Self-Regulation, we are told is the ability to control our behavior, emotion and our thought that enable us to do something positive and in a long-term goal. To be more specific, emotional self -regulation refers to the ability to manage a bad or disruptive emotion or impulse. And in other word, to think and reflect before acting. As it were, self -regulation enable us to avoid being disappointed and act in a way consistent with our values and who we really are at any given time.
Therefore, the ability to self -regulate as an adult is rooted in our childhood. The same is true that learning how to self-regulate becomes an important skill that children learn both for emotional maturity and, later on that could serve for social connections.
In an idea situation, a little child who throw things with an outburst of anger in any situation could grows up into a child who learn how to tolerate uncomfortable feelings without throwing anything. And later on, could grow up into an adult who is able to control his impulse, and to act in any uncomfortable feelings. Therefore, maturity in essence, reflect the ability to face up with any emotional, social and cognitive state of being conscious intellectually and the same is true, of being able to face up with threat in any environment, with patience and thoughtfulness in consideration for the needs of others people.
Self-regulation is important because it requires taken a pause between a feeling and actions, meaning taking time to think things through, thereby making plan as to wait patiently before acting. It is however, obvious that often children struggle a great deal, no doubt, with this same behavior and often adult is never left out this same singular behavior of self-regulation.
Therefore, it is easy to see how a lack of self-regulation can cause problems in any environment. This is also true that a child who yells and hit other children out of frustration will not be popular among his peers and could be regarded as an indiscipline child. And often, this could be true that an adult with poor self-regulation skill may be regarded as lacking in self -confidence and self -esteem and may eventually be having trouble handling stress and frustration in the long . And this might result in anger or anxiety and in more sever case could lead to mental health condition, if you like .
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The first step to practicing self- regulation is to recognize that everyone has a choice in how to react in any give situation. While you may feel that life has dealt a bad blow on you, but the reality is that, it is not the bad blow itself, but how you come to react to it that matters. The second step is that you must recognize that every situation has an option that may vary from a cheerful Approach, an Avoidance and a direct Attack.
BEING AWARE OF SELF REGULATION
1. You must act in accordance with your values
2. You must calm yourself when upset without being carried away by emotion
3. You must be of good cheer when feeling down or frustrated
Therefore, philosophy of the relevance and practice of self-reliance stern from the economic order that gives everyone the right to sell cheap or buy expensively. The truth is that when the rich get richer at the very expense of the poor, the poor, no doubt, must demand for a change, hence, self-regulation become very vital in such situation. The self-reliance strategy demands sacrifice by both elites and the common man in a regulated system.

BY C.J.E