Hi guys,

So I had an argument with my woman some months back about a wife and child bearing the man's first name or his surname.

So I'm pushing the question out here to know what you guys think.

An example...lets say my names are Emeka Frank Udo (Udo being my surname - which is also like my family name)
Now I marry and my wife wanna bear Jessica Emeka rather than Jessica Udo (my kids likewise)

What do you guys think?

No curses please...thanks.

SURNAME IS BETTER JOOR

Surname is really important.....

nifemi25:
Surname is really important.....

GloriaNinja:
SURNAME IS BETTER JOOR

My stance exactly.

I really love my surname. Its a pride for me bearing it. I am also proud of my other names but I would prefer my wife and kids bear theirs alongside my surname rather than my first name.

I’m married with a son and they both answer my native name not my surname. My wife is married to me not my forefathers.
I also did research and most people now use their own name not their ancient fathers name.

Ovo04:
I’m married with a son and they both answer my native name not my surname. My wife is married to me not my forefathers.
I also did research and most people now use their own name not their ancient fathers name.

Interesting.

More comments please.

Thanks.

Surname's cool rather than his name.. Or she can combine your name and surname together

Depends on your tribe (according to my dad though) .

From South south,it's always "FIRST NAME, YOUR DAD'S NAME AND SURNAME" eg Ibinabo Sotonye(my dad's 1st name) then Tamunoburna (the general family name).

You can't change the main surname unfortunately ,you can only add yours as the middle name.e g,Mrs Nairaland (then the husband's 1st name) before the MAIN SURNAME .

Don't know about other tribes though!

PS: don't try looking for any Ibimina Sotonye Tamunoburna .

Both are nice but it depends on which one you want to choose.I used to answer my dad’s surname before he changed it himself to his first name.

You wife is only trying to give your own name a sense of relevance.
But since you love your family name, Your wife and kids can bear the both.

For example, Jessica Frank-Udo.
That way, she can be easily recognized as your wife especially when there are other women married into your family bearing the family name (Udo)

Las Las, whichever one you guys decide to go with is absolutely fine.

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Including my children

GloriaNinja:
SURNAME IS BETTER JOOR

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Do people still use surname??
I use my dad's name..likewise my siblings..

Ovo04:
I’m married with a son and they both answer my native name not my surname. My wife is married to me not my forefathers.
I also did research and most people now use their own name not their ancient fathers name.

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Very correct ...

I bear my husband's 1st name as my middle name and then his surname. That's another way to do it. That's my culture anyway

Where I come from the family name must not be allowed to die out so every male child and his offsprings must bear the last name of their ancestors.

Wetlink:
You wife is only trying to give your own name a sense of relevance.
But since you love your family name, Your wife and kids can bear the both.

For example, Jessica Frank-Udo.
That way, she can be easily recognized as your wife especially when there are other women married into your family bearing the family name (Udo)

Las Las, whichever one you guys decide to go with is absolutely fine.

This is sweet and cool

God forbids the cousins having sexual affairs becos couples decided to use only his first name. Using the first + surname or only surname will still warrants asking questions about family background especially if the 2 young lovers bear the same surname

Ovo04:
I’m married with a son and they both answer my native name not my surname. My wife is married to me not my forefathers.
I also did research and most people now use their own name not their ancient fathers name.

This is how it's done in the north, I know this when I was working at National Population Commission in Yola. I also prefer hubby's name to his surname but because he is the only son so I decided to bear his father name not his forefather's name.

A name is just a name, and if a husband, wife, son or daughter decide not to use the family's name, then fine by me.

In this part of the world, we attach too much important to trivial issues, and 'family's name' is one of them. I believe everyone should have their own identity. As a matter of fact, in a few days time, I'll have a name different from my family's name. It's my way of creating my own identity.

Surname is better abeg, I don't want my brothers children and mine to have different surnames abeg.if you start changing yours, you will start distancing(figuratively) from your immediate family and not even your extended family . The only reason why you should change is, if your surname has a meaning that isn't nice if not I don't see why

There is this trend that I have noticed, where some men are cutting off from their family names saying it is diabolic and has fetish origins, when registering their children' births they omit the surname.

Please someone should explain this better to me, can I take hubby's first name as my surname? Is it legally acceptable with no social or adverse effect?
Or which is better? Hubby's first name or his surname?

dljbd1:
Hi guys,

So I had an argument with my woman some months back about a wife and child bearing the man's first name or his surname.

So I'm pushing the question out here to know what you guys think.

An example...lets say my names are Emeka Frank Udo (Udo being my surname - which is also like my family name)
Now I marry and my wife wanna bear Jessica Emeka rather than Jessica Udo (my kids likewise)

What do you guys think?

No curses please...thanks.

This is a very simple case

If you want your own name to move on in addition to your father surname

They can bear Frank-Udo

It's still a reflection of your name and your father's name

But if you want them to bear Frank alone, it will not really relate with the other cousins name

Because of the future, every one must have a root to be identified with

ImaIma1:
I bear my husband's 1st name as my middle name and then his surname. That's another way to do it. That's my culture anyway

What of your own middle name?

ireneidiva:

What of your own middle name?

My siblings and I had our father's first name as our middle name, plus my mother too. It's our culture.

So when the woman gets married she has to drop it along with the surname. So it changed to my husband's first name.

I have already made up my mind: my wife shall bear my own name. At the worst, it'll be a combination of my name and my surname. I shall not be a party to that nonsense Western culture that makes people's first name useless

ImaIma1:


My siblings and I had our father's first name as our middle name, plus my mother too. It's our culture.

So when the woman gets married she has to drop it along with the surname. So it changed to my husband's first name.

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Ok. I understand.

Family name is more important. It will not affect you but your unborn generation.

Personally I feel it's a matter of choice, they are all your names, yes! we get the idea that upholding a family name through time is legendary but we have seen instances where the family name becomes a thorn in the flesh, do you now expect the person to stick to a surname that is now a curse? We have to learn to accept change to put us is a condition that is convenient and flexible like the idea of using *444# to to recharge from any bank of your choice. It's as easy as that, so this should be a decision between you and your spouse to achieve harmony and a better future.

True, the new fad is husband's first name-Surname as wife's surname.

I just wonder what would ha3in future if people can no longer trace their roots or larger families.

If the surname has a negative meaning, let them change it to a uniform name and move on.

Again, if your surname is notable, it wouldnot be easy to dump.

The Dangotes, Otedolas, Alakijas etc. wouldn't have this worry.

Perhaps this is some of the mindset that makes some families greater than others.

Ideally a child and his mother supposed to bear the man's first name but then it becomes difficult to trace such a man's family to a particular FAMILY NAME. So to avoid that, there must be orderliness, which is to bear the man's father name.

dljbd1:
Hi guys,

So I had an argument with my woman some months back about a wife and child bearing the man's first name or his surname.

So I'm pushing the question out here to know what you guys think.

An example...lets say my names are Emeka Frank Udo (Udo being my surname - which is also like my family name)
Now I marry and my wife wanna bear Jessica Emeka rather than Jessica Udo (my kids likewise)

What do you guys think?

No curses please...thanks.

I don't get it, does the surname have a bad meaning.

I am beginning to notice lots of families bearing their fathers name and the family surname as surname e.g Joshua mike-bamiloye and personally I don't fancy it, its still a bit better though because the family name is attached, now imagine if the person I stated bears Joshua Mike as your wife wants to what then happens to the family name.

Before got married if I see anyone bearing my surname, I know we must be related, my grandfather left the family name and his children began to bear his name as surname now when I am asked which family I am from I don't mention my maiden surname I mention the original surname of the family. I am from S family and they understand immediately but if I tell them my grandfather's name they begin to look confused.

Lastlast I left both of them sha besides I don't like their meanings.