Tozic:
Dear MarryAnn, I know you can't see this post
When the time comes I won't propose. Ring will fly from nowhere to your finger. Because u know how we started. We've known ourselves in primary school, we've known ourselves in secondary school, we are in the same UNI.

chatinent:
You are self-opinionated.

Richy4:
U are still young. That's why u don't understand. Have you ever heard a saying like "why are u quarrelling like old couple. It's love that no one but them understand

worworbabe:


It's a lie. Love would make quarrelling difficult for you. It will nudge at your heart every moment of it that you won't want to ever put yourself or your partner in that situation again. If you quarrel often, what can you claim to love about the other person?

Yustash001:
Even if you marry your friend....issues will still pop up

It's just natural..... the most important is for both of them to settle it out once it starts but in a situation where by both of them find it difficult to utter ordinary "sorry"

Na divorce go end am last last

Richy4:
U are still young. That's why u don't understand. Have you ever heard a saying like "why are u quarrelling like old couple. It's love that no one but them understand

worworbabe:


It's a lie. Love would make quarrelling difficult for you. It will nudge at your heart every moment of it that you won't want to ever put yourself or your partner in that situation again. If you quarrel often, what can you claim to love about the other person?

worworbabe:


It's a lie. Love would make quarrelling difficult for you. It will nudge at your heart every moment of it that you won't want to ever put yourself or your partner in that situation again. If you quarrel often, what can you claim to love about the other person?

Oyiboman69:
Marriage has no manual... What works for you can be a hell hole for another.

I'm just reacting to the hardline not that I read the story though.

smiliyB:
issues may come up, yes but not the kind of one I experienced...disrespecting your partner in front of everyone, in a public transport for hours. We spent 5-7hours on the road.

smiliyB:
No, it isn't love anything...so irritating, beside I have parents too and they don't behave that way.

ayobarmy:
@Op, My mind tells me you're still single, Biko take this little advise with you as you Journey trough life ......

1...Marriage Is way beyond marrying your friend or not, because that your friend can turn out to be your worst Enemy within a day.....

2... Once your are ready for marriage, Just make sure you increase your level of tolerance from like 100% to 10000%.....

..... PEACE....

smiliyB:
Modify- I decided to adjust the headline, that's my own opinion. My aim of creating this thread is for us to discuss and leave meaningful comments for our own good. Not to start debating on the story's headline.

I have this experience with two married couple on two different occasions on my way back to East. So, I'm just wondering is it that they fell out of love or they never loved each other from the onset. What really happen? What can be done to keep the fire burning (I mean the fire of love oo ) between couples even till old age.

I know you're desperate to know what happened, let me share with you. But it's really big sha, so try and be patient. I'll try my best and limit it too.

Before I start, let me talk about my parents a little. I never experience this with my parents, my dad left this world 2007, at the age 63years but I haven't seen where my parents talked back at each other in a disrespectful manner inside the house talk more of doing such outside our home. I was a teenager when my dad left, so it's not that I was a child during those times and I couldn't notice a hot argument. If there's any argument, they do settle it in peace. Okay, Back to the story!

On my way back to East from Lagos State, I came across one couple let say they may be in their late 50's or early 60's. We met on the same place I came to board a vehicle to travel back to my home. I immediately noticed how this couple talks back at each other, at first I thought may it's normal but it was consistent and I was really bordered on how their lives will be inside their house. I sat next to the woman and the husband was on a different row entirely.

The first case, the husband asked the wife if she needs anything, like if she'll eat food and the wife snapped back at him to leave her alone. She said, you have been dragging me up and down since morning and my legs are just paining. I told you let's come straight to this place but you refused and we have moved from ikorodu garage to ojota and finally we are back to that same place you refused to come at first. The husband shouted back at her and left because our bus was still loading. While the wife kept on complaining to herself, even though the husband wasn't there anymore.

I'm very happy she didn't turn to me to complain, I don't really have strength for such, it always drain my energy...Lol... I kukuma mind my business, I didn't even ask anything. This is just one of plenty nags inside the vehicle till we got to East. They were just like cat and rat living together from my little experience with them.

The second couple is just the exact case like the first couple and almost the same age bracket. Let me not drop excess write up on it. So, after my second experience with this couple, I remembered the first couple and I'm just wondering what is happening Please marry your friends, marry someone you can leave the rest of your life with. Don't just marry because you want to marry and age is no longer on your side. Back to the question I asked earlier, please drop meaningful comments on how couples can sustain their love for each other even till old age. Thanks everyone!

Richy4:


People tends to communicate in different ways. Just like every foreigner that first encountered two or more adult male Nigerians talking loudly the first thing that comes to their minds would be any seconds they gonna kill themselves or each other.
It could be that they were simply talking about soccer or something. What OP sees as fight might not be what was going on.. it might be their way of usual banter.. When a third party comes between them, that person might be surprised on how both of them might challenge him/her or even embarrass the person. .

Besides when you were talking about love being difficult for couples to indulge in misunderstanding, I hope that your argument was not based on the Mexican love movies that was flooding all over the world

Richy4:


U are using your parent to define what love is or looks like right? I guess u are not ready for a debate. U have zeroed your mind on what you wanted to hear. So explaining further would be a waste of time.. just stick to what you believe.