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| Four Reasons For Mentor-Protege Clashes by constancefriday(m): 3:55pm On Aug 19, 2020 |
The 4 main reason why should be mentors clash or quarrel with should've been protege are:
(1) Respect Issues: Respect is a two way traffic. Some mentors make the mistake of thinking respect should come in one direction (their direction alone) and not flow back through the return path.
I hear things like, am i your mate? Did you know how many years i've been doing this Boy?? etc
Success is not about who's doing things first, it's about who's doing it the best way.
A Mentor is not really a mentor if his proteges aren't doing better than him. I've trained lots of students who're presently very successful in their various fields of life. They even appear more successful than me as we speak (However i'm still pursuing towards more personal successes as an individual fyi). It speaks well of me as a mentor. Proteges should respect the years of experience of their mentors if they want to last longer in the game or business.
(2) Misinterpretation of Confidence: As a young successful and evolving Teacher, Preacher and Motivational Speaker i've experienced occassions when older Folks in my career came and rapped me on the top and said "You don't have respect" and i'm like: "wait a second why in the heck did i get rapped on the top so hard? I was just being confident with my skills Sir. I didn't mean no harm! Do i even have to apologise for being rapped hard on my top for being confident. You don't have to apologise for being bold and confident! Young Folks but try to be respectful.
(3) Suffocating Grip: This has to do with always keeping an eye on every single jot, piece and gobbet of what the protege is up to. Micromanaging your protege makes them feel suffocated and could make them a tiny little bit resentful.
As a mentor it's good to allow your proteges some room to be themselves and not constantly breathe hard over their every activities..
(4) Hyperdependence:
Some Mentors are crafty, they take off a few pieces/clues off the puzzle deliberately just to make sure their proteges keeps coming back to feast from their palms. This creates hyperdependence which isn't exactly cool.
However a good protege always knows his mentor should be consulted in times of difficulty that requires experienced counsel.
So to cut the whole long story short, Mentors should value their proteges and proteges should value their mentors.
One more thing GRATITUDE is a virtue.
When the Mentor is grateful to his proteges and the Protege is grateful to his mentor there's least likely gonna be issues between them.
Cheers!
Remain Blessed!!
Yours Sincerely;
Apostle Constance Friday. 2 Likes 3 Shares |
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| Re: Four Reasons For Mentor-Protege Clashes by Nobody: 4:07pm On Aug 19, 2020 |
constancefriday:
The 4 main reason why should be mentors clash or quarrel with should've been protege are:
(1) Respect Issues: Respect is a two way traffic. Some mentors make the mistake of thinking respect should come in one direction (their direction alone) and not flow back through the return path.
I hear things like, am i your mate? Did you know how many years i've been doing this Boy?? etc
Success is not about who's doing things first, it's about who's doing it the best way.
A Mentor is not really a mentor if his proteges aren't doing better than him. I've trained lots of students who're presently very successful in their various fields of life. They even appear more successful than me as we speak (However i'm still pursuing towards more personal successes as an individual fyi). It speaks well of me as a mentor. Proteges should respect the years of experience of their mentors if they want to last longer in the game or business.
(2) Misinterpretation of Confidence: As a young successful and evolving Teacher, Preacher and Motivational Speaker i've experienced occassions when older Folks in my career came and rapped me on the top and said "You don't have respect" and i'm like: "wait a second why in the heck did i get rapped on the top so hard? I was just being confident with my skills Sir. I didn't mean no harm! Do i even have to apologise for being rapped hard on my top for being confident. You don't have to apologise for being bold and confident! Young Folks but try to be respectful.
(3) Suffocating Grip: This has to do with always keeping an eye on every single jot, piece and gobbet of what the protege is up to. Micromanaging your protege makes them feel suffocated and could make them a tiny little bit resentful.
As a mentor it's good to allow your proteges some room to be themselves and not constantly breathe hard over their every activities..
(4) Hyperdependence:
Some Mentors are crafty, they take off a few pieces/clues off the puzzle deliberately just to make sure their proteges keeps coming back to feast from their palms. This creates hyperdependence which isn't exactly cool.
However a good protege always knows his mentor should be consulted in times of difficulty that requires experienced counsel.
So to cut the whole long story short, Mentors should value their proteges and proteges should value their mentors.
Cheers!
Remain Blessed! Well said. The greatest of all is when a man forces himself on another person to be his or her mentor. Mentorship should be a 2-way thing. Every mentor, teacher or even potential mentors should ask themselves this - do your mentees see you as their mentor? 1 Like |
| Re: Four Reasons For Mentor-Protege Clashes by Sunmolar(m): 4:23pm On Aug 19, 2020 |
Mentors in Nigeria,I hail ooooo.
While mentoring you,they re ursurping you.
If you think you're clever,they tell you go to hell. 1 Like |
| Re: Four Reasons For Mentor-Protege Clashes by ademchij: 3:32am On Aug 03, 2021 |
constancefriday:
The 4 main reason why should be mentors clash or quarrel with should've been protege are:
(1) Respect Issues: Respect is a two way traffic. Some mentors make the mistake of thinking respect should come in one direction (their direction alone) and not flow back through the return path.
I hear things like, am i your mate? Did you know how many years i've been doing this Boy?? etc
Success is not about who's doing things first, it's about who's doing it the best way.
A Mentor is not really a mentor if his proteges aren't doing better than him. I've trained lots of students who're presently very successful in their various fields of life. They even appear more successful than me as we speak (However i'm still pursuing towards more personal successes as an individual fyi). It speaks well of me as a mentor. Proteges should respect the years of experience of their mentors if they want to last longer in the game or business.
(2) Misinterpretation of Confidence: As a young successful and evolving Teacher, Preacher and Motivational Speaker i've experienced occassions when older Folks in my career came and rapped me on the top and said "You don't have respect" and i'm like: "wait a second why in the heck did i get rapped on the top so hard? I was just being confident with my skills Sir. I didn't mean no harm! Do i even have to apologise for being rapped hard on my top for being confident. You don't have to apologise for being bold and confident! Young Folks but try to be respectful.
(3) Suffocating Grip: This has to do with always keeping an eye on every single jot, piece and gobbet of what the protege is up to. Micromanaging your protege makes them feel suffocated and could make them a tiny little bit resentful.
As a mentor it's good to allow your proteges some room to be themselves and not constantly breathe hard over their every activities..
(4) Hyperdependence:
Some Mentors are crafty, they take off a few pieces/clues off the puzzle deliberately just to make sure their proteges keeps coming back to feast from their palms. This creates hyperdependence which isn't exactly cool.
However a good protege always knows his mentor should be consulted in times of difficulty that requires experienced counsel.
So to cut the whole long story short, Mentors should value their proteges and proteges should value their mentors.
One more thing GRATITUDE is a virtue.
When the Mentor is grateful to his proteges and the Protege is grateful to his mentor there's least likely gonna be issues between them.
Cheers!
Remain Blessed!!
Yours Sincerely;
Apostle Constance Friday. |
| Re: Four Reasons For Mentor-Protege Clashes by stephieok: 9:21am On Sep 26, 2021 |
constancefriday:
The 4 main reason why should be mentors clash or quarrel with should've been protege are:
(1) Respect Issues: Respect is a two way traffic. Some mentors make the mistake of thinking respect should come in one direction (their direction alone) and not flow back through the return path.
I hear things like, am i your mate? Did you know how many years i've been doing this Boy?? etc
Success is not about who's doing things first, it's about who's doing it the best way.
A Mentor is not really a mentor if his proteges aren't doing better than him. I've trained lots of students who're presently very successful in their various fields of life. They even appear more successful than me as we speak (However i'm still pursuing towards more personal successes as an individual fyi). It speaks well of me as a mentor. Proteges should respect the years of experience of their mentors if they want to last longer in the game or business.
(2) Misinterpretation of Confidence: As a young successful and evolving Teacher, Preacher and Motivational Speaker i've experienced occassions when older Folks in my career came and rapped me on the top and said "You don't have respect" and i'm like: "wait a second why in the heck did i get rapped on the top so hard? I was just being confident with my skills Sir. I didn't mean no harm! Do i even have to apologise for being rapped hard on my top for being confident. You don't have to apologise for being bold and confident! Young Folks but try to be respectful.
(3) Suffocating Grip: This has to do with always keeping an eye on every single jot, piece and gobbet of what the protege is up to. Micromanaging your protege makes them feel suffocated and could make them a tiny little bit resentful.
As a mentor it's good to allow your proteges some room to be themselves and not constantly breathe hard over their every activities..
(4) Hyperdependence:
Some Mentors are crafty, they take off a few pieces/clues off the puzzle deliberately just to make sure their proteges keeps coming back to feast from their palms. This creates hyperdependence which isn't exactly cool.
However a good protege always knows his mentor should be consulted in times of difficulty that requires experienced counsel.
So to cut the whole long story short, Mentors should value their proteges and proteges should value their mentors.
One more thing GRATITUDE is a virtue.
When the Mentor is grateful to his proteges and the Protege is grateful to his mentor there's least likely gonna be issues between them.
Cheers!
Remain Blessed!!
Yours Sincerely;
Apostle Constance Friday. |
