naijacutee:
Ok, I think God is trying to save you. Please do not resist. Get financially stable and leave or this man will kill you, and the people you do not want to raise your daughter will end up raising her.

Even if you were legally married to this man, I would suggest that you walk out. Domestic violence should not be tolerated under any cirumstances. He will kill you.

What do you benefit from him that you cannot get yourself? Besides, women who are older than you and with more children than you have restarted their lives successfully. Look around, start a business, get yourself financially stable and leave!

Call the Mirabel Centre, they deal with rape cases but they may be able to point you in the right direction.

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Managed by Partnership for Justice
Tel: 08155770000, 07013491769, 08187243468, 01-2957816
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Donald3d:
I responded to you on your other thread, please read it

Chidebless111:
Pls I need advice on what to do
I have daughter who is 14months old, though I'm not legally married but I and my daughter's dad live in together, and yesterday will be the third time he is physically abusing me that I almost passed out, I choked me and hit my out daughter feeding flask on my head and beat me. Now when I called his mom to reported what happened,she asked me to pack my things back inside, that she knows of a woman that her husband beat regularly And still she's still with her husband,that next time he want to beat me I should run outside,and if I decides to leave ,I should leave and if I take my daughter along she will fight me,that if I don't want her anger I shouldn't take my daughter.... Now my problem now is I can't leave my child for them,as I'm typing I'm weak and tired from all the beating, I'm 26years,I can't continue this way,cos I don't know how long this will continue

Resurgent2016:
You're in a wrong relationship, exit as soon as possible. With a child of less than one year, you'll almost certainly get custody with your partner only getting visiting rights.

As for tour partner's mother, why do you even consider her opinion on the issue? She has almost no say in the issue.

Chidebless111:


Thank you. My daughter is a year 2months, I only called his mom to reported him .

Olachase:
my sister did u marry a smoker if yes pls park ur things and leave Mk he no go kill u for night.

Chidebless111:

Yes,he smoke sometimes...how do you know?

Chidebless111:
Pls I need advice on what to do
I have daughter who is 14months old, though I'm not legally married but I and my daughter's dad live in together, and yesterday will be the third time he is physically abusing me that I almost passed out, he choked me and hit our daughter feeding flask on my head and beat me. Now, when I called his mom to reported what happened,she asked me to pack my things back inside, that she knows of a woman that her husband beat regularly And still she's still with her husband,that next time he want to beat me I should run outside,and if I decides to leave ,I should leave and if I take my daughter along she will fight me,that if I don't want her anger I shouldn't take my daughter.... Now my problem now is I can't leave my child for them,as I'm typing I'm weak and tired from all the beating, I'm 26years,I can't continue this way,cos I don't know how long this will continue

Nephilim:
Eeyah Pele dear ar.. Next time don't talk back to your husby o, some men don't appreciate it, and since they know they are stronger na beating you dey go resort to.. Anyway I wish you all the best, na una know wer una meet una sef.

MuttleyLaff:
That is no man. That is a brute, I am sorry using blunt and frank words describing OP's not a better half.

Does the brute beat himself huh? Of course he doesn't, so if he loves himself that much not beat himself up, why then is the mofo beating up, not an ordinary female, but his supposedly partner he loves

Here's the help you asked for. I don't give a rat's arse for that submissive malarkey advice someone earlier gave. Submissiveness is a two way street. When in a relationship, you are asked to submit yourselves to one another. It isn't a one sided expectation. Now here's my advice. You will from now on try as much as possible not to irk your partner. Then asap, find a right moment to get him down for a sit talk, where you would tell him that let the beating incident be the last time he ever raises his hand to hit or beat you. Of course, set the tone right for this occasion, tidy up and have the whole home cleaned up, cooking a scrumptious dinner with a set up a romantic feel in the air. Before the dinner, you would have had a good perfumed bath, look seductively attractive, that after the dinner, it's going to be to the other room for business. Give him the best time of his life between the sheet, once he come back to earth from cloud seven, this is when you'll bold face lay down the new rules, that no more physical assault and that if it should repeat itself, you're out of the door with your child, and he'll be granted visiting rights.

Now before all those, you of course, you'll have to go find out where the nearest battered wives/domestic violence refuge centre in your locality is. Have their contacts with you, should in case, this brute decides to, in the future relapse into beating you again.

Another thing is using foul and contemptible words like "oloriburuku" which loosely translated means, "a good for nothing someone". No, no, no, this is totally out of order, for him to disrespect your parents, his potentially future parent-in-laws like that. You're 26 years old, but we don't know your status. Don't know yours and this brute's academic qualifications, your and his employment conditions et cetera. It seems there is real and genuine love lacking on the side of this brute. He also feels it is right to lift up his hand against a fellow human being, especially if its a live in female partner

I cant emphasise this loud enough, you have to let the brute know that, if he should ever lay his finger on you again, it is the end of the relationship. Period.

If you want to discuss this further and in private. Contact me offline.