Hello Everyone,

I am new and would greatly appreciate words of wisdom. I am a black American woman marrying a Yoruba Nigerian man this summer. He has lived here in the US since he was a teenager. We have been to many Nigerian weddings with over 600 guests that are open to anyone that wants to come and we are not happy that the food is cold or they run out, or the receptions are very unorganized. We decided we did not want this. We would rather have an invitation only wedding for 250 guests and provide a true VIP service for everyone. The best foods, wines, catering services, entertainment, favors, etc,

The problem is that we know many people will be offended when we tell our guests that it is invitation only. I'm curious how can we get our guests to understand. And even more importantly we would not want to shame anyone by showing up uninvited and being turned away at the door.

I feel very stressed out. Any suggestions greatly appreciated.

@ op, I'm şƱƦƹ you've heard the saying 'don't try to please everyone to ♈ōU̶̲̥̅̊я own displeasure' even if you invited the entire country ǡŋ₫ made it Ǟ free for ÄŁĻ people will still complain, make plans that will suit you ǡŋ₫ pay no mind to others, it's your day anyways.

Goodluck with the wedding and the marriage