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Re: I Feel Very Guilty Whenever I Have Sex by Mayvin: 8:54pm On May 03, 2021 |
MeghaneMorgane: I pray God gives you the grace to keep holding on. The stuff you see on those porn movies are totally exaggerated; the act is not as exciting as it seems. Believe me, you're not missing out on anything special. 1 Like |
Re: I Feel Very Guilty Whenever I Have Sex by Mayvin: 8:58pm On May 03, 2021 |
turasumon: I appreciate your advice; I'll give it an honest thought. I just feel I need to overcome this problem of lust before marriage. Cause I feel if I don't deal with it before tying the knot, it will be an issue when I eventually settle down. 1 Like |
Re: I Feel Very Guilty Whenever I Have Sex by Mayvin: 8:59pm On May 03, 2021 |
chatinent: I appreciate you for taking out time to put this out. I read every word, and I'm really grateful for your contribution. |
Re: I Feel Very Guilty Whenever I Have Sex by Mayvin: 9:10pm On May 03, 2021 |
crazygod: I like her a whole lot, but just as a friend. She's very intelligent and goal oriented. However, we share contrasting ideas on a wide range of subjects and life vision. Hence, marriage can't possibly work. Moreso, I don't love her. |
Re: I Feel Very Guilty Whenever I Have Sex by crackhaus: 11:35pm On May 03, 2021 |
Mayvin:I had to log in just to tell you that nothing is wrong with you brother. It's good that you understand this before one of those idealistic people comes here to ask you how you can have sex with someone you don't love... They don't realize that it's simply what men (most men) do/can do. Now back to the main issue: You're having a 'no-strings-attached' sexual relationship with a chic who totally understands the situation clearly. She's not married or dating anyone else, and she doesn't mind having this casual sex with you continuously. Hello there, please remind me why you started this thread again? Oh wait, I think just remembered... You always feel guilty after having premarital sex right? Well, duhh!! As if that's going to stop you from having sex with her again next week. On a more serious note now: Your problem my brother, is proximity – she's easily accessible, she's available to you, and she loves to fornicate just as much as you do. It's that simple. But if you really (as in, really) want to stop, you simply eliminate that 'closeness' – not the emotional one, only the physical one. However way you will choose to go about this, is really up to you... but please do it nicely, because on your bad days, on those days when you will feel so down and out, you may just find yourself longing for that body of hers which you can't control yourself from having enough of now. You already made a mistake by getting intimate with a neighbour (too close in proximity) – this was one of my many DON'TS when I was still like you. You just have to deal with this mess you have put yourself into one way or the other. 3 Likes |
Re: I Feel Very Guilty Whenever I Have Sex by 1F30M4(f): 4:47am On May 04, 2021 |
Hmmmmmmmmm tough nut to crack yhh I'd be lying if I say I do not know how crazy those hormones can be.. Sometimes it's just hard to get some sort of balance, what with hardship, daily struggles to pay bills, stress, etc we all just want to ease off some.. Just like sexual urges/feelings comes naturally oftentimes and even in odd times, we can't cheat nature ofcourse but I feel we can somewhat control our actions.. Bad habits die hard but that doesn't in any way mean that we can't outrightly do away with them; it's like a full-on battle and tbvfh it gets harder every day.. I won't mince words to say that you have alot of work to do yourself, I know this is really important to you aand it's been a work in progress since last year but now it feels like everything is ruined.. Actually it's not, I'd say you went too hard on yourself, so breathe, just breathe Mavin.. Listen, it's good to be optimistic, it's good to want to build targets or set goals, in that same vein you can never go wrong with being realistic about it.. Don't go calling long shots, baby steps will do, one step at a time.. I really do not want to go over your past sexcapades, I believe you're in the quest of finding your purpose now and it's certainly good to know how much your perspective has changed esp on the objectification of the female gender, that'll really help you in this quest I assure you.. Please do not put yourself to the test sooo early in your self-discovery journey, you'll feel like you're immune to temptations, nah that is never the case, nobody is immune to temptations even Jesus Christ wasn't, we just learn to deal with it squarely but in this context of testing yourself at the early stage will have you falling deep deep & deeper into temptation, very vulnerable also but you won't feel it lol.. So my dear, you haven't even drawn out your plans/strategies not to talk of mastering your act.. We do not know you as much as you do, so you should sit & think of how you can achieve this goal of yours, be realistic as much as possible cos as a human being you will always have sexual urges, the key however is in how you go about it.. Don't stay off sex for a while and then the next minute you're putting yourself in a situation where there could be a relapse all in a bid to "test" yourself, the outcome is never palatable as you can see, you'll fail woefully so don't make that mistake again.. I can tell that there are times you'll feel lonely yunno and could do with some company, yeah I'm stylishly talking about your neighbor.. Lines have been crossed so I do not think you both can keep that friendship going for a long time, I would've suggested asking her out and taking it up from there but I see you saying that won't work cos of contrasting differences between you two, I don't know how you'll define things esp now she's got some feelings for you.. Well, all I can say is for you not to push yourself too hard so much so it feels emotionally draining, let it flow with ease like blood in your veins, build your self-control, be decisive, be determined, let it be a lifestyle, your lifestyle.. Faith without work is dead sooo I'll encourage you to do what you have to do, God in His infinite goodness will do the rest.. Shalom! |
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