Hello All,

My wife is seriously suspecting am still engaging in a past relationship where I had an issue. Though I occasionally send money for the child school fees that's all. All these are known by my wife before we went into marriage but am just surprised this is coming up now. Pls advise me on how to handle this,thanks

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Sit her down and address the matter..
If she doesn't listen kukuma prove her right..
Okafor's law will work in your favor..

Gozye:
Hello All,
My wife is seriously suspecting am still engaging in a past relationship where I had an issue. Though I occasionally send money for the child school fees that's all. All these are known by my wife before we went into marriage but am just surprised this is coming up now. Pls advise me on how to handle this,thanks

Since you admit that there was indeed a relationship, it's better you consider her lack of confidence as a consequence of your acts.

It is not your place to try to "handle this". You are not meant to solve everything. Rather, let time do the handling instead.

Maybe you've been giving her cause to suspect you.
Make yourself trustworthy and don't give her cause to suspect you.

let her be the one handling the sending of the school fees so you don't have to connect with your ex in anyways again. That way trust is built and she'll drop the suspicions.

Always sit at home at every chance you get, na she go tire for you.

It is normal.

Even your children will feel a divided love. You have to prove to her your stance.

It is easy.

Spend more time with her. Be with her when you intend to send the money.

Avoid comparisons.

I wish you well.

Condom would have solved half of relationship problems we have in the world today.

After enjoying yourself ( no invitation was extended to us) wahala dey now and you want people to start insulting themselves here.

The reason I don't put mouth in davido, tuface, Paul etc relationship affairs.
When they were enjoying, I wasn't there, so why will I partake of their heartache?
They are still making millions out of us by sharing it on social media.


Oga, no advise for you unless you want me to call you brolosho

Women cha

My elder sister's husband is presently having a similar Problem with her....So I went to visit my sister at her store today and she brought up the discussion.....Na once I shun her instantly . Abi didn't you know he had children first before you accepted his proposal at the first place?

I just hate rubbish...Tho the truth is always bitter but I'll always spill it regardless of how you'll feel...Even my real Nighas know that...

Op, forget am say your wife will change, probably when you begin to spend time with her just to prove to her that you don't have a thing with your baby mama....Woman wey don keep such grudges for her mind,na only God intervention can only change her....

I hate baby daddy's, they always cheat with their baby mamas.Uncle you are cheating with her and been economical with the truth.

If you don't have anything with your baby mama, I suggest you should wire the money to your daughter through your wife for peace reign. That is, if she won't become unreasonable and began to question/challenge the amount you regularly send to your daughter.

A lot of problems are avoidable in this world . God's word is complete and he knows the best for us.

There would always be that suspicion.

This is the same reason why we advise single men to also avoid baby-mamas.

The chances that they are/will still have something to do with the father of their kid(s), is enough to make a relationship/marriage with them full of distrust.

This is why single ladies should avoid baby papas, the chances of them diicking the mother of their child is high, why use your korokoro eyes marry someone that has a child outside? They are second hand, their sweet nectar is already bitter, dey don fade, why not go for a single fresh man available everywhere? There are so many fishes in the ocean

Gozye:
Hello All,

My wife is seriously suspecting am still engaging in a past relationship where I had an issue. Though I occasionally send money for the child school fees that's all. All these are known by my wife before we went into marriage but am just surprised this is coming up now. Pls advise me on how to handle this,thanks

Na Annie and Tuface issue cause am.

Gozye:
Hello All,

My wife is seriously suspecting am still engaging in a past relationship where I had an issue. Though I occasionally send money for the child school fees that's all. All these are known by my wife before we went into marriage but am just surprised this is coming up now. Pls advise me on how to handle this,thanks

It depends on what you have been telling her about the other woman

OP @Gozye if your wife is suspecting you with no good reason, you should be worried if she’s doing what she suspects you about. Women who have nothing up their sleeves don’t suspect their husbands for no good reason

But if you’re not transparent enough and giving her reason to suspect you then you should deal with the transparency issue

Gozye:
Hello All,

My wife is seriously suspecting am still engaging in a past relationship where I had an issue. Though I occasionally send money for the child school fees that's all. All these are known by my wife before we went into marriage but am just surprised this is coming up now. Pls advise me on how to handle this,thanks

Dude live with it. She will doubt you for as long as she can remember you had a child before marriage...in cases like this it is hard to offer counsel because I don't know who the real wife is? Because as soon as your current wife shows you hell you will remember that your Ex did not do that much and soon enough you will go back to browsing her website until it crashes again. Dude na your cross. Carry it with wisdom, make cross no go carry you ohhh!