**Things many single people concentrate on while courting:

- Looks
- Physique
- Eloquence (especially of English Language)
- Style
- General appearance
- Short term gifts
- Surface character
- Present car
- Degree
- Socialization
- Attraction
- Place of employment

**Things that truly matter in marriage

- Deep positive character
- Direction and aspirations
- Time
- Respect
- Financial sense
- Patience
- Attention to details
- Desire to continuously get better
- Friendship
- Intelligence beyond education
- Skills and actual job role
- Communication
- Emotional intelligence

The truth becomes clear when one has already taken the plunge. Then reality dawns and the real hustle begins. The lucky ones are able to create that which they need......unfortunately, many are not as lucky.

The courting period is not just for fun, take from it, the things that truly matter (to you). If many of us married, had the chance to go back, we would check differently. Don't make the mistakes we made. They are usually difficult to correct.

Shamseddin Giwa

Comment:

Actually that is what happened during courtship. The first listed attribute are the elements that attract us. Not knowing that the fundamentals attributes below are essential for marriage continuity.
Thanks for sharing.
Note : Those costly mistakes are difficult to correct.
Sometimes you wish to turn back the hand of time,may be some steps could be trace... Just a wish . Though we still need to move forward not to dwell on the mistake of the past.
Thanks for sharing.

"If many of us married, had the chance to go back, we would check differently. Don't make the mistakes we made. They are usually difficult to correct."
��Brutally honest and gives us all a manual reset. �