Greetings to you my brethen.

Now, while cohabiting with someone else is not a sin in itself, based on the context
(premarital cohabitation) in which we are going to be looking at it in a nutshell, it is an act that could lead to sin. Eg, the sin of fornication.

A lot of people have deviated from the ancient landmark and practices of old that preserved our moral values and good conducts in time past. Everyone and even some Christians are now creating and following a wrong path and pattern of practice. promoting sexual Immorality hence the rise in moral decadence in the society. The worst of it is, parents, guardians and even some religious leaders have been silent about it, refusing to take a step towards putting a stop to these anormalies and the anger of God is kindled against those who do such.

Read...
1 Samuel 3:12-14 In that day I will perform against Eli all things which I have spoken concerning his house: when I begin, I will also make an end.
For I have told him that I will judge his house for ever for the iniquity which he knoweth; because his sons made themselves vile, and he restrained them not.
And therefore I have sworn unto the house of Eli, that the iniquity of Eli's house shall not be purged with sacrifice nor offering for ever.

Premarital cohabitation is when two people of opposite sex are living together as husband and wife when they are not legally married. This practice is veeery common today in our society and has even crept into the house of God. You'll see a bro and a sis that are not married cohabiting and they still come and lift up "holy" hands in the house of God and join the workforce. This is very wrong in the sight of God and man.

They even have students couple where young boys and girls live together as spouses in school.

Some come to church and even join the work force as workers in the house of God but they are not legally married and they begin to birth children under this condition because no one is speaking up.

Now, When when these things become too much, it annoys God and He can get even with the fellow, Family or even group of people carrying out such evil practices in his sight. Just like he got angry with the sons of Eli and sent a warning to their father. telling him he would deal with his sons for their evil ways since Eli has refused to correct his children on their wrong doings just like no one is speaking up against this issue of premarital cohabitation, especially in the Church today.


Read...
1 Samuel 3:16-18

Then Eli called Samuel, and said, Samuel, my son. And he answered, Here am I.
And he said, What is the thing that the LORD hath said unto thee? I pray thee hide it not from me: God do so to thee, and more also, if thou hide any thing from me of all the things that he said unto thee.
And Samuel told him every whit, and hid nothing from him. And he said, It is the LORD: let him do what seemeth him good.

Instead of calling these people to order in the Church, everyone is feeling less concerned and forming, "I don't want to talk. Thou shalt not judge, It's God's house. Let Him handle it himself" bla bla...
Exactly Eli's reacting to God's warning. We saw how God dealt with him.

So my brethen, are you into premarital cohabitation? Please come out from it because apart from the spiritual inplications, there are other disadvantages of cohabiting with someone whom you're not legally married to.

We've heard cases of men who as a result of cohabiting with a girl was made to marry the corpse at death and perform the full marriage rites for the dead as tradition demands. Now, is that a good testimony?

Repent now from these evil practice and let's go back to the ancient landmark and practices of old where we waited paitiently in our fathers houses until all rites are performed before coming to live together as man and wife. It is not a difficult task or thing to do.

According to the book of
Genesis 29:18, 20-22, 28-29 And Jacob loved Rachel; and said, I will serve thee seven years for Rachel thy younger daughter.
And Jacob served seven years for Rachel; and they seemed unto him but a few days, for the love he had to her.
And Jacob said unto Laban, Give me my wife, for my days are fulfilled, that I may go in unto her.
And Laban gathered together all the men of the place, and made a feast.
And Jacob did so, and fulfilled her week: and he gave him Rachel his daughter to wife also.
And Laban gave to Rachel his daughter Bilhah his handmaid to be her maid.

See how long it took Jacob to get the love of his life. With hard work and respect for his would-be Father inlaw. That is how it is meant to be.

I pray the Lord gives us the grace to begin to retrace our steps back to the ancient landmark.

Shalom

Sex in our world is underrated!


Pornography depicts sex as a tic-tac anyhow game.


The entertainment industry makes it look like good morning.



A lady will proudly proclaim that she must have her husband before marriage to test his fertility, and vice versa.

The long wait till the wedding night is dead.


We need self-control.


We need to be with the right circle of people who understands the sacredness of not sinning against our bodies.


You are welcome.

I know it may be difficult for most to opt out now especially for those who have raised a family under this condition but would you rather the rites are perfomed at death or done alive more honorably to the glory of God and in respect for your parents?

May the holy Spirit guide you to go about it with wisdom.

chatinent:
Sex in our world is underrated!


Pornography depicts sex as a tic-tac anyhow game.


The entertainment industry makes it look like good morning.



A lady will proudly proclaim that she must have her husband before marriage to test his fertility, and vice versa.

The long wait till the wedding night is dead.


We need self-control.


We need to be with the right circle of people who understands the sacredness of not sinning against our bodies.


You are welcome.

Exactly! We also need the Grace of God.

Self discipline is dead in this generation but it can still be revived only and if only we can all speak up with one voice and kick against it before whats remaining of our moral values is thrown completely to the dogs. Then we'll have nothing to pass down to guide the generations coming after us.

It is well.

AsherAmari:


Exactly! We also need the Grace of God.

Self discipline is dead in this generation but it can still be revived only and if only we can all speak up with one voice and kick against it before whats remaining of our moral values is thrown completely to the dogs. Then we'll have nothing to pass down and guide the generations coming after us.

It is well.

Absolutely.

Bump!

You are either married or unmarried. Stop confusing your marital status.

I have nothing against dating or intending couples visiting each other at home or for a short weekend stay, but to move in and co-habit as if you are already married . The next thing you may hear is, why should I buy the cow when I am getting the milk for free. One morally bankrupt/foolish person even told me on one thread, that I am not ready to marry with this my kind of standards. In my mind I said look at this idiot, he thinks every woman is desperate for marriage, dem no use marriage swear for me o!

Imagine that kind of mindset. It's things like this that will keep encouraging this immoral behavior.

Who says until one cohabits with the opposite sex they cant get married and have a happy home? Too many insecurities.

Well, whether they believe it or not, it doesn't always end well and its not the best.

Let him that has ears, listen.

Good to know we still have a few people who still have high moral standards.

Thanks for stopping by.

A simple case of selective morality is all I can glean from this post.

It would have been noteworthy to begin your preaching from the larger issue of premarital sex & relationships and how they should be avoided COMPLETELY, before delving into the smaller issue of premarital cohabitation.

If we were to live by the ancient landmarks (whatever this means), then people shouldn't have any romantic relationships with anyone of the opposite sex until they're just ready for marriage.
Just like Jacob, men would simply go meet the woman's family and pick her out for marriage – no courting, no dating, and no opportunity to have any kind of premarital what-nots.

It's always amazing though when the same group of people who have had/having/will continue having premarital sexual relationships, and keep talking about how preserving one's virginity until her wedding night is NOT a guarantee for having a blissful marriage, still boldface turn around to act high and mighty in judgement of other people who cohabit with their sexual partners – as if it's not all the same sin.

Hilarious...

crackhaus:
A simple case of selective morality is all I can glean from this post.

It would have been noteworthy to begin your preaching from the larger issue of premarital sex & relationships and how they should be avoided COMPLETELY, before delving into the smaller issue of premarital cohabitation.

If we were to live by the ancient landmarks (whatever this means), then people shouldn't have any romantic relationships with anyone of the opposite sex until they're just ready for marriage.

Just like Jacob, men would simply go meet the woman's family and pick her out for marriage – no courting, no dating, and no opportunity to have any kind of premarital what-nots.

It's always amazing when the same group of people who have had/having/will continue having premarital sexual relationships, and keep talking about how preserving one's virginity until her wedding night is NOT a guarantee for having a blissful marriage, still boldface turn around to act high and mighty in judgement of other people who cohabit with their sexual partners partners – as if it's not all the same sin.

Hilarious...

Your opinion.

whether premarital sex, or premarital cohabitation, it's still the same and one thing because with premarital cohabitation, comes premarital sex. They are inseparable. They both coexist. So whether I mentioned one first instead of the other really makes no difference.

Also don't try to get personal here with your comments by attacking the messenger. Leave the messenger and take hold of the message. Very key.

A valid point you help me buttressed there about going back completely to the ancient landmark like in the days of Jacob. That would be very fantastic! And I welcome the idea. At least it will reduce drastically the rate of sexual immorality and decadence that has eaten deep I to the society and help build back our moral standards and value system.

Anyways, I'm glad you got the message. So, if you are into such or have friends who indulge in such practices, tell them to desist from it henceforth.

AsherAmari:


Your opinion.

whether premarital sex, or premarital cohabitation, it's still the same and one thing because with premarital cohabitation, comes premarital sex. They are inseparable. They both coexist. So whether I mentioned one first instead of the other really makes no difference.

Also don't try to get personal here with your comments by attacking the messenger. Leave the messenger and take hold of the message. Very key.

A valid point you help me buttressed there about going back completely to the ancient landmark like in the days of Jacob. That would be very fantastic! And I welcome the idea. At least it will reduce drastically the rate of sexual immorality and decadence that has eaten deep I to the society and help build back our moral standards and value system.

Anyways, I'm glad you got the message. So, if you are into such or have friends who indulge in such practices, tell them to desist from it henceforth.

Or else wha?

@red bold, are you saying you don't mind not dating/courting a man.. he just goes to your parents to ask for your hand huh.

You lie...

crackhaus:

Or else wha?

Go and read the OP again. You'll see it there.

AsherAmari:


Go and read the OP again. You'll see it there.

Anger of God, is that it?

Lol @that scare tactics.

If you're trying to win the hearts of youths in this generation, fearmongering is the last tactic you want to employ...

crackhaus:

Anger of God, is that it?

Lol @that scare tactics.

If you're trying to win the hearts of youths in this generation, fearmongering is the last tactic you want to employ...

Was that the only one you saw? There are other consequences too that stem up from traditional beliefs and the rest.

No be pozehani aka ashirawealthy be this
Which day you turn to Mother Mary ??

What if that man you're cohabiting with, wakes up one morning and tells you, madam, I found someone I want to marry? Or worst still, tells you, " last time I traveled, I went to perform the marriage rites on my wife. Please you have to move out because my wedding is few weeks away and wifey will be moving in with me immesiately after the ceremony..

what would you do? I'm sure you know he has every right to do that because he was never married to YOU!

What if that woman drops dead in your house?

What if she comes and tells you *someone has paid my bride price. I'll be leaving tonight* yes, she has the right cos you haven't paid her bride price.

What if?
What if?

Klass99:
Asher, I didn't read your post but the topic of the thread caught my interest and I'll respond to the topic alone not the poin.

1. In one thread the couples were online insulting and embarrassing themselves I think that thread went into 49 pages sef.

2. In another thread, a guy complained about his date who never contributes a dime for anything and he pays for everything, he even thought his girl worked in one of those organizations where

According to a popular american research online, it says and i quote "most people find cohabitation acceptable for an unmarried couple to live together even if they don't plan to get married. A majority also says that married and cohabiting couples can raise children equally well. At the same time, the public still sees societal benefits in marriage, and many say marriage is important, tho not necessarily essential, in order for a man or a woman to live a fulfilling life."

@your topic no

Premarital cohabitation
Premarital sex
etc and etc are not justifiable .

Nice thread.

It's just so funny that our so called Christian brothers and sisters are engaging in pre-marital cohabitation.

Parents and elders are not even talking so that they won't be tagged wicked or archaic.