Sorry for my bad write-up and long episode... I just feel like dropping dis to clear off my mind

Hello! Guys ..... I'm in a depress state right now
cos life as been so tough and miserable for me. Sometimes I feel like just taking my life.
This is how it goes..... My Dad has always been promising me heaven and earth while I was still immatured and I nurture that in mind thinking there is no need for me to stress myself since my Dad is well connected.
I rounded up my Degree program at school since last year and till date I have not been given my result due to some issues from d school.... So Dad ask me to come home that he has a job for me, as in . A place for me to work pending till when my result will be ready, so before then I was already working but though the money I was been paid wasn't enough but still manageable. So I transported myself home by the time I got home I discovered there was no work anyway and ever since then I was left stranded till dis very moment. Dad was never at home to see what I was going through for d past 9month I've been at home. It got to a point that my step mother that's not up to a year that my Dad got married to is now giving me attitude saying I've over stayed my welcome. I have an elder brother who would be rounding up soon in school, so Dad ask him to comeover without any plan for him... So I told him not to come. so that he won't end up just like me, we happen to stay in 1 sef con which has just a parlor and a single room and we are 4children/adult ( cos I and my brother are no longer kid anymore) in d family and I can't imagine us staying in same roof in a remote environment in which u can't work to get means of income., Sometimes I Dodge my neighbors just to avoid them from unnecessary misjudgment. So Just of a recent Dad got retired from service and he's at home fully now. So I decided to wait for him to discuss the plans he has for me only for him to tell me about one online business like that wish I believe to be scam, and he has already invested alot there, if not up to half a million. He was been brainwashed and He promise to register me with d sum of 150k to start mine even at that I tried to let him see reason why it's a scam but he decline saying I don't know anything. I just allow him have his way.. I once fell victim of dis online business before which has led me to dis present condition that I'm in today after saving alot back then in school I invested on dis rubbish stuff and everything gone. Money that I was supposed to use and start up something for myself all gone.
Right now, am a bit confuse about everything .
So I thought of engaging him on a discussion about my plans but I'm a bit scare cos I don't know how he will react to it.....
I was considering applying for military, Army to be precise and I just needed his little support cos of his influence but my Dad dislike Army job, he doesn't want any of his children to join so right now I'm scare and I don't know how to go about it.

Things about me ...
I have always live all my life in fears.
No cordial relationship between I and my father.
Can't even summon courage to discuss with him
Mind u, I'm 27yrs old with no hope.
I feel as if my life is been trapped or rather I'm just too weak trying to give unnecessary excuse.
What step do I take house?
I need fatherly and motherly advice

I didn’t read all you wrote. I just saw where you said you’re 27.

The age 25-30 is a very tough stage in a man’s life. When I say tough I mean very tough. You have to hang in there and keep having hope at thesame time keep working as hard and smart as you can. You have just 3 years to cross. Stay strong

All the best.

fbtowner:
I didn’t read all you wrote. I just saw where you said you’re 27.

The age 25-30 is a very tough stage in a man’s life. When I say tough I mean very tough. You have to hang in there and keep having hope at thesame time keep working as hard and smart as you can. You have just 3 years to cross. Stay strong

All the best.

Thanks for your understanding,sir.
But still can I still summon courage to tell him about my plans

30 Topics on Nairaland and almost every one of them you are consumed with your person and self. Na content creation dem dey call this one?

**yawn***

Kobojunkie:
30 Topics on Nairaland and almost every one of them you are consumed with your person and self. Na content creation dem dey call this one?

**yawn***

I no understand you very well...... Make me understand better.

Guessing your daddy must have invested in thomdock the fishy online ponzi cashout company.

UYEMDO35:
Sorry for my bad write-up and long episode... I just feel like dropping dis to clear off my mind

Hello! Guys ..... I'm in a depress state right now
cos life as been so tough and miserable for me. Sometimes I feel like just taking my life.
This is how it goes..... My Dad has always been promising me heaven and earth while I was still immatured and I nurture that in mind thinking there is no need for me to stress myself since my Dad is well connected.
I rounded up my Degree program at school since last year and till date I have not been given my result due to some issues from d school.... So Dad ask me to come home that he has a job for me, as in . A place for me to work pending till when my result will be ready, so before then I was already working but though the money I was been paid wasn't enough but still manageable. So I transported myself home by the time I got home I discovered there was no work anyway and ever since then I was left stranded till dis very moment. Dad was never at home to see what I was going through for d past 9month I've been at home. It got to a point that my step mother that's not up to a year that my Dad got married to is now giving me attitude saying I've over stayed my welcome. I have an elder brother who would be rounding up soon in school, so Dad ask him to comeover without any plan for him... So I told him not to come. so that he won't end up just like me, we happen to stay in 1 sef con which has just a parlor and a single room and we are 4children/adult ( cos I and my brother are no longer kid anymore) in d family and I can't imagine us staying in same roof in a remote environment in which u can't work to get means of income., Sometimes I Dodge my neighbors just to avoid them from unnecessary misjudgment. So Just of a recent Dad got retired from service and he's at home fully now. So I decided to wait for him to discuss the plans he has for me only for him to tell me about one online business like that wish I believe to be scam, and he has already invested alot there, if not up to half a million. He was been brainwashed and He promise to register me with d sum of 150k to start mine even at that I tried to let him see reason why it's a scam but he decline saying I don't know anything. I just allow him have his way.. I once fell victim of dis online business before which has led me to dis present condition that I'm in today after saving alot back then in school I invested on dis rubbish stuff and everything gone. Money that I was supposed to use and start up something for myself all gone.
Right now, am a bit confuse about everything .
So I thought of engaging him on a discussion about my plans but I'm a bit scare cos I don't know how he will react to it.....
I was considering applying for military, Army to be precise and I just needed his little support cos of his influence but my Dad dislike Army job, he doesn't want any of his children to join so right now I'm scare and I don't know how to go about it.

Things about me ...
I have always live all my life in fears.
No cordial relationship between I and my father.
Can't even summon courage to discuss with him
Mind u, I'm 27yrs old with no hope.
I feel as if my life is been trapped or rather I'm just too weak trying to give unnecessary excuse.
What step do I take house?
I need fatherly and motherly advice

So sorry about your situations and disappointment from your family especially your dad

See just hope ok God and look for any job to do, even if you can get a casual job

Very soon uoir step mum will ask you to leave that house and cause problems between you and dad and her

And trust your dad, he will support your step mother

What about the job you were hustling while I'm school that gave you some little money, can't you go back to it

Whats the major problem you had in school that you are yet to go for service

...

frozen70:


So sorry about your situations and disappointment from your family especially your dad

See just hope ok God and look for any job to do, even if you can get a casual job

Very soon uoir step mum will ask you to leave that house and cause problems between you and dad and her

And trust your dad, he will support your step mother

What about the job you were hustling while I'm school that gave you some little money, can't you go back to it

Whats the major problem you had in school that you are yet to go for service

Thanks for your words of encouragement and ur understanding, I attended sandwich program in a private colleges of edu and d school was affiliated with d state university upon my completion of d program, we were told that some students are still owing alot and our results can only be released if 70% of the school fees is been remitted to d main state university, so as it's I'm fed up already. Well! U ask about the place I was hustling while in school.... I would have love to go back but my place has been taken cos someone else has taken over, I was into teaching.

Even at that my going back will cos me alot cos no fund to foot my tf and house rent.

UYEMDO35:

Thanks for your words of encouragement and ur understanding, I attended sandwich program in a private colleges of edu and d school was affiliated with d state university upon my completion of d program, we were told that some students are still owing alot and our results can only be released if 70% of the school fees is been remitted to d main state university, so as it's I'm fed up already. Well! U ask about the place I was hustling while in school.... I would have love to go back but my place has been taken cos someone else has taken over, I was into teaching.

Even at that my going back will cos me alot cos no fund to foot my tf and house rent.

Now I understand how sensitive it is

May God make a way for you

Join the army make you tough up , you still be ajebutter

Go and learn workmanship.... Handwork pays o.. not too late to start learning any specific trade of your choice... Leave where you are to a nearby neighborhood or something. Don't you have friends

frozen70:


Now I understand how sensitive it is

May God make a way for you

Amen

I don't even know what to advise you.

At your dad's age. He is supposed to have built his own house. In as much as i understand not everyone will have such grace. But i find it very irritating breeding kids in a rented apartment.

May God help you.

I pray that you find a break through for yourself. I swear isn't easy n funny anymore. No jobs, no money n things are getting messier.

Hope is near, InSHAllah.

I would advise you start thinking more about the future than present because the future is now.
Think of what you intend to achieve during NYSC. It could be a time to hunt massively for jobs, a time to learn a trade, or a time to study for professional/advancement exams. Don't be caught in too much of thinking/worries as it adds no value whatsoever to you in the long run.

See ehhh, this one u have started blaming ur dad as if he force you to do his will. The bitter truth is, u urself don't a bearing. At 27 u ought to map ur plans with various options depending the circumstances at that moment.
U said d program u did in school is sandwich, what have been doing with all the free time u had before graduating?
U just have to talk to ur dad man to man, not in rude manner ooo. Tell him ur intending plan to join the army with other plans as ur backups so ur dad ll know and understand u really know what u re doing.
U need to show him u re incharge of ur life.

See ehhh, this one u have started blaming ur dad as if he force you to do his will. The bitter truth is, u urself don't have bearing. At 27 u ought to map ur plans with various options depending the circumstances at that moment.
U said d program u did in school is sandwich, what have been doing with all the free time u had before graduating?
U just have to talk to ur dad man to man, not in rude manner ooo. Tell him ur intending plan to join the army with other plans as ur backups so ur dad ll know and understand u really know what u re doing.
U need to show him u re incharge of ur life.

Na problem u Dey to be honest
He be like say ur dad want you poor
Time wait for no man