Triniti:
You are not married bro, what about your kids? Do you have any? Who takes care of them?

Samuel1402:
No issue yet bro

prizlezzlalasky:
This marriage thing is getting scary by the day.

NOTE Despite how she work no single financial assistant from her in any form, even when I'm broke no help from her. I pay every bills from the smallest to the biggest expenses in the house, pls reasonable advice needed especially if u have gone through this before thanks.

NwaAmaikpe:




Divorce is not the option yet.
She has used you.
Use her and dump her.

Get one of your neighbors, her friend or a relative to take her place.
Make her go paranoid over your new affair and let her know she pushed you to it.

I expect her to promise to devote more attention to you.
Act like you have accepted her repentance and screw her like you're dying this night.

By morning, while she's in the kitchen making breakfast trying to convince you that she's a change person.
Remain in bed playing melancholic love songs.

Get her to eat with you and after the meal, ask her to get dressed because that was the LAST SUPPER.
Tell her you love her so much to let her go and concentrate on her hair business.

Don't be a wimp.
R.Kelly didn't sing "If I could turn" in vain.
Make it her new anthem with every sense of decency.

Winneygirl:
This is dicey.
Could it be that you want a divorce, not because of her working late, but because you do not have a baby together yet?
Could it be that the home is inhabitable for her due to flying emotions and she's burying herself in her work to stay away from it?
What's the prognosis from the hospital regarding fertility?
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I'm sorry I'm asking, but there's usually an underlying issue not put out in the open when couples want divorce.

prizlezzlalasky:
This marriage thing is getting scary by the day.

Samuel1402:
Pls pardon me if the headline didn't go well with the message, I'm emotional imbalance. This post is not to seek for advice on divorce, but really want those who av gone through this to share their experience, to keep me up going after the divorce. I really love my wife and I belief she love me too. Short story about our relationship. We av being together for over fifteen years now but we got married eight years ago immediately after her NYSC and she moved in with me in Lagos. That was the first time she will come to live in Lagos permanent, cos before that time she only come to Lagos maybe once in four years. when she came to Lagos she told me she doesn't want to work under anybody and I agreed I asked her to think of what she want to do and she said she want to learn more on hair dressing and open a salon. Six month later I got a shop for her and bought some things she needed in the shop. everything was going fine but after six months the whole things change everything about her is on her business, no time for anything at home she go to shop from Monday to Sunday, and to make the matter worse she will leave for shop in the morning and not come back until minimum of 10pm everyday including public holidays xmas , new year, everyday! I got tired I fought her, I reported her to her parents, her brother her sister I av done every things I can do to make her understand that I'm not comfortable with her attitude but instead of her to change, the whole things is getting worse. As at present I cook myself I clean the house, last year I change our resident to a more far area and told her to look for shop in that area that I will pay and equipped the shop, but she refused I called her late last year and told her to change or I filled for divorce, she begged and promised to change, she even told me that she just want to do the end of the year business there and by January she will move her business, since then every things has gone from bad to worse last month I called her and told her I av no option than to go for a divorce, she also begged and cry but nothing has changed I've concluded to go for divorce, but the issue is how I will cope, how I can move on fast after the divorce, NOTE Despite how she work no single financial assistant from her in any form, even when I'm broke no help from her. I pay every bills from the smallest to the biggest expenses in the house, pls reasonable advice needed especially if u have gone through this before thanks.

prizlezzlalasky:
This marriage thing is getting scary by the day.

KanwuliaExtra:
You are a man of too many words and little action.
This is a sign of weakness.
No wonder she does not take you seriously.
For some people to change, they need the school of HARD KNOCKS or SHOCK THERAPY.

It is laughable you write about love.
In any relationship or marriage, FAMILY TIME should always come FIRST.
Love is not selfish.
Love is not frivolous.

Love is taken seriously in any relationship.
It manifests in actions, without words.
It is always felt where it is needed THE MOST for each individual.

You both have no concept of what love is.
Stop deceiving yourselves.
Please.