For years that we got married,it has been fantastic on the bed sleeping together in one bed as husband and wife which any of the parties feel each other sexually, can initiates sex, face and hold each other on bed with good communication.

Years back,there was a misunderstanding that lead to a temporary separation of like five months but we later reunited,though she confessed of having an affair to like two or three men during this separation period giving a reason for her action that she thought we won't come back together again.

Coming back after the separation seems like it affected our sex life for I could remember from then anytime we want to make love, she will be reluctant and uninterested and when we do, she will be complaining and mentioning such words as "this your small boys love making sef". I was shocked the first time she said that and when she repeated it next time, I caution her seriously never to repeat such words, and whether she is comparing me with those men she did something with during the separation. Since then she stopped saying such words.

Again since the coming back together till date, she had never being the first to initiate sex or feels me sexually ,and will always turn face the other side whenever we are sleeping. I am always the one that feels her sexually,begs for sex and initiates sex first with her since several years after the incidence till date and in some cases she turn it down and within me I feel a sense of rejection. I have called her and sat her down severally to address this issue because this is not how it was when we married till the time of temporary separation but to no avail. I have thought severally whether it's a mistake I made accepting that we reunited because I reason the incidence has adversely affected the marriage.

Presently I am thinking is there need sleeping together in one bed since she doesn't show in anyway that she feels me sexually let alone being the one to first initiate sex. Is it not better sleeping in separate room because sleeping with her together makes me get more sexual feelings than if I am alone sleeping in another room. I don't want to be subjected to sidechick even though this kind of act can push one to such. Please advise.

You can be sleeping together with wify with the intention of feeling sexual everytime oga

Don't kill ya self over this, she must have tested something different which made her think you aren't good in bed.. besides that, some women's sexual life diminishes as they mature..
Just get yourself a good healer out there so u won't die of sex starv

Sorry to say this
Might be offensive but
She has tasted bigger d**k and have been handled sexually in ways you couldn't do to her

So that's y she will hardly initiate the sex cuz it will always leave her unsatisfied

If you truly love her, then you have to man up your sexual perfomance and blow her mind in such a way that she won't even remember her previous sexual encounter outside.

Or if you have no feelings for her anymore.
u just dey ur dey. (And believe me she will be receiving outside).

This is one of the reason dem say make we keep just one partner there would be no comparison if she was just used to one d**k

Just five months and she's had affair with two or three men? Damn bro, maybe she's not really ready to be a wife......
By the way, it's frustrating when one leaves the other to initiate sex always, very annoying. But you need wisdom here bro, you know her better.

Bro, you guys separated for like 5 months, and she had already slept with 2 to 3 guys according to you, does that not bother you more, than worrying if you guys sleep together. Your wife for that matter, I won't even share same room with her talkless of bed.

zangodangolo:
Presently I am thinking is there need sleeping together in one bed since she doesn't show in anyway that she feels me sexually let alone being the one to first initiate sex. Is it not better sleeping in separate room because sleeping with her together makes me get more sexual feelings than if I am alone sleeping in another room. I don't want to be subjected to sidechick even though this kind of act can push one to such. Please advise.

How long has it been since you both got back together again?

Does infidelity have anything to do with why you both separated for the 5-month period?

This is a good case for therapy sessions. You both need to see a professional. Why? Because she may have experienced something different and needs a refresher. A woman once narrated how she had the "best sex ever" with another man after she separated from her husband. She said she never knew sex could be that good. If she went back to the husband, do you think she will enjoy sex again the way it used to be?

Right now she expects you to do something you're not doing, but there is no proper communication, just expectations, because everyone's ego is at the roof. Seeing the right therapist will help her fully express what she wants from you without feeling judged. You also get to say what you want, and the therapist will guide you both on how to communicate, listen, and help each other out because it takes two to make it work.

"Small boys love making" lol (sorry to laugh but that was funny).

zangodangolo:
For years that we got married,it has been fantastic on the bed sleeping together in one bed as husband and wife which any of the parties feel each other sexually, can initiates sex, face and hold each other on bed with good communication.

Years back,there was a misunderstanding that lead to a temporary separation of like five months but we later reunited,though she confessed of having an affair to like two or three men during this separation period giving a reason for her action that she thought we won't come back together again.

Coming back after the separation seems like it affected our sex life for I could remember from then anytime we want to make love, she will be reluctant and uninterested and when we do, she will be complaining and mentioning such words as "this your small boys love making sef". I was shocked the first time she said that and when she repeated it next time, I caution her seriously never to repeat such words, and whether she is comparing me with those men she did something with during the separation. Since then she stopped saying such words.

Again since the coming back together till date, she had never being the first to initiate sex or feels me sexually ,and will always turn face the other side whenever we are sleeping. I am always the one that feels her sexually,begs for sex and initiates sex first with her since several years after the incidence till date and in some cases she turn it down and within me I feel a sense of rejection. I have called her and sat her down severally to address this issue because this is not how it was when we married till the time of temporary separation but to no avail. I have thought severally whether it's a mistake I made accepting that we reunited because I reason the incidence has adversely affected the marriage.

Presently I am thinking is there need sleeping together in one bed since she doesn't show in anyway that she feels me sexually let alone being the one to first initiate sex. Is it not better sleeping in separate room because sleeping with her together makes me get more sexual feelings than if I am alone sleeping in another room. I don't want to be subjected to sidechick even though this kind of act can push one to such. Please advise.

Both of you need to see a sex therapist but aside that, men and women are wired differently emotionally. A man can sleep with many women and still get back to his wife but it's different from a woman. A woman is moived more on what she hears and how she's been handled emotionally. All I see here is attitude. Oga, how has your attitude been since you reunited with your wife? Have you had the time to take her on a vacation? You need to show her your new you leave sex for some time. Cook for her. Do things you normally don't do to revive the love. Your wife just came home to see your old self. How does that ignite sexual feelings if you are in her shoes?

Asuallly, madam tried other people and saw that you were doing it like a smallie. She was then gracious enough to mention it but you quieted her . Oga, I know matters relating to your genitals and performance is sensitive to you o....but you cant improve what you dont know nau. You had the opportunity to ask her how she wanted it but you threw it away out of ego. Since you were welcoming enough to take her back after digging 3 men in 5 months (whew, the babe didnt even waste time to get in the sacks with others). Do you need us to tell you shes probably back with one of the 3 or even shagging a different dude now that your shortcoming has been discovered....I'm so sorry


You remind me of those guys thinking marrying a virgin is a sure way of hiding their inadequacies forever

Ordinary 5 months she already tasted others? How are you sure she's still not eating outside?

Na like this STIs dey spread sha.

Sweet in the middle
It's best adviced to throw away soup that has lasted for 2days and cook fresh sweet soup.

Imagine eating soup cooked with ajino Moto when you would actually enjoy soup cooked with correct knorr maggi




only those wey get sense go understand my post.

That's why you can never go hungry for something you have never tasted.

Summarily,if you no dey chop, to chop no go hungry you

ahnie:
Sweet in the middle
It's best adviced to throw away soup that has lasted for 2days and cook fresh sweet soup.

Imagine eating soup cooked with ajino Moto when you would actually enjoy soup cooked with correct knorr maggi




only those wey get sense go understand my post.

Ha! Madam Ahnie don come o!

Op, she no longer was your wife from the moment she slept with those men.
Something has been altered.

If I may ask; whose fault was it that you separated?
The answer to the above question could lie the reason why she was quick to sleep with two men in the space of 5months.

The truth is no matter the efforts op puts to impress his wife or his sexual prowess the wife's attention lies with her ex bedmates.

The op is just wasting his time.he either accepts his present condition or seek side chicks out.

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If you no sleep with this your wife you go die?, besides she doesn't enjoy sex with you,,,. I bet you can have multiple gfs to satisfy your sexual urge and even drain you of life sex but you bother to satisfy person wey no dey feel you again in the name of wife, well, I know say e choke but its your decision to make oo.. Simply tell her you value the marriage, but she can get sex anywhere she wants, so you too can be free to explore other beautiful barneys.. Bro life is too short for worries oo

How person go marry banny come house finish just for her not to dey feel the guyman sexually . Abeg push am come outside?

Hisimperialmaje:
If you no sleep with this your wife you go die?, besides she doesn't enjoy sex with you,,,. I bet you can have multiple gfs to satisfy your sexual urge and even drain you of life sex but you bother to satisfy person wey no dey feel you again in the name of wife, well, I know say e choke but its your decision to make oo.. Simply tell her you value the marriage, but she can get sex anywhere she wants, so you too can be free to explore other beautiful barneys.. Bro life is too short for worries oo

Open marriage don start be that... Senate should sign open marriage bill.
Life goes on

Shedsybi when i say that having multiple sexual partners will lead to some form of comparison, lots of fellas will come bashing me, now you see am ba...

From your post, she started teasing you about your penis when you guys got back together, which means shes comparing you with the other men shes been with...

And in my opinion, i dont think theres anything you can do about it, because as long as you cant dooo exactly like those guys, you will always come up short in her mind...

But first, what was the misunderstanding??

Because men will not take back a woman who have had an affair with 3men in 5months, without a very strong reason...

She's getting badass dicking outside, and there's nothing you can ever do in bed to please her. Her mind is no longer with you. She's fallen outta love with you.

Just divorce her.

@ahnie
Sweet in the middle
It's best adviced to throw away soup that has lasted for 2days and cook fresh sweet soup.

Imagine eating soup cooked with ajino Moto when you would actually enjoy soup cooked with correct knorr maggi

only those wey get sense go understand my post.


@me
Haha.... I no get sense..... I no understand your post. Come ooh....this your mouth can kill.

Ok. Noted.