me I want to get married in two months ahead, but I can only afford traditional wedding alone, but her parents insist I must do all, but I can only afford traditional wedding and wife to be is supporting me, but her parents refuse.

Pulse with the wedding then.

madridguy:
Pulse with the wedding then.

. I don't get you please

Make them understand you don't have the power to finance a western/white wedding. If they insist, they should fund it.

Josephilemona:
.
I don't get you please

He meant postpone it or cancel it

What manner of parents are they?

Should they be more concerned about the ceremony or the actual marriage itself?

Guy, if they no gree.....just get her pregnant. Na dem go beg las las

Traditional wedding combined with registry is better...Explain better to the bride's family. But if they insist then you have to wait or they support the funding

Tbh, I’ll never understand why people hype up ceremonies so much. Parents who should be more understanding due to experience are now putting unnecessary pressure on the couple. Whether trad or white the main act of marriage is the man leaving his family, committing to his wife before God(who is omnipresent) and man(family members and friends). It’s not the cake or the dress or even the rings. Everything else is cultural as it varies from place to place. Grand ceremonies are nice if you have the money and time for such, if not, then do what you can as long as you both are happy. Try to explain to your in laws, you and their daughter still have to feed after that day, if they don’t agree and would not be able to support you, then putting things on hold would be best. Goodluck to you.

U can do both same day.
Introduction & dowry payment on the eve of the wedding
White wedding in the morning
Traditional marriage immediately after service

This should be simple fa.

Since they want church as well, then arrange to have everything same day. To do this, split the money budgeted for traditional into 2. Use one part for traditional and the other for church. If guest were to be 100 before, just reduce to 50.

Since they want shabby, let them have shabby. Whatever you do though, ensure you and your madam look far from shabby for the pictures. Good luck.