I have a very close friend,we met in a place of work,and gradually got used to each other,but the problem is that the guy has been through a lot in life,health wise,and this has led to a lot of financial ups and downs,he has no wife,no children,and still struggling financially,although he is now earning a steady income,tomorrow he will be 50years of age and he is feeling so down and depressed that he has achieved practically nothing in this life.I have encouraged him as much as I can,but he is still seeing his life through the mirror of other peoples life.I plan to surprise him tomorrow,,with a treat.what advice can I get from you guys,please.

He should be grateful he is alive.

Do you expect him to be happy... Abeg just tell him in 300 years it won't matter anymore, at least he's not in jail for a crime he knows nothing about... Soon Baba God would delete all of us and 100 years would be like a minute in the grand scheme of things.

He can still find peace ,happiness and Fulfillment. It's not too late.

Happy birthday in advance to him !

Happy birthday to him.

You can cheer him up by mentioning a couple of people you both know who are either dead or deformed from accident. Tell him it's not over until it's over. There is no competition in life. So far he is still alive, God is not done with him yet.
Take him to his favorite spot and buy him his favorite food.
Tell him I personally wish him a wonderful birthday.

udomonday:
I have a very close friend,we met in a place of work,and gradually got used to each other,but the problem is that the guy has been through a lot in life,health wise,and this has led to a lot of financial ups and downs,he has no wife,no children,and still struggling financially,although he is now earning a steady income,tomorrow he will be 50years of age and he is feeling so down and depressed that he has achieved practically nothing in this life.I have encouraged him as much as I can,but he is still seeing his life through the mirror of other peoples life.I plan to surprise him tomorrow,,with a treat.what advice can I get from you guys,please.

udomonday:
I have a very close friend,we met in a place of work,and gradually got used to each other,but the problem is that the guy has been through a lot in life,health wise,and this has led to a lot of financial ups and downs,he has no wife,no children,and still struggling financially,although he is now earning a steady income,tomorrow he will be 50years of age and he is feeling so down and depressed that he has achieved practically nothing in this life.I have encouraged him as much as I can,but he is still seeing his life through the mirror of other peoples life.I plan to surprise him tomorrow,,with a treat.what advice can I get from you guys,please.

Bro. Udo, pls. Do surprise him that tomorrow. It will help to uplift his soul.

Just as someone mentioned above, continue to encourage him positively. There is power in spoken words.

Another thing is this, if you know any of his family members and friends, talk to them on how they can help find a wife for him. There are alot of responsible matured women that are lonely and searching.

God bless you richly.

Just tell him to consider the access Bank directors case who had everything but lost his life and no longer knows where those things are. tell him to be grateful to God that he still has life.

If he was married with children and has no money at this age, he would have been more miserable. So let him thank God that he doesn't have anyone depending on him in this hardship.

Advise him to get married before his 52nd birthday. Direct and indirect societal influence have a big role in determining one's state of happiness. Apart from relocating to Mars, there is nothing he can do to change that.

Jewessgratitud3:
Just tell him to consider the access Bank directors case who had everything but lost his life and no longer knows where those things are. tell him to be grateful to God that he still has life.

If he was married with children and has no money at this age, he would have been more miserable. So let him thank God that he doesn't have anyone depending on him in this hardship.

Not True, if the man is married with children at that, even when there is no money...HE WILL NOT BE MORE MISERABLE"

If only you know how much joy and fulfillment from within that comes when a man/woman thought of his/her child(ren) at a matured age.

See, "Nwa ka Ego"
Nwa di Uto.
Nwa bu Ngozi.... Eather you have money or not.

Acidosis:

Advise him to get married before his 52nd birthday. Direct and indirect societal influence have a big role in determining one's state of happiness. Apart from relocating to Mars, there is nothing he can do to change that.

Oga Acidosis, pls. Explain more on the bolded.

Jewessgratitud3:
Just tell him to consider the access Bank directors case who had everything but lost his life and no longer knows where those things are. tell him to be grateful to God that he still has life.

If he was married with children and has no money at this age, he would have been more miserable. So let him thank God that he doesn't have anyone depending on him in this hardship.

Stop making unnecessary examples using the access bank man. He made and achieved a lot in his lifetime. His legacy will live on..

There are people who never got to his age, people who lived in penury their entire life before passing away.

henrimoto:
[/b] Oga Acidosis, pls. Explain more on the bolded.

For as long as he remains in a society that places so much emphasis on money, marriage, and children, he won't find that lasting and enduring happiness. Mars is probably the only place where all three factors (money, marriage, children) do not matter.

Acidosis:



For as long as he remains in a society that places so much emphasis on money, marriage, and children, he won't find that lasting and enduring happiness. Mars is probably the only place where all three factors (money, marriage, children) do not matter.

hahaha...now, I get you.

But he can still achieve these things as long as he is alive.

He just need to get a companion first

So this midlife crisis I've been hearing about is real?
It gets better

Happy 50th birthday to him. Tell him to cheer up. Throw a surprise party for him if you're capable.

He can still get married and have a kid if he wants. Or he can look into adoption

When there is freedom, one can still achieve a lot.
He should be happy he isn't in jail

Even without kids and a spouse, he still has so much to thank God for. He should live his life to the fullest.

madridguy:
He should be grateful he is alive.

It's not that easy to just be "grateful for life".
It's not enough.
Purpose is what makes life worth living.
Life without purpose is empty and meaningless.

Firstly, why is he not married? Secondly, if marriage and kids are the determinants of his happiness, what is preventing him from getting married and bearing children?

henrimoto:
[/b] Not True, if the man is married with children at that, even when there is no money...HE WILL NOT BE MORE MISERABLE"

If only you know how much joy and fulfillment from within that comes when a man/woman thought of his/her child(ren) at a matured age.

See, "Nwa ka Ego"
Nwa di Uto.
Nwa bu Ngozi.... Eather you have money or not.

God bless u for this am a living testimony

udomonday:
I have a very close friend,we met in a place of work,and gradually got used to each other,but the problem is that the guy has been through a lot in life,health wise,and this has led to a lot of financial ups and downs,he has no wife,no children,and still struggling financially,although he is now earning a steady income,tomorrow he will be 50years of age and he is feeling so down and depressed that he has achieved practically nothing in this life.I have encouraged him as much as I can,but he is still seeing his life through the mirror of other peoples life.I plan to surprise him tomorrow,,with a treat.what advice can I get from you guys,please.

Bro there are some single mother women too or very single at 40 too looking for his age..


Please refer him to joking matured men and women dating group on Facebook Dem plenty then u will see women speaking out how they need men and the likes ..

Expose him that being lonely can't get him wife rather exposing himself out that's why we have social media ..

If u want me to put him true u can message me too.

I want him to be happy again ..
It's never too late.

Kingrshd3:


God bless u for this am a living testimony

... My brother, a lot of us don't understand this fact of life. Most persons don't know that their offsprings are source of joy and fulfillment, either there's money or not.

...and what the parents couldn't achieve in their life time, their offsprings will definitely get it for them.

Kingrshd3:



Bro there are some single mother women too or very single at 40 too looking for his age..


Please refer him to joking matured men and women dating group on Facebook Dem plenty then u will see women speaking out how they need men and the likes ..

Expose him that being lonely can't get him wife rather exposing himself out that's why we have social media ..

If u want me to put him true u can message me too.

I want him to be happy again ..
It's never too late.

it's never too late.

It's never too late to start anything as far as you're on earth, get him a wife if you can.

Babangidapikin:
Do you expect him to be happy... Abeg just tell him in 300 years it won't matter anymore, at least he's not in jail for a crime he knows nothing about... Soon Baba God would delete all of us and 100 years would be like a minute in the grand scheme of things.

Show him this comment. Surprise him with a young girl that is ready for marriage and merge them together 🙂

udomonday:
I have a very close friend,we met in a place of work,and gradually got used to each other,but the problem is that the guy has been through a lot in life,health wise,and this has led to a lot of financial ups and downs,he has no wife,no children,and still struggling financially,although he is now earning a steady income,tomorrow he will be 50years of age and he is feeling so down and depressed that he has achieved practically nothing in this life.I have encouraged him as much as I can,but he is still seeing his life through the mirror of other peoples life.I plan to surprise him tomorrow,,with a treat.what advice can I get from you guys,please.

He needs to get married.


He can still find mature ladies in their late 30s or early 40s ready to settle down and work with him to make something out of life. Forget social media hype and the noise people make online, many ladies will be glad to marry him.


Encourage him to start planning of settling down to have one or two kids, it will help him a lot and also give him more confidence about tomorrow and the courage to work harder and hope for the best.


Being single and dying single is not good for any man or woman born in Nigeria and West Africa because we do not have government funded aged people's homes to cater for one at old age.


In West Africa, kids and spouse play very vital roles in the life of a man or woman here.


If he was living in the US or Europe, then he can decide to die single but so long as he lives in Nigeria, please encourage him to get married no matter the odds.


Anybody in Nigeria that is not super rich deceiving himself or herself that he or she can live a fulfilled life as a single person forever will realize his or her mistake later on in life.


I wish him a happy, memorable birthday

udomonday:
I have a very close friend,we met in a place of work,and gradually got used to each other,but the problem is that the guy has been through a lot in life,health wise,and this has led to a lot of financial ups and downs,he has no wife,no children,and still struggling financially,although he is now earning a steady income,tomorrow he will be 50years of age and he is feeling so down and depressed that he has achieved practically nothing in this life.I have encouraged him as much as I can,but he is still seeing his life through the mirror of other peoples life.I plan to surprise him tomorrow,,with a treat.what advice can I get from you guys,please.

Ray Kroc joined the McDonalds business that he made global and for which we remember him today after he was more than 50 years old. All he did in his early years paled to his achievements in later years.

There are Early Bloomers and Late Bloomers. Some achieve quickly early and die early and for some, it is later years to their old age. So there is nothing to be really sad about as long as you trust in God and keep putting in your best with focus.

Life begins when you start to live it.

He should live life, whatever remains of it and forget about the past

Happy birthday to our friend