Hello nairalanders
My fiancee insists on bearing two kids because of
1. less stress raising the kids
2. being able to manage them during her work time

I insist on bearing 4 kids because
1. There is strength in numbers (Well secured family
2. Dining table will be complete
3. Family SUV will be complete
4. Children are gift from God
5. Satisfactory distribution of wealth
6. a boy and a girl (it's just better and wiser to have double of anything)
7. House will be very lively
8. I want my name to last for as long as it can
9. 4 kids will secure our nuclear family, it's heritage and legacy
10. Military and Business, Health and Leric


We had this argument the last time we spoke and her last statement was "I hope this doesn't hold us down soonest because its as though we can never reach an agreement in this aspect. And of course might affect this relationship".

I love her very much and I believe she does too, what should I do.

If you can afford it why not? You should know that raising children is not cheap anywhere in the world that's why it is advisable to have the number of kids you can afford. God forbid your finances dip, you will cope better with two kids instead of four. Besides, it's your fiance that will be doing most of the work when it comes to raising the kids, four kids might be overwhelming for her especially if she's working. You should listen to your fiance and consider her decision

You dont need to be having this arguement if you are a sharp shooter, i mean the world best no9

Mtschewww as if una be God...una dey behave like pikin...you guyz act like you in secondary school when you have plans of getting married to your crush in future but end up marrying someone you never even dreamt of your whole life...

Oga get married first you will understand better. 2 can become 3,1,5,4...Only God giveth....

It’s amazing what some intending couples fuss about. When you’re married, you will understand how trivial those things are in the face of real issues.

Don't worry when it's time everything will happen naturally. Most couple do this at the beginning but some child will come by mistake.

OP, stand you ground! from my experience, I've decided on four or more kids long ago, my reasons are
1.my mom had an only sister and she's very unhappy about it.
2.I have 5 sisters and 2 brothers, the last born (a boy is in the university now, the rest are all married and working) I have two kids and they are spoiled on choices of where to spend weekends and holidays, so are all my nephews and nieces.
3. I have plenty backups (especially in this tribalistic and man know man country) your blood family is the most loyal you can get.
4. before anyone messes with your family especially when you are retired and old, the size of your family comes into consideration ( in my villa, no body dare encroach, cos my dad, got brothers in the army, police, sisters with fairly powerful and influential Hubbys with grown up and working children, infact fight one member of my dad's family, you will be knocked right left and center)
so op these are my reasons.

Who will be the eventual head of the family?

Let that guide you.

Mtcheew

Woman de dictate for u

Brother , why do you want to bring people to this world to suffer ebola and Corona virus and other future pandemics ?

Just take care of the two you already have and you can adopt extra children or train them from distance.

9. I want my name to last for as long as it can

Which yeye name?

Winneygirl:
9. I want my name to last for as long as it can

Which yeye name?

The same yeye name you are bearing for your father

OP, go ahead with the marriage.

You just have to meet a jujuman for incisions on your priq, a Pastor for anointing oil to rub on your d1ck and an Imam for ablution water to sprinkle on your bed.

1 can be 2 or 3 or even 4. If you catch my drift.

Erediauwa:
Even though your Creator has blessed you with the resources to take care of any child you plan to bring into this world, it doesn't give you the entitlement to start producing children like Rabbits...


Two is more than enough and I support that.... Don't always think with your penis that there's strength in numbers.


If you don't have anything to do with your sperm, donate it to any health centre.

Who gave you the right to dictate to him how many kids he should or shouldn't have?

Erediauwa, the fact that you have nothing doing with your sterile sperm doesn't mean he shouldn't utilise his own as he wishes.

Ode, in this economic meltdown na four children be your problem when you're not sure if you'll make it out of this pandemic a pauper...


Sense fall on you

Why una dey advise am with plenty talk?

Wait now let him born one first and come back to tell us how far

So with the way Nigeria is, some people still want to have 4 kids

ImModern:
So with the way Nigeria is, some people still want to have 4 kids

it's a future decision, besides the funds will be available

dominique:
If you can afford it why not? You should know that raising children is not cheap anywhere in the world that's why it is advisable to have the number of kids you can afford. God forbid your finances dip, you will cope better with two kids instead of four. Besides, it's your fiance that will be doing most of the work when it comes to raising the kids, four kids might be overwhelming for her especially if she's working. You should listen to your fiance and consider her decision

Services will be employed. I feel the house will be boring with just 2 kids

Wizpa:



it's a future decision, besides the funds will be available

People should try and stop giving birth to too much children.. We're already too much in this country and there is no forwardness

Give birth to the one you're very sure u can take care of

Winneygirl:
9. I want my name to last for as long as it can

Which yeye name?

if you have nothing reasonable to say, then get the f.uck outta this thread.

Lazy youth

Amanee:
Ode, in this economic meltdown na four children be your problem when you're not sure if you'll make it out of this pandemic a pauper...


Sense fall on you

Don't be stupid, I asked for advice not insult

you are one of the reasons Nigeria is the way it is. Sanity will be restored to this country if people like you are no where to be found

bigiyaro:
OP, stand you ground! from my experience, I've decided on four or more kids long ago, my reasons are
1.my mom had an only sister and she's very unhappy about it.
2.I have 5 sisters and 2 brothers, the last born (a boy is in the university now, the rest are all married and working) I have two kids and they are spoiled on choices of where to spend weekends and holidays, so are all my nephews and nieces.
3. I have plenty backups (especially in this tribalistic and man know man country) your blood family is the most loyal you can get.
4. before anyone messes with your family especially when you are retired and old, the size of your family comes into consideration ( in my villa, no body dare encroach, cos my dad, got brothers in the army, police, sisters with fairly powerful and influential Hubbys with grown up and working children, infact fight one member of my dad's family, you will be knocked right left and center)
so op these are my reasons.

most reasonable comment

bigiyaro:
OP, stand you ground! from my experience, I've decided on four or more kids long ago, my reasons are
1.my mom had an only sister and she's very unhappy about it.
2.I have 5 sisters and 2 brothers, the last born (a boy is in the university now, the rest are all married and working) I have two kids and they are spoiled on choices of where to spend weekends and holidays, so are all my nephews and nieces.
3. I have plenty backups (especially in this tribalistic and man know man country) your blood family is the most loyal you can get.
4. before anyone messes with your family especially when you are retired and old, the size of your family comes into consideration ( in my villa, no body dare encroach, cos my dad, got brothers in the army, police, sisters with fairly powerful and influential Hubbys with grown up and working children, infact fight one member of my dad's family, you will be knocked right left and center)
so op these are my reasons.

Just Negodu

imagin this, buhari want 4 osinbanjo want 2, who is incharge?, who is incontrol?

genq:


The same yeye name you are bearing for your father

When you're six feet under the ground, things like name will never come to mind.

I understand your joy in having kids but most of your reasons sound kind of 'shallow' compared to hers. Shallow isn't necessarily bad per se in this case because I find your reasons very cute...just not as...'vital'? Especially if it's something that could affect a relationship that was quality enough to become an engagement.

When you think about your reasons like the 'SUV being complete' for example, is it imporant enough to let a valuable enough relationship go. It would be different if she didn't want kids at all

Wizpa:


Don't be stupid, I asked for advice not insult

you are one of the reasons Nigeria is the way it is. Sanity will be restored to this country if people like you are no where to be found

People like you and your stewpid questions will be nowhere to be found first


Didirin

Wizpa:


if you have nothing reasonable to say, then get the f.uck outta this thread.

Lazy youth

Don't bother my guy, this social isolation has done a number to the brains of a lot of these lonely hags (such as Winneygirl and Amanee) - that's why they cannot post any reasonable thing without insults. It's their fada they are insulting not you.