Platini7:
Nothing else that i know about. Yes we do have small small quarrels.....but non of our little misunderstandings has ever led to the kind of reaction i'm getting from her on this one.

She claims she's heartbroken cos the comment was made on her CLOSE friend's post.

DarrelCornell:
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more trash

thorpido:
You should have eleted those fake accounts when you got married.
Well,you will need to make contacts with your wife and try to convince her it was in your past and it was all for fun.Try to reach her through people who have access to her.
It might take some time before she changes her mind but keep pushing it.

Platini7:
Please i created this moniker to seek advise on this issue.

I got married to my wife in 2018 and there's already an issue that is threatening our young marriage.

We dated briefly 10 years ago before she travelled to the US for schooling. She stayed there for a while and then got into a relationship over there with a guy i know (I wasn't close friends with the guy). I had to move on with my life and got into a relationship of my own here in Nigeria.
Back then, i use to have this silly habit of creating anonymous facebook accounts where i would add people i know and comment on their posts and pictures without them ever knowing i was the one. I dropped many comments back then and one such incident happened to be a time i commented on her close friend's picture, telling her (the friend) she was pretty and how i wanted her. This was almost 10 years ago and i swear i never meant any of those words. It was just a silly joke and i had completely forgotten all that.
My wife returned Nigeria in 2016 and somehow we reconnected and got married in 2018.

Just last week, she stumbled on those posts i made in 2010-2011 and got really heartbroken and upset. Right now, even after pleading with her, she says she wants to quit the marriage. She packed a few of her stuff and travelled home to Abia state from our base in Lagos. So far, what she told her family in the east is that she just came back to visit them for a little while because she couldn't come back during xmas.
Now she's threatening that i won't see my 1 year old son anytime soon cos she's already making plans of relocating abroad for good.


Please my question is this; Do you think this issue is enough to cause this kind of disharmony in our home?
What do you advice?
Thank you

pocohantas:


- They dated briefly 10yrs ago.
- She go America, date another person.
- I think while she was dating another person, uncle was flirting with random girls online.
-She come back, them reconnect come marry.

What exactly is her issue?

She suppose done old pass this kind childish tantrums na.

Be like she get pali, because na wetin dey make Naija guy humble like this.

Platini7:
Please i created this moniker to seek advise on this issue.

I got married to my wife in 2018 and there's already an issue that is threatening our young marriage.

We dated briefly 10 years ago before she travelled to the US for schooling. She stayed there for a while and then got into a relationship over there with a guy i know (I wasn't close friends with the guy). I had to move on with my life and got into a relationship of my own here in Nigeria.
Back then, i use to have this silly habit of creating anonymous facebook accounts where i would add people i know and comment on their posts and pictures without them ever knowing i was the one. I dropped many comments back then and one such incident happened to be a time i commented on her close friend's picture, telling her (the friend) she was pretty and how i wanted her. This was almost 10 years ago and i swear i never meant any of those words. It was just a silly joke and i had completely forgotten all that.
My wife returned Nigeria in 2016 and somehow we reconnected and got married in 2018.

Just last week, she stumbled on those posts i made in 2010-2011 and got really heartbroken and upset. Right now, even after pleading with her, she says she wants to quit the marriage. She packed a few of her stuff and travelled home to Abia state from our base in Lagos. So far, what she told her family in the east is that she just came back to visit them for a little while because she couldn't come back during xmas.
Now she's threatening that i won't see my 1 year old son anytime soon cos she's already making plans of relocating abroad for good.


Please my question is this; Do you think this issue is enough to cause this kind of disharmony in our home?
What do you advice?
Thank you

cococandy:
Ahan

Small small truths coming out. Maybe she’s wondering what else he’s doing with that account.

@OP, a 10 year old account is no longer a troll account. It’s a double identity.

You’re not straight forward. Maybe we should hold our judgment of her until you say the whole truth .

cococandy:


I think you’re misunderstanding my post.

I think a little upset is okay.

Leaving the marriage is overkill.

That’s what my post meant

MMXX:
If not that you already married her I'd advice you kick her out your house n dust your doormat..yeye dey smell

Maybe she still thinks like a single female teenager with no brain,abi she don't know this is marriage n not dating

nlPoster:
What do you consider it a fake account instead of an alternate one?

And why comment anonymously to people you know?

That's rather creepy and could be considered borderline stalking.




Not to mention why would people intentionally add strangers on their personal fb pages?

And is it a must you have to flirt online? Why is self control considered a female thing among Nigerians? (even that has changed now). Must you drop sexually themed comments on someone's page when you know you have sex issues?

We4all:


Your wife is obviously not into you and has been looking for the flimsiest reason to leave. I don't want to make assumptions, but she seemed to have the upper hand in the relationship.

At this point, there is really nothing you can do other than to fight for the custody of your son.

Reichel99:
Your wife is childish. If she wants to leave let her go but make sure you don't let her take your child along with her.

Jewessgratitude:

Hahahaaa.. My dad was a senior NPS officer who dealt with criminals at the maximum prisons those days. So I gat his blood flowing in my veins.

mii4u:

Tot u are a woman, how can a mother leave without her 1yr old. I'm not supporting d woman cos it's obvious she's got her hidden agenda, I'm not really concerned abt the mother but the 1yr old child who will be left at d mercy of another woman.

Platini7:
Please i created this moniker to seek advise on this issue.

I got married to my wife in 2018 and there's already an issue that is threatening our young marriage.

We dated briefly 10 years ago before she travelled to the US for schooling. She stayed there for a while and then got into a relationship over there with a guy i know (I wasn't close friends with the guy). I had to move on with my life and got into a relationship of my own here in Nigeria.
Back then, i use to have this silly habit of creating anonymous facebook accounts where i would add people i know and comment on their posts and pictures without them ever knowing i was the one. I dropped many comments back then and one such incident happened to be a time i commented on her close friend's picture, telling her (the friend) she was pretty and how i wanted her. This was almost 10 years ago and i swear i never meant any of those words. It was just a silly joke and i had completely forgotten all that.
My wife returned Nigeria in 2016 and somehow we reconnected and got married in 2018.

Just last week, she stumbled on those posts i made in 2010-2011 and got really heartbroken and upset. Right now, even after pleading with her, she says she wants to quit the marriage. She packed a few of her stuff and travelled home to Abia state from our base in Lagos. So far, what she told her family in the east is that she just came back to visit them for a little while because she couldn't come back during xmas.
Now she's threatening that i won't see my 1 year old son anytime soon cos she's already making plans of relocating abroad for good.


Please my question is this; Do you think this issue is enough to cause this kind of disharmony in our home?
What do you advice?
Thank you

Platini7:
Please i created this moniker to seek advise on this issue.

I got married to my wife in 2018 and there's already an issue that is threatening our young marriage.

We dated briefly 10 years ago before she travelled to the US for schooling. She stayed there for a while and then got into a relationship over there with a guy i know (I wasn't close friends with the guy). I had to move on with my life and got into a relationship of my own here in Nigeria.
Back then, i use to have this silly habit of creating anonymous facebook accounts where i would add people i know and comment on their posts and pictures without them ever knowing i was the one. I dropped many comments back then and one such incident happened to be a time i commented on her close friend's picture, telling her (the friend) she was pretty and how i wanted her. This was almost 10 years ago and i swear i never meant any of those words. It was just a silly joke and i had completely forgotten all that.
My wife returned Nigeria in 2016 and somehow we reconnected and got married in 2018.

Just last week, she stumbled on those posts i made in 2010-2011 and got really heartbroken and upset. Right now, even after pleading with her, she says she wants to quit the marriage. She packed a few of her stuff and travelled home to Abia state from our base in Lagos. So far, what she told her family in the east is that she just came back to visit them for a little while because she couldn't come back during xmas.
Now she's threatening that i won't see my 1 year old son anytime soon cos she's already making plans of relocating abroad for good.


Please my question is this; Do you think this issue is enough to cause this kind of disharmony in our home?
What do you advice?
Thank you

pocohantas:


- They dated briefly 10yrs ago.
- She go America, date another person.
- I think while she was dating another person, uncle was flirting with random girls online.
-She come back, them reconnect come marry.

What exactly is her issue?

She suppose done old pass this kind childish tantrums na.

Be like she get pali, because na wetin dey make Naija guy humble like this.

carpdiemz:




sorry boss I don't think she would took this issue to that level if you are very financially ok or have your own USA Visa too. just hussle and move on you can't beg her but I bet it with you she might not be able to married again oh cuz dat USA has lot of singles ladies who are looking for a man to marry dem so do single mothers too , I wish both of you best of luck

freshvine:
You paid the bride price or wed a woman doesn't mean she's your wife. Most of what people do is negotiated cohabitation. Marriage is a thing of the mind and a commitment of total indulgence.

Bro...if that lady is your wife, she'll laugh off your pseudo Facebook account and even make a joke of her friend not having you finally or teasing you how you don't have the skills to woo her friend. she'll joking say she helped your ministry.

if she is your "house partner " she'll shout, get angry and make mountain out of a mole hole. Taking your kid away from you for that excuse simply means she's in charge.

Now, stand like a man and give her ultimatum but pass it through her parents. Call the parents and tell me you want her to return back in a week or the marriage is over. Be arrogant and wait the family decision. She'll convey her real intentions to the family. From there you can take a stand.