here, he wants the child.

My point?

If he want to force men to pay child support whether they want the children or not, we must force the women to carry the babies to term whether they want the children or not.

pandv:
some men are wicked

Houseofglam7:
OP,your problems are MANY

DaBogu:
Some guys need to hear this?
Before you impress your girlfriend, make sure your mother is not starving at home.

DaBogu:
Man tells woman he doesn't want the pregnancy early enough.
Woman still decides to keep it anyway thinking that he will change his mind. Man doesn't acknowledge the existence of the child.
Woman causes a public scene and drags man's relatives into the matter

We keep forgetting that Nigeria is not known to have a strong child support policy for single mothers. I've never heard of a single case. If there was, we can easily enforce compliance on the side of the man , whether he wants the child or not.

Knowing that the policy is unlikely to be enforced anytime soon, many women will always be at the receiving end of negligent baby daddies. History has proven this.

DaBogu:
Man tells woman he doesn't want the pregnancy early enough.
Woman still decides to keep it anyway thinking that he will change his mind. Man doesn't acknowledge the existence of the child.
Woman causes a public scene and drags man's relatives into the matter

We keep forgetting that Nigeria is not known to have a strong child support policy for single mothers. I've never heard of a single case. If there was, we can easily enforce compliance on the side of the man , whether he wants the child or not.

Knowing that the policy is unlikely to be enforced anytime soon, many women will always be at the receiving end of negligent baby daddies. History has proven this.

Fountainofyouth:
My own question is this, how does a man think, knowing he has a child somewhere, but chose to not pay for upkeep and all, then come back years later to claim the child when he/she is fully grown, is that not stupidity in the highest order? won't his conscience prick him knowing he never had a hand in the child's welfare? Doesn't he have no shame? A man MUST pay for child support even if he never wanted the child in the first place, for posterity's sake.

Houseofglam7:
OP,your problems are MANY