After 6 months of marriage, the wife was travelling and was involved in an accident where she was the only survivor but is now crippled after losing her pregnancy? What would be the fate of the husband? The doctor has confirmed the woman is almost good for nothing - cannot eat, bath, stand or procreate. Will love continue?

I think this is where 'for better for worse' comes into play. The love would continue till death do them part, afterall that is what they professed during the wedding and the Bible has said that a man should not divorce his wife except (you know now editor: She means adultery) but that one is not applicable here.

So, the love continues.

May be Seun will have to react to this very quickly. He might have another views.
May be court will nulify this too.

As for me whether he likes it or not the love continues with no hitch.

I am of the opinion of once you're married, no way out!

Iam of the opinion that certainly the love MUST continue. Why abadon her in time of need?

Greatpeter, the courts cannot nullify a marriage based on any condition that occurs after the marriage. It is only what happens before the marriage(2) which your partner was not aware of that can lead to nulllification.

Okay thanks. So this one has come to stay.
that's right.

Love should continue. I hope this didn't happen to anyone you know eresi.

For better for worse...

easier said than done

True love is unconditional and it never fails.

Let us all just pray that such or similar calamity does not befall use. This thing is easier said than done. The guy must really be a tough one to stick to his vow to the end, taking in considerations pressures from his family.

as a more cynical individual I believe at best he will stay married to her but end up with another wife.

human nature is very selfish.

Sad but love must stay!

Yes o Dablessed.

May this never happen or happen again.

knowing the typical man, love will definitely jet right out of the window. it will amaze you at how adept humans can be whenever they are trying to justify an action poor woman whoever she is; cos her husband is gone-byebye.

Just return her to her parents and ask for a refund or exchange.

There is a lesson here for people that don't have insurance?

Return her to her parents? This na wa!

She no longer belongs to her parents. She is one with you. Take care of her, love her, be there for her. Don't just ditch her as if she's a materialistic thing that can be bought and returned if not to your liking.

why not? when she is paraplegic what else must be done? a man needs a fully functioning wife, not a useless invalid. same as a woman! life may be cruel/real at times but it a part of life. we must all accept and deal with it. people that try to hang on just become resentful (and that's just unnecessary).

Marriage vows are for better or for worse, sickness and in health, for richer or poorer till death do us part.

You said, "life may be cruel/real at times but it's a part of life. We must accept and deal with it." Is accepting and dealing with the fact that life is cruel and real shown by trading her in for another?

What if the same thing happens to the next one? That's not accepting and dealing, that's rejecting and side-stepping.

vexxy:

Marriage vows are for better or for worse, sickness and in health, for richer or poorer till death do us part.

You said, "life may be cruel/real at times but it's a part of life. We must accept and deal with it." Is accepting and dealing with the fact that life is cruel and real shown by trading her in for another?

What if the same thing happens to the next one? That's not accepting and dealing, that's rejecting and side-stepping.

Your absolutely right. I was mocking (a bit) when i wrote the whole trading her in stuff.
In respect to the original question... Yes love will continue if there truly is love in the first place.

I am a skeptic when it comes to things like love, because it requires one to act on the bases that there is somebody equally as or more important as themselves.
To respect/'love' another person as one respects/'loves' oneself requires humility. I believe it is possible for man to possess enough humility to truly love, but the opposite or humility is vanity and that is a quality that is too abundant among men to justify the amount of people that declare love nowadays.

Love will continue (in regard to original question), but in most cases i thing people will find that love was never present in the first place.

ajsalako: Love will continue (in regard to original question), but in most cases i thing people will find that love was never present in the first place.

How unfortunate but so very true.

Thank you for such an honest post.

ajsalako:

why not? when she is paraplegic what else must be done? a man needs a fully functioning wife, not a useless invalid. same as a woman! life may be cruel/real at times but it a part of life. we must all accept and deal with it. people that try to hang on just become resentful (and that's just unnecessary).

This could be painful but where is your "...in sickness and in health, till death do us part" vow during the wedding

Love is a strong bond between the 2 of them..There is no doubt about that..LOVE must contiune..unless he married the babe for her looks..now thats a different story sha [color=#990000][/color]

Well everyone is saying "for better for worse"

but in the practical sense how many men will stick with her in this irreversible situation?


@jogego

easier said than done ,my brother,is not easy to implement.

I don't pray for this to happen in Jesus name because our answers are easier said than done.

see what i said about a typical human reaction its here all the board!

oh yes love most continue and then the man it's the time for the man to show his love if truly he love the woman and care for her and do maintain what he promised her at the alter that their love is for better for worse comes into play. The love would continue till death

the husand should love her no matter what, this is when she need him to stay with her, so love as much as she love you.

what if the situation were reversed? Husband of 6 months crippled .. there is a professor in my school that experienced something similar he was hit by a car and sustained a spinal cord injury that has confined him to a wheel chair for the rest of his life ..  he's married but unable to have kids and he and his wife adopted 4 kids.. he also hair poor use of his hands as he lost most their dexterity and cannot even turn a key in a lock..... thats what a marriage and loving is about..


monister

I think the husband could stick around for a while because the beginning might be really tough for the wife, but after a while despite all the love he may have for her he'll begin to feel the need to move on and build a real family with children. With time it's gonna turn from love to pity and that's no better.

It's nice to say for better or for worse but should this guy's whole life just stop because of this unfortunate situation? Couldn't it be that somewhere his wife would actually want him to move on and not stick by her because he feels sorry for her?

Alexia:

I think the husband could stick around for a while because the beginning might be really tough for the wife, but after a while despite all the love he may have for her he'll begin to feel the need to move on and build a real family with children. With time it's going to turn from love to pity and that's no better.

It's nice to say for better or for worse but should this guy's whole life just stop because of this unfortunate situation? Couldn't it be that somewhere his wife would actually want him to move on and not stick by her because he feels sorry for her?

why cant they adopt?... there are millions of orphanaged children in motherless babies homes all over nigeria.. children desperate for love.. why not adopt one of them? and if you really love the woman you married because she is unable to have kids should not make you love her less unless you married her for the sole purpose of her being a baby-making machine..this whole thing of nigerian men wanting kids of "their" own is highly overrated...

monister

if he loves her,than let the love go on

love mst continue bt it's gonna be one very tough love! it's gonna be real hard!