Good evening nairalanders,
I am writing from Uyo, Akwa Ibom. I have a problem I wish to share in order get your reactions and candid advice.
its quite an epistle but I will try to be brief as possible.
My dad relocated to Ibadan in the early 90's to seek greener pastures. he met his first wife there and they had a daughter (my dad was apparently disappointed because he needed a son).
After about five years without any sign of another child forth coming, my dad met my mum and together they bore a son (me). this angered my step-mum because she was desperate for a male child, as at then.
After many drama and quarrel, my dad took me away from my mum when I was of age for school; to my step-mum.
Apparently I grew up to realization that the woman I took as a mother was not my biological mother, but my step mum. As years came by, I discovered that, whenever I am around those who know my story, they always talk about a particular woman and addressing her as my mum. Out of curiosity I asked my stepsister if this was true and she just started crying with any reasonable answer. I felt bad and decided never to ask such ridiculous question ever again.
I left Ibadan for Abuja in 2011 for my secondary school , when my dad was transfered in his work place.
after high school, I decided to school at Akwa Ibom with the hope of meeting my biological mum. fortunately for me I established contact with her but was disappointed with what I discovered. she was accompanied by two girl and introduced them as my sisters!!! I was shocked and speechless. Aged 17 and 15 respectively, yet could not express themselves in English.
I was glad however of meeting them but till date, almost 2 years, we cant bond and create that family relationship yet. I am worried because I dont share a very mutual relationship with my dad, step-mum and stepsister either. consequently I can't keep friendship or any serious relationship.
I know deep down I need help. I am human and I need to interact with people. In my 3rd year in university now, I can't still relate and socialise with my colleagues and fellow students also. I am a true definition of "A LONE MAN".
What can I do?

There is nothing Elohim can not do. So Start by asking Him to send you helpers as well as giving you clarity in reasoning.

Then locate people (not related to you) with similar background and share their experience with a view to helping them. In the course of doing this you will find your own solutions.

I believe this would cater to your present situation. But if you still need someone to talk to feel free to call or chat me

Shalom

Iziq:
Good evening nairalanders,
I am writing from Uyo, Akwa Ibom. I have a problem I wish to share in order get your reactions and candid advice.
its quite an epistle but I will try to be brief as possible.
My dad relocated to Ibadan in the early 90's to seek greener pastures. he met his first wife there and they had a daughter (my dad was apparently disappointed because he needed a son).
After about five years without any sign of another child forth coming, my dad met my mum and together they bore a son (me). this angered my step-mum because she was desperate for a male child, as at then.
After many drama and quarrel, my dad took me away from my mum when I was of age for school; to my step-mum.
Apparently I grew up to realization that the woman I took as a mother was not my biological mother, but my step mum. As years came by, I discovered that, whenever I am around those who know my story, they always talk about a particular woman and addressing her as my mum. Out of curiosity I asked my stepsister if this was true and she just started crying with any reasonable answer. I felt bad and decided never to ask such ridiculous question ever again.
I left Ibadan for Abuja in 2011 for my secondary school , when my dad was transfered in his work place.
after high school, I decided to school at Akwa Ibom with the hope of meeting my biological mum. fortunately for me I established contact with her but was disappointed with what I discovered. she was accompanied by two girl and introduced them as my sisters!!! I was shocked and speechless. Aged 17 and 15 respectively, yet could not express themselves in English.
I was glad however of meeting them but till date, almost 2 years, we cant bond and create that family relationship yet. I am worried because I dont share a very mutual relationship with my dad, step-mum and stepsister either. consequently I can't keep friendship or any serious relationship.
I know deep down I need help. I am human and I need to interact with people. In my 3rd year in university now, I can't still relate and socialise with my colleagues and fellow students also. I am a true definition of "A LONE MAN".
What can I do?

Just talk to yourself

Make up your mind to accommodate people

Learn to relate with people around you it will help you to fuster good relationships with them

You can't succeed in staying a lobe life even when you are married

Just free yourself and start with your mum and sisters

Ten rebond with your dad and lastly your step mum

You never can tell who will be more helpful to each other

I totally get how you feel. I had some immunity issues and I felt really sad for myself. I just found recently that I had Lyme's disease, so you can imagine. My aunt had it and I remember the discomfort she felt all the time. She was even taking supplements to help her ease the symptoms and some of them did a good work. I remember in particular how fond of turkey tail mushroom she was and still is. She was telling me that without it the pain and discomfort would be much higher and worse. I looked it up and it's actually a really valuable natural wonder for a lot of reasons. I never knew it can even help with Lyme's disease.