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Marry her. There is more to marriage than weight of the wife.

You never ready for life, na people judgement you dey worry about.

She can work on her weight if you discuss with her

some day,you will look back and REALISE how golden this woman you call obese is...and you will REALISE how much of a disaster this so called young "beautiful" girls are...

so if you willing to let go of your best friend for some younger girl..be wise bro.. RESPECT, friendship is really important..trust me..that woman loves you and will do anything to shed some weight especially with your support ..100%

GOOD LUCK THOUGH..the decision is all yours..please never you body shame her..with support..she will come "good"..not just for you..but for her health

234GT:
Marry her. There is more to marriage than weight of the wife.

Bullsheet! You want him to ruin her life?

ojun50:
■ You never ready for life, na people judgement you dey worry about.
■ She can work on her weight if you discuss with her

1. The judgment is his, not people. OP was ok with sleeping with her but not OK with marrying her. That problem is OP's and not people.

2. She tell you say she get problem with her weight abi wetin? You are actually suggesting that she change her normal to suit OP? Would you suggest the same to your sister or your own daughter?

Age is just a number so think well

234GT:
Marry her. There is more to marriage than weight of the wife.

Please disregard this advice.

Marriage is not something you jump into with pity and an unsteady emotion.

Don't marry who you don't like and hope to turn them to who you like. It won't end well.

Someone like her may not even give a fvck about marriage, just the kid so why worry yourself.

Life happens so learn to ride with it.

You say she is a good friend, keep it that way to avoid making a costly mistake. Marriage ain't no joke.

Kobojunkie:
1. The judgment is his, not people. OP was ok with sleeping with her but not OK with marrying her. That problem is OP's and not people.

2. She tell you say she get problem with her weight abi wetin? You are actually suggesting that she change her normal to suit OP? Would you suggest the same to your sister or your own daughter?

No vex

Tell her u want another child.

I read two other threads like this on NL yesterday. The rate at which some of you are sleeping with women in Nigeria, impregnating them but not marrying them is becoming an epidemic. But I'll have to blame them as well. Nigeria is becoming the single mother capital of the world.

UncleSuru:
We were colleagues.
She's obese.
She's older than I am.
She got pregnant for me.
I accepted.
She had a boy.
I told her I wanted the baby and not marriage and she accepted.

She got a job and she's taking good care of my boy even as I perform my responsibilities: feeding, school fees and all.

It hurts me that we don't stay together. I go to see my boy and I wish to stay longer. I really want to bond with my boy.

This lady is okay aside the obesity and the age factor. She doesn't even argue with me and we're cool. She'll be proud to show me to her people as a young man but I'm not proud to show her to my own people because she looks twice my age. She's my best friend. None of those young girls can stand her in terms of character. I really wish I can love her. It hurts more having that thought of having children with different women. It really hurts.

Unclesuru, I'm off to Surulere
They say if I meet 2face
I'm gonna become a big star.

Congrats stick to your baby whale

How much older than you is she? She can work on her weight, but don't force yourself to marry her if you don't have any feelings for her...all relationships mustn't end in marriage

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Kobojunkie:
Bullsheet! You want him to ruin her life?

Ruin her life how? I'm a responsible man and I believe in peaceful separation if things don't go well. No one is attempting to ruin anyone here.

Kobojunkie:
1. The judgment is his, not people. OP was ok with sleeping with her but not OK with marrying her. That problem is OP's and not people.

2. She tell you say she get problem with her weight abi wetin? You are actually suggesting that she change her normal to suit OP? Would you suggest the same to your sister or your own daughter?

Even if I suggest working on her weight, it's still her choice to make. It'll also be beneficial to her though as being obese isn't healthy. It's not a do or die thing. I only feel this way because I'm human and any responsible man would feel this way. No one is forcing anyone here.

JeffreyJunior:
Please disregard this advice.

Marriage is not something you jump into with pity and an unsteady emotion.

Don't marry who you don't like and hope to turn them to who you like. It won't end well.

Someone like her may not even give a fvck about marriage, just the kid so why worry yourself.

Life happens so learn to ride with it.

You say she is a good friend, keep it that way to avoid making a costly mistake. Marriage ain't no joke.

Thanks a lot.

TheBTCinvestor:


Unclesuru, I'm off to Surulere
They say if I meet 2face
I'm gonna become a big star.

Congrats stick to your baby whale

Ode

Op, you have what you need already, avoid mistakes please. Every other thing is in the head, a mirage, there is nothing anyone can give you that she cannot. Remember, its always better as a man to marry who love you more but even if your level of love is not up to hers, please respect her and don't betray her and you will have a happy home.
Let me tell you something Bro, unless my wife is denying me stuffs, their is nothing anyone can offer me that she cannot, I prefer her brea*t to the most perkiest of all brea*t, her structure, her everything is the best for me. Do you understand? It's all a mirage, go for luv, peace of mind, happy home.

Foodqueen:
Tell her u want another child.

If she has another child then she's become a wife then.

Or what do you mean?

UncleSuru:
If she has another child then she's become a wife then.

Or what do you mean?

What do u want me to tell you.

U said, u dont want children from different women.

UncleSuru:
We were colleagues.
She's obese.
She's older than I am.
She got pregnant for me.
I accepted.
She had a boy.
I told her I wanted the baby and not marriage and she accepted.

She got a job and she's taking good care of my boy even as I perform my responsibilities: feeding, school fees and all.

It hurts me that we don't stay together. I go to see my boy and I wish to stay longer. I really want to bond with my boy.

This lady is okay aside the obesity and the age factor. She doesn't even argue with me and we're cool. She'll be proud to show me to her people as a young man but I'm not proud to show her to my own people because she looks twice my age. She's my best friend. None of those young girls can stand her in terms of character. I really wish I can love her. It hurts more having that thought of having children with different women. It really hurts.

You are going to marry someone else and then cheat on her with this lady. Because deep down you are truly in love with your child’s mother. You are just ashamed of what people will say because of the way she looks.

And then you will end up making the woman you marry so unhappy because she will never be able to live up to the expectations you have for her. And just like that you have ruined two women’s lives and the lives of whatever children they will bore for you.

And the cycle of abusive and dysfunctional marriages will continue !

I remember dating a girl with an embarrassingly big bumbum. That constant feeling of embarrassment was a huge NO for me. Till date, I don't look at girls with big bums.

Your own is just fat that you can help her burn with a combination of diet, exercise and discipline. Choose well oh!!! Some slim girls today can get very fat tomorrow.

UncleSuru:
Ruin her life how? I'm a responsible man and I believe in peaceful separation if things don't go well. No one is attempting to ruin anyone here.

Na for your mouth that one dey.

A responsible man able to overlook her weight when having sex with her but sees it as a mountain when it comes to marrying her... we know your kind!

UncleSuru:
■ Even if I suggest working on her weight, it's still her choice to make. It'll also be beneficial to her though as being obese isn't healthy. It's not a do or die thing. I only feel this way because I'm human and any responsible man would feel this way. No one is forcing anyone here.

1. Leave her make she handle her own weight and health issues in her own time abeg! You, go find yourself that woman you desire to have and let her be in peace abeg! You are not her savior abeg!

Op, remember when u try to change or fix people,

There are usually consequences

In your case, u have said you don't love the woman because of her weight, so what are u really sober for

Please don't marry her out of pity, u will regret it Ó

UncleSuru:
We were colleagues.
She's obese.
She's older than I am.
She got pregnant for me.
I accepted.
She had a boy.
I told her I wanted the baby and not marriage and she accepted.

She got a job and she's taking good care of my boy even as I perform my responsibilities: feeding, school fees and all.

It hurts me that we don't stay together. I go to see my boy and I wish to stay longer. I really want to bond with my boy.

This lady is okay aside the obesity and the age factor. She doesn't even argue with me and we're cool. She'll be proud to show me to her people as a young man but I'm not proud to show her to my own people because she looks twice my age. She's my best friend. None of those young girls can stand her in terms of character. I really wish I can love her. It hurts more having that thought of having children with different women. It really hurts.

My Nigga, you wanted to chop and clean mouth, but she got you hooked, you are very lucky to have escaped.

Don't look back.

Shebi na only obesity she turn for just having a child. She will turn obecountry on her second to third kids. By that time you won't have a choice than to embrace and show love to your amazing woman.

UncleSuru:
We were colleagues.
She's obese.
She's older than I am.
She got pregnant for me.
I accepted.
She had a boy.
I told her I wanted the baby and not marriage and she accepted.

She got a job and she's taking good care of my boy even as I perform my responsibilities: feeding, school fees and all.

It hurts me that we don't stay together. I go to see my boy and I wish to stay longer. I really want to bond with my boy.

This lady is okay aside the obesity and the age factor. She doesn't even argue with me and we're cool. She'll be proud to show me to her people as a young man but I'm not proud to show her to my own people because she looks twice my age. She's my best friend. None of those young girls can stand her in terms of character. I really wish I can love her. It hurts more having that thought of having children with different women. It really hurts.

You are likely going to loose a woman that is meant for you

But the time you get a slim lady with bad attitude, then you will run out to look for your baby mama

Whats actually wrong with settling down with her, you can't eat your cake and have it

What a man needs most in relationship is peace of mind and respect

Being fat is a tough one, but obese? But you penetrated raw knowing she obesed. I think she got some sterling qualities that are spinning your head. It's your dilemma indeed.

I hate to read things like this.

So,this is why I said some women are really suffering and smiling.

She is obese and u inserted ur penis and got her pregnant.

Guy,u are wicked oh...what it means is that,some ladies are good for marriage and some for baby mama.

Damn!

UncleSuru:
We were colleagues.
She's obese.
She's older than I am.
She got pregnant for me.
I accepted.
She had a boy.
I told her I wanted the baby and not marriage and she accepted.

She got a job and she's taking good care of my boy even as I perform my responsibilities: feeding, school fees and all.

It hurts me that we don't stay together. I go to see my boy and I wish to stay longer. I really want to bond with my boy.

This lady is okay aside the obesity and the age factor. She doesn't even argue with me and we're cool. She'll be proud to show me to her people as a young man but I'm not proud to show her to my own people because she looks twice my age. She's my best friend. None of those young girls can stand her in terms of character. I really wish I can love her. It hurts more having that thought of having children with different women. It really hurts.

Some men sha. I have been married for 7 years and I will gladly take an obese woman who supports me and respects me not one who rubbishes me despite me providing everything she needs.

My ex was 7 years older, we would have been my wife now if she had not died. I wonder what is with Nigerians and age.