Sometimes I take a look back on marriages in my family and the society and see where exorbitant amounts were spent on wedding ceremonies only for the marriages to hit the rocks a few years later.

Is it not better to celebrate 20/30/40 years wedding anniversary than the wedding itself? Because that way one can take stock of one's life, see how either partner has been a blessing to each other, and move on.

Even in university admission, Matriculation is not celebrated as much, but graduation. Even graduation comes with mixed reactions because you never know if you will get a job with it, or even keep it away ad hustle in business.

I remember weddings of Tiwa savage, toke makinwa that year. E loud, Even the FCMB saga banker who died, celebrated his wedding not knowing what the future held. We often forget the risk involved. Many men and women have had their lives worsened via the marriage intuition. Some have also made their lives better.

Also, Almost all marriages had prayers in it. before and after prayers, was it that those prayers were not answered or what went wrong?

In a nutshell, I believe and support marriages. I just don't think it makes no sense to go over and beyond celebrating marriages nowadays with the inherent risk of the union ending up. I would rather spend on an anniversary, on my partner, celebrating and thanking God for a successful union so far.

All of these things make me observe.

The question should be; Must we celebrate??


Celebration of wedding isn't a sure guarantee that the marriage will work out. And at the same time, celebration of marriage anniversary isn't also a sure yardstick to measure or weigh the happiness of the marriage.

Celebrations these days are most times, just for gram and shouldn't be used as a tool to judge or conclude the success and happiness of people.

Thanks.

NextD18:

Oga, why you dey laugh.

The matter get as e be abi e be as e get....lol

But on a serious note, the events and times require both men and women to calm down and observe. Dont be too anxious about getting married and all. Just get married, observe.

NextD18:
The question should be; Must we celebrate??


Celebration of wedding isn't a sure guarantee that the marriage will work out. And at the same time, celebration of marriage anniversary isn't also a sure yardstick to measure or weigh the happiness of the marriage.

Celebrations these days are most times, just for gram and shouldn't be used as a tool to judge or conclude the success and happiness of people.

Thanks.

Hmnn. This one deep oo. Must we even celebrate ? Some people will come with the argument that it is religious, cultural and all.

I get your drift though, couples should not equate celebrating weddings as a gurantee that the marriage will work. Even for those who don't celebrate, it does not gurantee a succesful marriage.

But will our women agree to get married without any celebration?

Smile4mee01:


Hmnn. This one deep oo. Must we even celebrate ? Some people will come with the argument that it is religious, cultural and all.

I get your drift though, couples should not equate celebrating weddings as a gurantee that the marriage will work. Even for those who don't celebrate, it does not gurantee a succesful marriage.

But will our women agree to get married without any celebration?

No! Because the celebration is one of the major reasons they get married.

celebrate anyone you feel like celebrating, but don't let it push you into depts

I feel the both should be celebrated. One, because wedding is a once in a lifetime event. Two, because anniversary is something worth calling for celebration as it's not easy being able to stick together amidst all the storms of marriage throughout the year. So, both calls for celebration and a big one at that.

To me...it's pointless celebrating weddings or their anniversary.

I have chosen for my Wedding to be celebrated low key with few family and friends and lest I forget it's going to be just a court wedding. after which we proceed to the small reception.


in this part of the world, we attach so much value in glamorous wedding celebrations, forgetting that their more to marriage than having an elaborate wedding which most times is jus to impress the public.


I'm not following the bandwagon..... mine would be different.

abeg check my signature to place orders for your duvets

Anniversary is worth celebrating. Wedding is once but marriage is a journey you cannot predict.

Wedding anniversary is to be celebrated. Both wedding and anniversary can be celebrated in a low key. I love my privacy

I still am regretting doing that useless white wedding and spending extravagantly on a one day event that isn't mandatory but just because we want to copy whites.

Even had to ask MC to get to closing remark so everyone can eat and go home the moment we realized we weren't making sense of what was going on around us.
I mean even people who didnt like us practically were shinning teeth and dancing...
Like who u dey whine? My food should be choking u for all I know Sef.

Been 6 years of bliss and I look forward to every years anniversary and would advice anyone with ears, do not waste money copying oyibo when at the end of day you won't even see a quarter of what u invested Abi spent. Unless u have president as your papa, then go ahead.

Use that money for white wedding, travel to Dubai or Santorini...other nice places exist like langkawi in Malaysia. Nice tourist bubbling locations plenty. One week expense won't even be up to the 3m u will spend in one day to please mostly people u won't even know came for the wedding.
Cooking for 600people...like wtf?!
This topic alone is vexing me. I feel like slapping myself again walahi

Marriage

In my own area over here, people now celebrate breakup of Marriages...

Well, personally,I prefer marriage anniversary to wedding ceremony abi whatever.....It could be used as a format of rekindling love in the home

The one Wey your money reach

I see Uselessness in Men

Anniversary

During wedding and marriage anniversary, quarrel and fight still occur yes so it is not about the marriage celebration or the wedding anniversary, it is about the love and understanding the couple have for each other..

Is wedding not a marriage ceremony?

It's mostly the woman that puts pressure for elaborate wedding celebrations.
Left to the man, he won't mind serving only groundnuts & biscuits with pure water. Then carry him wife enter house.

Why can't we celebrate the two?

Hmmmmm


That's why one is called wedding (1 day event) and the other is called marriage (life time event).

People spend a lot of money on their wedding (to please others so they say their wedding was the talk of the town) and live from hand to mouth or live paying off debt in the marriage.


Marriage is more important than the wedding IMO.

No matter how you wish for your wedding to be the talk of the town, by the next weekend, another wedding would have taken the spotlight.

Example, look at Dangote's daughter's wedding, it had all the billionaires and who-is-who in attendance. Guess what?? No one talked about it after 2 weeks. The euphoria was gone.

But till tomorrow we still talk about celebrities and known people who have spent long years in their marriage.

We celebrate wedding only once but we celebrate marriage anniversary every year.

Do the math yourself.

Celebrate each milestone of your life o. Birthday, wedding anniversary, work anniversary, celebrate all.

In a time when marriages end in months, celebrate each year and intensify prayers and improve on how to make your marriage better.

Say other people own spoil no mean say you no go happy say your own good.

ogashman:
To me...it's pointless celebrating weddings or their anniversary.

I have chosen for my Wedding to be celebrated low key with few family and friends and lest I forget it's going to be just a court wedding. after which we proceed to the small reception.


in this part of the world, we attach so much value in glamorous wedding celebrations, forgetting that their more to marriage than having an elaborate wedding which most times is jus to impress the public.


I'm not following the bandwagon..... mine would be different.

abeg check my signature to place orders for your duvets

God go provide 4 u, perhaps moni no dey ya porket!

Anniversary

Not all weddings or marriages loudly celebrated hit d rock, and not all uncelebrated weddings or marriages are necessarily successful!

Time & chance happen 2 them all, says d Preacher!

My punchline is dt, everyone is responsible 4 their own happiness or misery!

Thus, u can deliberately create ur own bliss & choose 2 make urself happy by celebrating & enjoying every moment of ur life, wich wldn't exclude wedding or marriage occasion!

Meanwhile, pple wil only hv 2 be wise & prudent enough not 2 overheat themselves by outlandishly squandering d resources they don't truly possess in d name of celebration!

However, if they're truly in command of d cash, maybe like Cubana & d likes, let them feel free 2 elaborately celebrate & hilariously jubilate while throwing some mighty giveaways 2 well-wishers & fans!

Take it frm me, not exactly d same things, bt different things, are problems 2 different folks!

Celebration is neva d cause 4 failed marriages, neither is non-celebration d reason 4 successful marriages!

D operators of marriages hv a lot in their hands dt determine weda their individual marriage succeeds or fails!