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Re: My Wife Won't Cook For Our Guests. Please Advise Me by CanadianNaija: 11:21pm On Sep 03, 2020 |
Gantofi: He’s living in heaven. We can not quarrel over a problem that money will solve. You people want to form alpha male but can’t afford 20k for caterer. Bunch of hungry smellos, it’s the hungry women that look your way that I pity. 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife Won't Cook For Our Guests. Please Advise Me by LoveJesus87(m): 11:22pm On Sep 03, 2020 |
SmileDance:rat poison ke? na u gan gan be the real wife material |
Re: My Wife Won't Cook For Our Guests. Please Advise Me by Nobody: 11:23pm On Sep 03, 2020 |
Nooil:So to cook and perform one of your wifely duties is trauma now, . I feel for your husband or perhaps future husband if you aren't married cos this is the height of rebellion. If I were the OP I won't say anything again no need forcing her but I will make sure she regrets it one way or another |
Re: My Wife Won't Cook For Our Guests. Please Advise Me by Nobody: 11:25pm On Sep 03, 2020 |
CanadianNaija:What a show of shame ,you are a lost cause. |
Re: My Wife Won't Cook For Our Guests. Please Advise Me by otesy: 11:26pm On Sep 03, 2020 |
I think your wife is already stressed from the day to day activities of running your home. I assume there kids in the marriage and I didn't hear you say anything about her having or not having a help. A lot of men are oblivious to the stress a lot of women go through in the course of running the home especially when the kids are still young. If you really must host these people look for other ways. Don't stress the already stressed woman. |
Re: My Wife Won't Cook For Our Guests. Please Advise Me by royalfly(m): 11:26pm On Sep 03, 2020 |
Wingarnium: Abeg shut up... abeg sorry o but u Dey talk rubbish.. what is enslave in just cooking and cleaning, the guy offer to help... I don’t understand o. Watch this woman will do worse things in future.. if she refuse to help the man wash his clothes no problem but to cook my dear even whites host friends all the time and just like the guy wanted to do help each other. You could see the man grilling the meat while the woman cuts the veggies as the case maybe.. onyinbo life nor go kill una.. even the onyinbo is retracing their steps while Nigerians are blindly running forward to nonsense.. now I know why this country is like this. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Won't Cook For Our Guests. Please Advise Me by LoveJesus87(m): 11:27pm On Sep 03, 2020 |
SirMichael1:she is pregnant. How is her health? |
Re: My Wife Won't Cook For Our Guests. Please Advise Me by CanadianNaija: 11:30pm On Sep 03, 2020 |
Gantofi: Alpha male without two kobo to rub together. It’s your hungry kind that will come here and insult the likes of Regina and call her a gold digger for marrying a rich older man, but at least her husband won’t open Nairaland thread when time comes to offset stress from her life. That’s why you people marry young women and turn them to wretched looking grandmas in their prime all in a bid to please your wretched asses. Ndi ji ahuhu anyi isi! Sufferhead is your ambition and badge of honor. 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife Won't Cook For Our Guests. Please Advise Me by Olabestonic001(m): 11:32pm On Sep 03, 2020 |
Bonjovi13: Tell me you're joking with this comment! How do you guys do your love-life self? Trying to be nice to his wife some days before speaking on it? Buy her gifts in advance because of hosting friends? Speaking about it after a love-making session? Haba, if this is what women are perceived to be, then there is a bigger problem than I think in our generation. When we shouted that you guys should learn to practice abstinence before marriage, you think it was an old school style. I say you, earn your respect before getting married. @Op, as someone said, your wife seems not to respect you and that's where the war is being lost. I tell you, if your wife honors and respect you, she'll not reject your request after telling her you'll participate actively in the cooking; which honorable and good wife does that! I've been married for some years and contrary to all those 'small girls' yabbying on the first and second pages, a wife doesn't insist on her 'independence' to the detriment of her hubby's honor. A wife is one with you and of she hates your gathering, she'd have hinted or tell you. A true wife doesn't wait till a time like this to 'cut her husband to size'. She is showing a very bad trait of a potential rebellious wife. And yes, a wife can be rebellious. My advice: Try to understand her point of view and the rationale behind her rejection. Don't show too much emotion as that can cloud the conversation. If she still insists, get away to satisfy the people coming and never be bitter towards her. After the get-together, tell her how much she hurts you and start your A-game at reclaiming the mandate and asserting your philosophy in the home. One of the things men lose easily is the opportunity to establish the philosophy of the home. A man leads based on his philosophy and not money. If you can take the baton to create a philosophy for your home, your wife will 'tear-face' and you'd lose the war that the world is waging against the home. Whatever you do, you might loss this battle but win the war. 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Won't Cook For Our Guests. Please Advise Me by Nobody: 11:32pm On Sep 03, 2020 |
so only ur wife will just do the cooking alone? dem dey forbid for the other men's wives to join and assist ur wife in the cooking? why are u killing ur wife with stress oga u think its easy cooking for 50-100 hefty men? guy suggest the wives of the other men and some ladies in the church assist ur wife whenever there is cooking to be done.i presume too she might belong to one group in the church..dose ones can assist as well.no let any mumuish argument go develop over ordinary cooking |
Re: My Wife Won't Cook For Our Guests. Please Advise Me by Nobody: 11:39pm On Sep 03, 2020 |
tabithababy:e no reach to kick im wife .during church or group celebration its expected that the other wives come to the host"s home to assist the wife in cooking.why saddle the wife with all the cooking.let the other women also aid the woman in cooking.so the men and their wives will be in the sitting room drinking and laughing with the op while his wife will be all alone in the steaming kitchen doing all the cooking. if na me i will tell dem i am not ready to host anyting cos food no dey house. |
Re: My Wife Won't Cook For Our Guests. Please Advise Me by Nobody: 11:44pm On Sep 03, 2020 |
[quote author=SirMichael1 post=93497613] She listens to her parents. Thing is, I don't want to involve them. The last time, I pounded the yam for over 20 guests but she recieved the compliments. I just don't want to look like a dictator forcing her. I just need her to assist me in making the soup and i even told her i'll get her an assitant from the church to help her out. L[/quote the other men who come to eat free food in ur home under the guise of one religious group..their wives should aid ur wife in the kitchen.dats the right way to do.dont stress ur wife abeg.if the other women say they wont do it then its not by force to host. |
Re: My Wife Won't Cook For Our Guests. Please Advise Me by ezugegere(m): 11:44pm On Sep 03, 2020 |
patani: I don't put unnecessary burden on my wife, unless she chooses to by herself. If I were in his position, I know exactly what to do. You think it's easy for one woman to serve 20 people abi, especially if she's not used to that kind of thing? Why can't you just contact one food seller (mama put) around your area if you can't afford a caterer? You know you don't have money but you're gathering people. Why didn't you ask another person to host since you know you don't have money? Abeg make he carry his cross! 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Won't Cook For Our Guests. Please Advise Me by delishpot: 11:45pm On Sep 03, 2020 |
Oga, I understand your wife and I understand you. But I must implore you to not take it as a sin. The woman no get power to do wahala of cooking. If she has relatives around to help her just do invite them over. The rimming may be too soon for her hence her frustration. |
Re: My Wife Won't Cook For Our Guests. Please Advise Me by Nobody: 11:55pm On Sep 03, 2020 |
bukatyne:its not an easy feat cooking for 20 hefty full grown men.even me dat is a guy knows how stressfull that can be.the amount of yam u will slice in the pot and the amount of soap u will cook.not to mention the cowmeat she go cut...haba u wan kill her? the way i know this is normally done is that the men who will come for the church picnic their wives will help out the host"s wife in the kitchen.during those xmas days wen i dey house lots of ppl will visit us and women will come to help out my.that the wives of these men just sit back while op"s wife does all the work in the kitchen shows they are heartless.if na me i will just tell dem i dont want to host anymore.if dem like make dem report me to pastor..i wont budge. |
Re: My Wife Won't Cook For Our Guests. Please Advise Me by ezugegere(m): 12:08am On Sep 04, 2020 |
A sensible man would know the strength and weaknesses of his wife and try to understand with her. Some women enjoy cooking, even if you ask them to cook for hundred men, they'll be happy doing it. If your wife is not that type, understand with her. Don't compare your wife with your friend's wife! 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Won't Cook For Our Guests. Please Advise Me by simplesearch: 12:16am On Sep 04, 2020 |
SocialJustice: And you could be doing worse for your townsmen. Hypocrite you are, he needs your advice don't infect him with your Antichrist spirit! |
Re: My Wife Won't Cook For Our Guests. Please Advise Me by DrFunmisticGlow: 12:19am On Sep 04, 2020 |
GboyegaD:If she was 5 months pregnant during the last one, that means she has a small child who is like a year and 4 months, who is learning to walk all over the place. This is dangerous. |
Re: My Wife Won't Cook For Our Guests. Please Advise Me by laluski(m): 12:21am On Sep 04, 2020 |
UyaiIncomparabl: Why did you just insult him...am very curious.. |
Re: My Wife Won't Cook For Our Guests. Please Advise Me by bukatyne(f): 12:24am On Sep 04, 2020 |
lefulefu: Nobody said it is easy however, as the wife of the home, she is their hostess. The OP has offered to make the Semo and get someone to help her. All she needs to do is to go to the market and make the soup. The other person would be on hand to help her serve and they can figure out how to clear the sink the next day. The thread is strange to me: I don't know anyone around me (across different cultures and income levels) that would debate the wife's responsibility to host her husband's guests. The level would now determine the kind of help they would employ to make it easier. This event is once in two years: not once a month or once a week or daily. Once in two years. The fact that people think the wife has a 'choice' in the matter is baffling. Everyone to their own world. 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Won't Cook For Our Guests. Please Advise Me by Image123(m): 12:24am On Sep 04, 2020 |
SirMichael1: Mr Michael, why must you people cook or meet at all. Why not shift the meeting to another venue if you must meet at all? Is it pride? So you are ready to use your church group to put your wife asunder? You are looking for cheap and free labour from your wife. Can you ever pay your wife like you would pay a caterer to cook for your group? She's only responsible for cooking for you and your family, not for all these unnecessary meetings. Work on your relationship bro, your wife is not a servant in your house. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Won't Cook For Our Guests. Please Advise Me by Image123(m): 12:29am On Sep 04, 2020 |
Gantofi: Wow, take it easy oga head of the family. The head doesn't have to be a burden or cause ache or be too big for the body. There is a foundational problem in why the wife does not want to go all the way as host. Is it by force to host world cup? Which height of rebellion. Did she stop cooking for him or the family? |
Re: My Wife Won't Cook For Our Guests. Please Advise Me by emmyileri(m): 12:31am On Sep 04, 2020 |
I have issue with your church not your wife. Why are you guys pretending to be who you are not. It doesn't make any sense to me, does cooking food foster unity among yourselves. Please suggest other things. |
Re: My Wife Won't Cook For Our Guests. Please Advise Me by Image123(m): 12:37am On Sep 04, 2020 |
royalfly: There are underlying problems in the marriage which the Lady is reacting to. Who knows how many nos the man has said to the woman only to bring this undiscussed unwarranted meeting up. Who knows how many faces she does not want to see talk less of cook for. This is 2020, even pikin now has some say in the family. You can't just go and finish discussion and party with church members then come back home to order your servants to carry it out and entertain your bros in the lord. |
Re: My Wife Won't Cook For Our Guests. Please Advise Me by Image123(m): 12:38am On Sep 04, 2020 |
emmyileri: Exactly. They can't spend 20k but they want to eat. Is it by force to do love feast. Can't they do vigil? |
Re: My Wife Won't Cook For Our Guests. Please Advise Me by simplesearch: 12:43am On Sep 04, 2020 |
lilyheaven: Bla bla bla, once you guys can put words together and make proper sentence you count that for wisdom and start denigrating or insulting the church at every giving opportunity. Do you know what part they've played in his life. Do you know where he is coming from. The church has given hope to so many people already, many with bleak future headed for an unknown destination have been recovered. Many would never have got married or get into the prestigious circle they find themselves today if not through the church they attended, and you're there talking about economic value of the church as if you knew where you'll be where you are today 20 years ago. Just tread softly and don't allow the trend of time destroy the image of God in you. |
Re: My Wife Won't Cook For Our Guests. Please Advise Me by simplesearch: 12:44am On Sep 04, 2020 |
lilyheaven: Bla bla bla, once you guys can put words together and make proper sentence you count that for wisdom and start denigrating or insulting the church at every giving opportunity. Do you know what part they've played in his life. Do you know where he is coming from. The church has given hope to so many people already, many with bleak future headed for an unknown destination have been recovered. Many would never have got married or get into the prestigious circle they find themselves today if not through the church they attended, and you're there talking about economic value of the church as if you know you'll be where you are today 20 years ago. Just tread softly and don't allow the trend of time destroy the image of God in you. |
Re: My Wife Won't Cook For Our Guests. Please Advise Me by Image123(m): 12:46am On Sep 04, 2020 |
ezugegere: i guess that the comparison is with his mother. You know those mothers dey cook every month for village meeting. |
Re: My Wife Won't Cook For Our Guests. Please Advise Me by Nobody: 12:48am On Sep 04, 2020 |
Gantofi: Wifely duties now includes cooking for 20-25 guests while she is 5 months pregnant right? I pity your future wife. Even our forefathers weren't this crude. All these wicked men everywhere. |
Re: My Wife Won't Cook For Our Guests. Please Advise Me by OROSUNBOLB(m): 12:52am On Sep 04, 2020 |
CanadianNaija: You seriously need to shut up that putrid gutter of yours ! What is wrong with you ? If you don't have any sensible solution to proffer to that gentleman's problem, you can as well keep your toxic feminist suggestions to your sorry self na ! You're just a frustrated lowlife who is unable to find any man to call her own husband. Who would want to be unfortunate in life to have a crazy being like you as wife anyway ? It's really sad that a lot of innocent women may be buying into the demonic and stupid ideas you're spreading here now. Broken marriages and homes are on the increase in Africa because of foreign satanic ideas that lunatics like you are spreading around just to uphold your senseless feminist ideology. 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Won't Cook For Our Guests. Please Advise Me by Fairbanks(m): 12:59am On Sep 04, 2020 |
SirMichael1: She's doing u good. U better give urself brain man and don't waste ur resources now in d name of church or religious whatsoever. Man try manage ur resources well and Don't pray to have little problem because u won't see any of them in ur house anymore. come and ask me enh? |
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