celeb4reallife:
How can you handle a case of rape between the man of the house (a husband) and the wife's little cousin of 13years old? What's the best approach to this?

Note: noone is aware except the wife.
It's between the three of them.
If you're in this shoes, what would you do?

Will you quitly go and drop the little girl in the village after your husband has appologied and promise not to do that again?

What would you advise?

Richy4:


Any one that does that is an animal that doesn't deserve to live with human... 13year old is still a toddler..... what did he see in a 13 year old? Anyways, Former Zamfara state Governor has set a precedent for his likes to follow.. So, It's not a new thing.. but the wife should know that she might possibly have a daughter some day if she remains quiet...

celeb4reallife:

What's the best step to take here? Taking her husband to police or what's the right measure?

celeb4reallife:
How can you handle a case of rape between the man of the house (a husband) and the wife's little cousin of 13years old? What's the best approach to this?

Note: noone is aware except the wife.
It's between the three of them.
If you're in this shoes, what would you do?

Will you quitly go and drop the little girl in the village after your husband has appologied and promise not to do that again?

What would you advise?

tritritri:



My sister do better shopping for the girl, Drop her back. if ur husband act remorse let the matter go for a while, reflect on what happen and the cause, if dis was his only mistake ...u might forgive him, but if he's a womanizer then talk to ur pastor or elder .

people will give u advise because dey dnt knw u.or dey dnt care the outcome, but if it happens to dere relatives it a different advise.

celeb4reallife:

What's the best step to take here? Taking her husband to police or what's the right measure?

easyconnect:

I don't agree with this one at all.
You mean if your husband rape a 13years old child in your home, the best Thing for you to do is to do better shopping for her and go and drop her? What happens to the the girl's emotion, self confidence? Why would everything be all about your man and how to keep your marriage?

tritritri:



honestly i would suggest you drop ur own advice , Make sure it the same advice you will give your sister ,

So if ur brother involve in arm robbery , U will report him to police or u will warn him to stop ?

dis r people's family here. and before you respond back, From ur childhood till now u've never seen robbering / fraud / rape /molestation /corruption in ur own family , how many u dan do needful ?

Na una type me Femi Fani-Kayode , falana , once a situation benefit dem..dey kip quiet...once it doesn't...they turn activist

celeb4reallife:

What's the best step to take here? Taking her husband to police or what's the right measure?

tritritri:



My sister do better shopping for the girl, Drop her back. if ur husband act remorse let the matter go for a while, reflect on what happen and the cause, if dis was his only mistake ...u might forgive him, but if he's a womanizer then talk to ur pastor or elder .

people will give u advise because dey dnt knw u.or dey dnt care the outcome, but if it happens to dere relatives it a different advise.

nams77:

Just look at how insensitive you and the op is. Just think if it was your13 year old daughter that was manhandled, mangled and defiled by a beast in man clothing, won't you be baying for blood and looking for how to cut off the testicles of the mor,on that did that?
Smh

easyconnect:

The husband is guilty just like every other man who rape a child. The woman should do the needful.

tritritri:



My sister do better shopping for the girl, Drop her back. if ur husband act remorse let the matter go for a while, reflect on what happen and the cause, if dis was his only mistake ...u might forgive him, but if he's a womanizer then talk to ur pastor or elder .

people will give u advise because dey dnt knw u.or dey dnt care the outcome, but if it happens to dere relatives it a different advise.

nams77:

Just look at how insensitive you and the op is. Just think if it was your13 year old daughter that was manhandled, mangled and defiled by a beast in man clothing, won't you be baying for blood and looking for how to cut off the testicles of the mor,on that did that?
Smh

tritritri:




Drop your own advice..We all cant have the same view of life. ( dont let us start argument on someone thread )


Answer my question..

Who are the people BAILING rapist, Murderer , Arm robbers , ritualist , 419 out of police station?

who are those paying police commission to cover up crime and murder ... the same Nigerians ..

but dey will come ONLINE and point fingers at others who does d same .

How many of U have reported your father/mother/Brother to police for battery , Abi una papa no dey slap una mama or ur brothers no dey commot blood from ur body..?

But if same thin happens to someone and he ask for advise very easy to refer them to police.

Una sister olosho.dating married man/double dating ..what av u'all done ? abi no be d nigeria wey 80% women na money for hand back for ground ? what step una dan take? almost each family for Nigeria get 1 fraudster or yahoo...how many una dan report to efcc ?

some of u've families in police/lawyer/judge/Dr/ , taken bribe , and selling justice ,acting nonchalant and constituting inhuman act to the society

Have u ever done the needful ?

I have giving my advice , U should give urs..Dont counter my advice . 95% of una are part of the society which is decay .

The same people dat will go to church every sunday but from monday-friday are full of wickedness will come online to say otherwise.

If ALL of you knws the right thing to do Online Why is our country full of wickedness and inhuman act and selling justice abi no be our parent dey do those?

I hate pretenders.

tritritri:




Drop your own advice..We all cant have the same view of life. ( dont let us start argument on someone thread )


Answer my question..

Who are the people BAILING rapist, Murderer , Arm robbers , ritualist , 419 out of police station?

who are those paying police commission to cover up crime and murder ... the same Nigerians ..

but dey will come ONLINE and point fingers at others who does d same .

How many of U have reported your father/mother/Brother to police for battery , Abi una papa no dey slap una mama or ur brothers no dey commot blood from ur body..?

But if same thin happens to someone and he ask for advise very easy to refer them to police.

Una sister olosho.dating married man/double dating ..what av u'all done ? abi no be d nigeria wey 80% women na money for hand back for ground ? what step una dan take? almost each family for Nigeria get 1 fraudster or yahoo...how many una dan report to efcc ?

some of u've families in police/lawyer/judge/Dr/ , taken bribe , and selling justice ,acting nonchalant and constituting inhuman act to the society

Have u ever done the needful ?

I have giving my advice , U should give urs..Dont counter my advice . 95% of una are part of the society which is decay .

The same people dat will go to church every sunday but from monday-friday are full of wickedness will come online to say otherwise.

If ALL of you knws the right thing to do Online Why is our country full of wickedness and inhuman act and selling justice abi no be our parent dey do those?

I hate pretenders.

celeb4reallife:

You have a point. I understand you correctly. I know it's difficult to speak justice when it really concerns us and our family/loved ones.


But inorder to stand for justice, I think we need to put ourselves in other people's shoes. My opinion though.

celeb4reallife:

What do you mean by insensitive? Do you think I'm in support? I'm right on the poor girl side.

Xchangemadeeasy:
The question you should be asking is, what would you do if that cousin of yours is your child? A man that can stoop that low, then a fifteen year old daughter is not spared.

A 13 year old girl is a child for crying out loud. Me trying to imagine it alone is disgusting...

While this matter is not a public matter because of the shame it will bring to the family, I say protect the child first by taking her back to where she came from and then be on the look out for your own daughter or someone else's daughter as the reason why it can be quietly handled is because its within the family should it have been a neighbour or outsider, he would have been roasted on the front page of Nairaland.

Finally, be on the look out because what you are doing today in real sense is a cover up in which will eventually come out maybe in your lifetime or leaving it for your own children to carry and at that time, your own punishment for the cover up will be more than the man who brought the shame upon his family...

tritritri:



My sister do better shopping for the girl, Drop her back. if ur husband act remorse let the matter go for a while, reflect on what happen and the cause, if dis was his only mistake ...u might forgive him, but if he's a womanizer then talk to ur pastor or elder .

people will give u advise because dey dnt knw u.or dey dnt care the outcome, but if it happens to dere relatives it a different advise.

nams77:

You hate pretenders but i hate stewpid people. I pray your child encounter such evil

Dont bother to reply as i won't dignify you with a response as this one above will suffice.

My people say if something is wrong, you point it out

tritritri:



My sister do better shopping for the girl, Drop her back. if ur husband act remorse let the matter go for a while, reflect on what happen and the cause, if dis was his only mistake ...u might forgive him, but if he's a womanizer then talk to ur pastor or elder .

people will give u advise because dey dnt knw u.or dey dnt care the outcome, but if it happens to dere relatives it a different advise.

tyosho:


Please answer the question-If your 13 year daughter is raped by a family member,what would you do?

tritritri:




@celeb4reallife , What is the difference btw the above advice and mine ??

celeb4reallife:
I understand your point. When it's a family thing, the judgement becomes so difficult to handle.

The poor girl has been relocated to my family house. She now live with us.

The few family members who are aware now, really felt sad the mother have been crying. I wish her father was alive.

They've decided to handle the matter to God, but I wish I can hand it over to the law as well.

MariaLavina:
This is serious and confusing but one thing is certain, I will never cover that man up. I will do everything necessary to ensure the girl is healed psychology and physical wise with professional and her parental help.

It is difficult no doubt but the right thing must be done.

If you were married to such a man, you won't cover him up?

izzou:


If you were married to such a man, you won't cover him up?

MariaLavina:
I won't. But I will be there for him, whatever comes we shall face together but I won't cover him up.It's dangerous, plus he has to learn.