Shibaraba:
As humans we are supposed to be kind. You are meant to be a helper. So it means you would sit and watch your husband take care of his old parents and at the same time fend for you and the kids?
The love you have for him and his family should be enough to make you want to do it.. .....

Dear men. Before you marry or even propose find out your spouse's social media handles and do some research. These ones above no be wife material.
Very anyhow people

Amanee:
Loud it

chigoziri2403:
Thats why it is advisable for a woman to be employed, and nor be a house wife

lavylilly:
Dear men,

It is NOT the duty of your wife to take care of your aged and sick parents. It is the duty of you and your siblings. If your wife decides to help you, she is being nice. But it's YOU and YOUR siblings' primary responsibility, NOT your wife's.

I've got my parents. It is NOT the duty of my husband and brothers inlaw to look after my parents. It is the duty of me and my siblings to look after our parents. If my brothers inlaw, sister inlaw and husband decide to help us, they are just HELPING and we will be grateful.

I'm sick and tired of reading men who think it is their wives' duties you nurse their old and sick parents.
I've never seen any woman who thinks it's her husband's duty to nurse her sick and old parents.

If tomorrow I nurse my mother or father inlaw, it would be because I want to be nice. It is DEFINITELY NOT my primary duty to do that.

lavylilly:
Dear men,

It is NOT the duty of your wife to take care of your aged and sick parents. It is the duty of you and your siblings. If your wife decides to help you, she is being nice. But it's YOU and YOUR siblings' primary responsibility, NOT your wife's.

I've got my parents. It is NOT the duty of my husband and brothers inlaw to look after my parents. It is the duty of me and my siblings to look after our parents. If my brothers inlaw, sister inlaw and husband decide to help us, they are just HELPING and we will be grateful.

I'm sick and tired of reading men who think it is their wives' duties you nurse their old and sick parents.
I've never seen any woman who thinks it's her husband's duty to nurse her sick and old parents.

If tomorrow I nurse my mother or father inlaw, it would be because I want to be nice. It is DEFINITELY NOT my primary duty to do that.

Cutehector:
You see why it is good to have deep conversations with ladies? So that you know whether you were gona marry an upcoming witch

ImaIma1:
Whether they are my parents or not, sick elderly people need care from people around especially those who they consider family. And I would do all I can to help them.

Crystasluvee:


I totally disagree with this skol of thought. The moment you say I do to a man. Instinctively your family ties doubles. Ur spouse family becomes your. Which implies your dad is now 2 and mum also doubling.

I do not believe your tend to their needs out of mere courtesy but outright responsibility. Do your husbandz /wifez kins the way you want then the reverse to do to yours.

Two they say small become one. When true love beckons you won't mind all this things you hold so dear as duties but selfless act of love to those your call parent irrespective spouse they belong.

If I do marry you, I will do unto your folks what I do to mine without second thought cuz WE ARE FAMILY

freecocoahubby:
Yet another useless, senseless and idiotic post created for the sole purpose of bashing men

"Men this, men that" una no dey tire? Go fvck and marry yourselves then since men are the cause of your miserable existence. Idi0ts!

Come o, @lavylilly.. aren't you the same LillyVal who got exposed in romance section for being a teenage pr0stitute runs girl? How come you've now turned counsellor of married men in the family section?

Wonders shall never end on this site.

fcdgrand:
now days women don't want to see their father-in-law and mother-in-law alive, only me my family and my hushand, one ex ask me is your mother alive, i said yes, do you want to kill her

Hahahahahaha
I'm Happy u called her "EX"

Jamesbally:



Beautiful post.

APOPTOSIS:

Hahahahahaha
That was how I left a ?nice lady whom I dated for few years with the SOLE AIM of marrying.
She made a devastating statement the very first day she visited my family house after much persuasions from her. And it is common among LADIES who do nothing but sit at home.
Now she calls me regularly Saying I have an unforgiving heart.
This is MARRIAGE and my family has rules.
We don't condone RUBBISH at all especially when marriage is involved.

Parents should endeavor to train their kids very well. Don't expect someone who has done so after many years to accept a PANDORA'S BOX all in the name of Marriage.

PSQUARE are scattered today, right from the very first day they started marrying ladies into their family.

I really don't know who is EDUCATING these Young Girls.
Do They think MEN in AFRICA are stupid...?
The WORST is that U find a JOBLESS WIFE dishing out threats to his husband and family.

These are LADIES that are being married into a new Family where they ought to conduct themselves and fit in relevantly.

APOPTOSIS:

Hahahahahaha
I'm Happy u called her "EX"
That was how I left a ?nice lady whom I dated for few years with the SOLE AIM of marrying.
She made a devastating statement the very first day she visited my family house after much persuasions from her 2visit my house.

This insolence is common among LADIES who do nothing but sit at home changing channels listening to women empowerment programs.
Now she calls me regularly Saying I have an unforgiving heart.
This is MARRIAGE and my family has rules.
We don't condone RUBBISH at all especially when marriage is involved.

Parents should endeavor to train their kids very well. Don't expect someone who has done so after many years to accept a PANDORA'S BOX all in the name of Marriage.

PSQUARE got scattered today, right from the very first day they started marrying ladies into their family.

I really don't know who is EDUCATING these Young Girls.
Do They think MEN in AFRICA are stupid...?
The WORST is that U find a JOBLESS WIFE dishing out threats to his husband and family.

These are LADIES that are being married into a new Family where they ought to conduct themselves and fit in relevantly.

faithfull18:

Your mentality is nauseating, you sound like you are doing a lady a favour because you married her.
I feel for your future wife.

One day, I jokingly told her I would lock her out, could you Believe my DAD threatened to call SARS for me , telling me that he is also married to my WIFE....

APOPTOSIS:

I won't INSULT or berate U.
From Ur comment I already know your AGE.
I'm already MARRIED.
....and I am speaking from Experience.
And for Your Information, my WIFE is the most reasonable LADY on Earth.
Despite her Busy schedules, she still has time for my parents.

In Fact, She's Overtly ladened with Ideas and Occupied. Her conversations yield LIFE.
...and not these "twerking send me recharge card Ladies".....
PARENTS should be cared for.
Because if not for them, that ur HUSBAND or WIFE of yours wouldn't have been developed to that marriageable level.
After all, how many YEARS do they have left.
I care for my In-LAWS a lot.
But my WIFE has this MAGIC TOUCH on my FAMILY...
She has won the HEART of Every member of my FAMILY.
In fact, in any argument between myself and her, she defeats me with their support.
One day, I jokingly told her I would lock her out, could you Believe my DAD threatened to call SARS for me , telling me that he is also married to my WIFE....

That should be the DREAM of every LADY hoping to get married into a New Family.
....and not to see marriage as a WARFARE, where missiles are released abruptly.

ZIMDRILL:


your missing the other point

even if the two families are now taken as one, the husband/wife has to lead you in how to take care of his parents, because s/he has to discuss first with his/her brothers/sister and then these brother/sister have to take the agreed way forward to their own respective husband/wives

And thats when you tell your wife/husband what have been agreed in looking after your own parents thats when two of decide on which contribution or role to play .


this thing of two families became one is con, very few in -laws visit each other, i dont mean daughter/son in law but the parents of couple visiting each other

APOPTOSIS:

I won't INSULT or berate U.
From Ur comment I already know your AGE.
I'm already MARRIED.
....and I am speaking from Experience.
And for Your Information, my WIFE is the most reasonable LADY on Earth.
Despite her Busy schedules, she still has time for my parents.

In Fact, She's Overtly ladened with Ideas and Occupied. Her conversations yield LIFE.
...and not these "twerking send me recharge card Ladies".....
PARENTS should be cared for.
Because if not for them, that ur HUSBAND or WIFE of yours wouldn't have been developed to that marriageable level.
After all, how many YEARS do they have left.
I care for my In-LAWS a lot.
But my WIFE has this MAGIC TOUCH on my FAMILY...
She has won the HEART of Every member of my FAMILY.
In fact, in any argument between myself and her, she defeats me with their support.
One day, I jokingly told her I would lock her out, could you Believe my DAD threatened to call SARS for me , telling me that he is also married to my WIFE....

That should be the DREAM of every LADY hoping to get married into a New Family.
....and not to see marriage as a WARFARE, where missiles are released abruptly.

faithfull18:

No, you don't. Well, I won't indulge in unnecessary arguments. It's obvious you don't understand the point the poster is trying to make and besides this is social media, every one has got the perfect life.