Till date, a man will live abroad then deceive a young girl into marrying him.

Most times, the younger brother stands in his stead for the marital rites.

The abroad man promises to get her papers to join him abroad.

He would keep the girl in Nigeria, preferably with his mum, then stays several years abroad with one-per-year visits or at times, no visits at all.

He might get the girl pregnant in the process.

He equally has a wife abroad.

The abroad man in connivance with his family members especially the mum, knew he had no intentions of getting these papers.

They knew he had kids and wife abroad.

They end up wasting the girl's youth.

These are the evils that men and women do!

A girl who will be here and agree to marry a man she hasn't met and doesn't know is not unaware of the consequences, they are greedy, they will not marry a man they see here who possibly loves them and will care and be there for them, they are simply selfish and should accept their fate. The man abroad possibly loves his abroad wife but not sure of his children coming back, so he wants an insurance and will have it, the local girl wants a material good life, and will most likely get it, everyone gets what they want, so why blame the family who helped their son get a local boy?

This table has no legs..

Walai Talai.. 😝

mbaise1000:
A girl who will be here and agree to marry a man he hasn't met and doesn't know is not unaware of the consequences, they are greedy, they will not marry a man they see here who possibly loves them, they are simply selfish and should accept their fate. The man abroad possibly loves his abroad wife buyy not sure of his children coming back, he wants an insurance, the local girl wants a material good life, and will most likely get it, everyone gets what they want, so why blame the family who helped their son get a local boy?

Why deceive the girl?

look at it from the other side the side of the men who need Nigerian children The side of the family of the girls who encouraged their daughters cos of the money they make having an abroad inlaw. I know of guys that have been dubed by these your innocent Nigerian girls too.

This was common between 1980s to early 2000s. With the information on the internet , different legal routes to japa etc any lady what agrees to such is useless herself. So deserves no pity.

Serendipity2023:


Why deceive the girl?

Are you sure the girl was deceived? What will you call a girl who decides to marry someone she hasn't met before? Tell me sincerely what you think she is thinking in making that decision? BTW I am not saying it's good for anyone to deceive anyone but, this goes both ways, I believe that the greatest and most important consideration in making a marriage choice should be love, as you can see here neither the man abroad nor the girl at home cared about that, so my point is, why blame ONLY the man?

mbaise1000:


Are you sure the girl was deceived? What will you call a girl who decides to marry someone she hasn't met before? Tell me sincerely what you think she is thinking in making that decision? BTW I am not saying it's good for anyone to deceive anyone but, this goes both ways, I believe that the greatest and most important consideration in making a marriage choice should be love, as you can see here neither the man abroad nor the girl at home cared about that, so my point is, why blame ONLY the man?

correct. She would never marry someone in nigeria. Once they hear abroad they would loose their senses. She likes the word abroad.

Ladies and their families have become smarter when it comes to "abroad marriage".

Serendipity2023:


Why deceive the girl?

She wasn't deceived, she knowingly married a man she hasn't met before because he lives abroad and money, she is not blind.

ednut1:
This was common between 1980s to early 2000s. With the information on the internet , different legal routes to japa etc any lady what agrees to such is useless herself. So deserves no pity.

Yup.

Serendipity2023:
Till date, a man will live abroad then deceive a young girl into marrying him.

Most times, the younger brother stands in his stead for the marital rites.

The abroad man promises to get her papers to join him abroad.

He would keep the girl in Nigeria, preferably with his mum, then stays several years abroad with one-per-year visits or at times, no visits at all.

He might get the girl pregnant in the process.

He equally has a wife abroad.

The abroad man in connivance with his family members especially the mum, knew he had no intentions of getting these papers.

They knew he had kids and wife abroad.

They end up wasting the girl's youth.

These are the evils that men and women do!

So sorry about that , ladies should learn to make good decisions by not always jumping at every thing that shines like gold because the original gold doesn't actually shine or glitter until purification , it's same way life packages things for we all. So ladies should stop dumping prospective suitors down & go shopping for already made men. Such marriages most times,ends in misery

Fountainofyouth:


Yup.

some ladies will even say i gave him money he used to travel abroad. Are you forbidden from using the money to travel yourself 🤣

Greed will not let that gender think straight...

madone:
look at it from the other side the side of the men who need Nigerian children The side of the family of the girls who encouraged their daughters cos of the money they make having an abroad inlaw. I know of guys that have been dubed by these your innocent Nigerian girls too.

why deceive the girls?

Serendipity2023:


why deceive the girls?

Just speaking my mind

Teejaney88:
Greed will not let that gender think straight...

why won't the men say the truth?

ednut1:
some ladies will even say i gave him money he used to travel abroad. Are you forbidden from using the money to travel yourself 🤣

but some do

Serendipity2023:
Till date, a man will live abroad then deceive a young girl into marrying him.

Most times, the younger brother stands in his stead for the marital rites.

The abroad man promises to get her papers to join him abroad.

He would keep the girl in Nigeria, preferably with his mum, then stays several years abroad with one-per-year visits or at times, no visits at all.

He might get the girl pregnant in the process.

He equally has a wife abroad.

The abroad man in connivance with his family members especially the mum, knew he had no intentions of getting these papers.

They knew he had kids and wife abroad.

They end up wasting the girl's youth.

These are the evils that men and women do!

Who you go blame in this case?

The girl or the man..

I blame the girl’s family for their greed.

LikeAking:


Who you go blame in this case?

The girl or the man..

I blame the girl’s family for their greed.

Let the girl know the truth first

Serendipity2023:


why won't the men say the truth?

what truth? Does that gender want the truth? Do they 'LISTEN' to the truth🤔

This is sad sha

Nna, I feel like tagging two babes that I know.

Wahala

I don't see any evil here some ladies are just greedy

greenie77:
Ladies and their families have become smarter when it comes to "abroad marriage".

Poor people, when you go abroad you will understand why most men do that

Lol… nobody send you this work.
The ladies i know into such marriages are not really complaining. Money flows in steadily, and they are aware of the man’s other family over there.

Na who dem marry overseas no get idea say another family dey Naija.