Saw this � online and had to repost.

Shalom.

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A 37 years old lady chatted me two weeks ago, let's call her Ada. Ada came to me and complained that her husband's best friend from childhood who works in the same office with her husband and earns the same amount of salary saved up money, bought his wife a car and they went to Maldives for her 40th birthday.

Ada said she suspected her husband was cheating on her and he must have been giving money to another woman; that is why he's always broke. She wanted me to post it on my wall so that people will "advise her" on action to take to catch her husband. Because I do not post Junks on my wall, I started asking her some questions.

We did a messenger call. After much questioning and running back-to-back analysis without prejudice, we discovered some things.

Read carefully.

Ada's husband's childhood friend's wife works with a travel agency while Ada sells beads, zips and other tailoring items.

Childhood friend has 2 children. Twin boys of 17 who just entered university. Ada has 5 kids aged 2, 5, 8, 11 and 13.

Childhood friend is the last child out of 3 children, but Ada's husband is the 2nd born but first son out of 6 children.

Childhood friend has no father and mother again, but Ada's husband has a mother but no father.

Mrs Childhood friend's parents are retired Judges, but Ada's parents are in the village.

Mrs Childhood friend has just a younger brother who is an Air force officer and married with 2 kids, Ada has 3 younger siblings who are still struggling.

So suppose Ada's husband earns 300k,
He would pay the school fees of 5 children of which two are toddlers, send money to his mother, sort out one or two bills for some siblings,

While Childhood friend would just pay for 2 children school fees, he has no younger siblings to cater for, his wife's parents are well taken care off, he has no parents to send money to.

Mrs Childhood friend with her knowledge with the travel agency she works with knows when to get good ticket prices, she knows when they get bonus, she knows those countries that offer Visa on Arival like Rwanda, Maldives, Uganda and the Rest. She has no younger siblings to care for so she can save up her salary or commission to grab some last minute flight deals.

But Ada is just zip and button seller; if she sells, she would send money to her siblings.

Both men work and earn the same, but their responsibilities are different... way way different.

By the time I highlighted these to her, she felt guilty. I made sure she saw these because she was the one answering the questions.

Sometimes, before you pressure yourself over someone's achievements, think of the responsibilities you have.

You might earn more than a person who has a flashy car and lives in a good apartment, but you have more responsibilities than that person.

Someone earning 40k might be living your dream life and traveling round the world, but you who is earning 150k would think your village people have tied your destiny.

People would wonder why you don't dress well.
They would mock you that you don't know how to save money or plan your life like them,
They will say upon all your money you can't afford iphone 13 or human hair or nice suits.

Check the bills you have to pay,
Check the things that gulp your money and praise yourself. It's not everyone that even have the luxury of saving.

Some of us as the money comes, if we don't spend it on ourself and eat chicken and fish, our phone will ring and one person is asking for 5k.

You'll be paid 50k and in 30 minutes you're seeing something that resembles 2k in your account.

Some of you are actually doing better than you know, but you're so busy looking at other peoples farms and counting their achievements that you can't see yours.

Comparison leads to unhappiness.

#Lifted

Well said

Why is Atiku not broke??

If you are TRULY wealthy, responsibilities are nothing.

Damnnn niggar

Nice one from op.....
Do not judge a book by its cover

Although comparing motivates people

But don't just kill yourself over it

Nice analysis but remember that all that glitters isn't gold.
The end goal is to live a happy and successful life and not the competition kind of life

Spot on. It has never been about how much you earn, it's all about how much you spend or how well you spend. Your spending is the key.

Is the bulk of your spending done on
1 - 'waste' (chop life, party etc),
2 - sustain (bills, survival etc) or
3 - grow (investments, education, career, business, savings, support a focused person's dream etc)?

You can earn 300k a month and still be way poorer than someone earning 150k in the long run if you don't have a lot going on in the growth category.

Ok

Abeg, who has link to Tiwa savage sex tape ?

True

Aje.....



next

My siblings & I are one big mansion built by our eldest brother, the breadwinner.

I couldn't stop pitying that young man. Thank God he's getting relieved now; none of the siblings depends on him for survival again & our mother can turn to others for stipends.

Some brothers & sisters are just God-sent. Always bear in mind that they owe you nothing, especially the lone survivors; who never had strong family support.

Hats off to you, Egbon.

I no know how person go just use clear eye sire 6 children.. We Africans eh.. most of our problems are self inflicted.

Childhood friend has 2 children. Twin boys of 17 who just entered university. Ada has 5 kids aged 2, 5, 8, 11 and 13.

Childhood friend is the last child out of 3 children, but Ada's husband is the 2nd born but first son out of 6 children.

Childhood friend has no father and mother again, but Ada's husband has a mother but no father.

Mrs Childhood friend's parents are retired Judges, but Ada's parents are in the village.

Mrs Childhood friend has just a younger brother who is an Air force officer and married with 2 kids, Ada has 3 younger siblings who are still struggling.

END OF THREAD!!!
Thanks for this OP.
We hope many people learnt something here.
It is worth reading.

Chamillionaire:
Abeg, who has link to Tiwa savage sex tape ?

so that you can masturbate...I pity your generation on earth

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No follow who know road only, follow who get brake lights!

Phone they ring na family they call if nor be billing na something they sup anyhow e be something they sup. but someone needs to examine his life and try to analysis where its money is going. Ask critical questions about your future

Well, na their way

True �. Comparison Is a disaster at times

I like this topic and look forward to a fruitful discussion

I don't believe this shiit....I've seen man earning about 150k as at 2009 and was still tenant without any plot of land to his name.. while another man not earning even up to 70k having all those things that I mentioned

Some people just too sabi package their lives, regardless of how much them de earn..

On point.
Nonetheless, plan your life and spend your resources judiciously.

You are not indebted to everyone, you have your own life to live.

Peace.

I stopped reading when I got to this part

Moneyfem:


Someone earning 40k might be living your dream life and traveling round the world, but you who is earning 150k would think your village people have tied your destiny.

#Lifted

40k kwa
motivational speakers cannot kill me before my time.

No comparisons at all...

Moneyfem:
Saw this � online and had to repost.

Shalom.

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A 37 years old lady chatted me two weeks ago, let's call her Ada. Ada came to me and complained that her husband's best friend from childhood who works in the same office with her husband and earns the same amount of salary saved up money, bought his wife a car and they went to Maldives for her 40th birthday.

Ada said she suspected her husband was cheating on her and he must have been giving money to another woman; that is why he's always broke. She wanted me to post it on my wall so that people will "advise her" on action to take to catch her husband. Because I do not post Junks on my wall, I started asking her some questions.

We did a messenger call. After much questioning and running back-to-back analysis without prejudice, we discovered some things.

Read carefully.

Ada's husband's childhood friend's wife works with a travel agency while Ada sells beads, zips and other tailoring items.

Childhood friend has 2 children. Twin boys of 17 who just entered university. Ada has 5 kids aged 2, 5, 8, 11 and 13.

Childhood friend is the last child out of 3 children, but Ada's husband is the 2nd born but first son out of 6 children.

Childhood friend has no father and mother again, but Ada's husband has a mother but no father.

Mrs Childhood friend's parents are retired Judges, but Ada's parents are in the village.

Mrs Childhood friend has just a younger brother who is an Air force officer and married with 2 kids, Ada has 3 younger siblings who are still struggling.

So suppose Ada's husband earns 300k,
He would pay the school fees of 5 children of which two are toddlers, send money to his mother, sort out one or two bills for some siblings,

While Childhood friend would just pay for 2 children school fees, he has no younger siblings to cater for, his wife's parents are well taken care off, he has no parents to send money to.

Mrs Childhood friend with her knowledge with the travel agency she works with knows when to get good ticket prices, she knows when they get bonus, she knows those countries that offer Visa on Arival like Rwanda, Maldives, Uganda and the Rest. She has no younger siblings to care for so she can save up her salary or commission to grab some last minute flight deals.

But Ada is just zip and button seller; if she sells, she would send money to her siblings.

Both men work and earn the same, but their responsibilities are different... way way different.

By the time I highlighted these to her, she felt guilty. I made sure she saw these because she was the one answering the questions.

Sometimes, before you pressure yourself over someone's achievements, think of the responsibilities you have.

You might earn more than a person who has a flashy car and lives in a good apartment, but you have more responsibilities than that person.

Someone earning 40k might be living your dream life and traveling round the world, but you who is earning 150k would think your village people have tied your destiny.

People would wonder why you don't dress well.
They would mock you that you don't know how to save money or plan your life like them,
They will say upon all your money you can't afford iphone 13 or human hair or nice suits.

Check the bills you have to pay,
Check the things that gulp your money and praise yourself. It's not everyone that even have the luxury of saving.

Some of us as the money comes, if we don't spend it on ourself and eat chicken and fish, our phone will ring and one person is asking for 5k.

You'll be paid 50k and in 30 minutes you're seeing something that resembles 2k in your account.

Some of you are actually doing better than you know, but you're so busy looking at other peoples farms and counting their achievements that you can't see yours.

Comparison leads to unhappiness.

#Lifted

You have already answered your own question, but what matter in life is being happy and contented let him or his wife avoid comparison

Damn right

NUTSHELL
hanty ADA is crazy! Some women sha!

Good one .. Nice details


We enter a new blocks of flat, someone dey busy dey compared whose furniture fine pass,


wahala no dey finish ooo