This theory is based on life, our expectations and the variation of realities from expectations.

In life, you don’t always get everything you want, do you?

Sometimes after putting in the hard work, you end up not getting what really want and believe you deserve.

We are happy when the reality meet or surpasses our expectation but for most of us, we are sad when the reality falls short of expectation.

It’s natural to feel disappointed when the reality falls short of your expectation. But you have to admit that this feeling of disappointment can have a negative spillover effect on other aspects of life.

The negative spillover effect can create a situation of hopelessness. The burnt toast theory offers a way that makes it possible not to arrive at this point of hopelessness.

It is also a tool to overcome frustrations of life caused by forces beyond one’s control.

Now, would you throw away a toast because it’s burnt?

This would depend on the level of your self-esteem. Someone with a lower self-worth, who lacks self-belief and courage, may eat the burnt toast.

On the contrary, someone with a higher self-worth may not.

What does burnt toast theory say?

The burnt toast theory lays out two extremes.

One symbolizes forming the consistency for accepting less than what one deserves.

The other promotes the recognition of your self-worth and encourages the determination not to settle for anything less than what you merit.

The theory recognizes the fact that life is meaningful and satisfying when we have to push for and keep on going unt we get what we need or deserve.

The basic component of the burnt toast theory is setting personal boundaries. The theory says the setting of personal boundaries is the first step on the path to self-actualization and fulfillment.

Therefore the concept advises that you set personal boundaries but before you do, you should do the following;

1. Identify areas of your life where you have normalized compromises.

Such areas could be work you hate but you are still show up for and a dream you have given up on pursuing for the sake of satisfying the expectations of family and others.

It may also be a toxic or a one-sided relationship that you are giving all and receiving nothing back.

After identifying all the areas that are diminishing your self-worth, continue your journey of personal growth until you reach a higher self-esteem.

2. Create and follow the path that leads to a higher self-esteem

Accept where you are on the journey to a higher self-esteem and identify the habits, the beliefs, and the friends you need to drop.

It would be necessary to drop everything that makes you compromise your values so that you can set personal boundaries that would help you become a more assertive you.

Being more assertive is helpful to achieving the state of higher self-esteem that makes settling for less abnormal.

Therefore, If you don’t want to settle for less in life then you have to be assertive in your demand to get what you truly deserve.

3. Learn to say ‘No’.

Learn to say ‘No’ when you should and mean it

Learn to speak your mind and ask for what you truly need or deserve.

Don’t stop learning how not to settle for less until master it.

In conclusion, always remember not to settle for the company of liliputians in the valley when you deserve to be with the angels above clouds.


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Don't Learn to say ‘No’
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