Good one bro . GOD BLESS YOU

masterpiecer:

I agree with u but to some extent, thank God u said some children, truth is, some, but not most.
Most single parent children turn out wayward, cases where they turn out good is when the single parent had to go the extra mile to make sure the child is properly brought up, i'm not saying that some of the kids brought up by both parents might not turn out wayward, but on a large scale, wayward children are mostly product of broken homes/marraiges.

How did you come to this conclusion? Did you conduct a research like its done during a Phd dissertation? I knew many Nigerian children back in the day born to married Nigerian couples who never divorced but their father was not in their lives because he is polygamous and too busy chasing after anything in skirt. I know many Nigerian kids whose parents never divorced and lived under the same roof yet the father never took an active part in raising the children and left it all to his wife the mother of the kids.

What about all those rude spoilt children of Nigerian big men/politicians whose parents are not divorced yet their parents failed to give them a moral upbringing and today they are a complete nuisance to Nigerian society and perhaps the world? They go about spending daddy's money which he looted from the Nigerian coffers in the UK, USA, South Africa and wherever else. Did abdumutallab the under wear bomber not grow up in a two parent home?

Just admit that you have a bias against people raised in a single parent home. Please don't blame the kids and adults raised by divorced parents because it is not their fault that their parent's marraige failed. Some people had to divorce because they were in abusive marital relationships. Look at the late Titi Arowolo who was butchered by her husband. Now her daughter will grow up without a mother because her mother is dead and without a father because his behind is in jail. Would you rather prefer children born to abusive parents face that? It is better to divorce and let peace and sanity reign in the home. Atleast both parents will stay alive and the children will have atleast one parent dedicated to raising and providing for them.

This post reeks of propaganda and frustration born out of the fact that people are not interested in scam leadership training programs which offer nothing and relieve them of their hard earned money. Beware of leadership training scams that try to give you "get rich quick" tips n tricks the trainers cant use themselves. Burn those propaganda packs and study "true" history, spirituality, philosophy and logic. These help you become a wiser and better person by developing your capacity for critical thinking, enabling you to see through all kinds of conspiracies and propaganda.

Great post!She makes a lot of valid points.I am an information junkie yet know how difficult it can be to pick up a book and read to the end.It is something that can only be done through a strong will and the desire to see yourself become a better person.

Kayuzze1: pretty good man.. Check out yourself and your friend now.. Did reading of those 'motivational' books put you far ahead of your friend nw? One thing i learnt from all this books is that it makes people want to pattern their life alongside that of the author.. Dont get me wrong people, I am not against people reading inspirational or motivational books, but it is not a pre-requisite to acheiving something great.. Instead, your utmost desire to achieve should come first, and making sure you maximize your God's given skills,ability,talent and potential... Once you put this in place, I bet the sky will be your startin point...ponder!

Funny enough, most people will not read motivational books if they do not have the desire to achieve success via maximizing their God's given skils... Like some put it "All readers are not leaders, but all leaders are readers".

Blackmen don't read.When a blackman reads he is considered to be acting white.That stereotype seems to be 90 percent correct.

Blackmen forgot that what gave them freedom from slavery in the West was BOOK.Yes,they got freedom through generations of activists that read amongst all black slaves that were denied opportunities to read.They read and their eyes opened and shone like torch light.

The dangerous trend among young ones in Universities is that they make it look cool if your not the book type.Its all about fast money,fast cars,runs girls running to catch the fast guys and their fast money,cultism ,pinging,facebooking,music talent shows on entertainment which has exalted music/artiste so much that all a young kids wants to be is Whizkid,whizboy and spoilt child Davido etc

Most of us do not read enough to know the history of this trend from at least 30 yrs back.In the good old days ,being educated was a great value .Graduates lead the way in all spheres.Nigeria was internationaly up comming,greater than all South East asian countries,India and so on.

Then Buhari struck in 1983.His governance and subsequent ones intentionaly killed education,just because the northern islamic culture was very anti Western/modern education.The Khaki illiterates that joined the army wre in cold war with the educated civilians.They humiliated the educated ones.Have you asked why an average Aboki loves the army and not the airforce or navy.

The above trend plus the the American media trend that use entertainment to portray black success coupled to make every kid aspire to be like snoop dogg or Rick Ross.Now money comes first.

NICE PIECE BRO.
ITS UNFORTUNATE PERSONAL DEVT SCHEME IS GOING DOWN ALL OVER THE WORLD,BUT THE GOOD THING IS THAT THOSE THAT REFUSE TO DEVELOP TODAY WILL REMAIN UNDER THOSE THAT HAVE DEVELOPED THEMSELVES.THE ONE THING U CANNT DO TO A MENTALLY LAZY PERSON IS FORCE HIM TO STUDY.
I USE TO GET ANGRY WHEN I SEE HOW PEOPLE RELEGATE STUDYING TO THE BACKGROUND UNTIL IT DONE ON ME THAT YOU WILL NEED SUCH PEOPLE FOR MENIAL JOBS IN THE FUTURE.
MOST OF US THINK AFTER GRADUATION STUDYING IS A TABOO NOT KNOWING THAT REAL STUDY STARTS AFTER GRADUATION,I WAS TAKEN ABACK WHEN I SAW D CRITICISM THAT FOLLOWED DANGOTE`S ADVERT FOR GRADUATE DRIVERS,WHAT THEY FAIL TO REALISE IS THAT SOME GRADUATE ARE EMPTY INSIDE.

Bla Bla Bla Bla...the only interesting part of this whole sorry z the pay a fee of 3750#..this man z nuthang but an office man.I know his type.

Thanks OP

double3: Bla Bla Bla Bla...the only interesting part of this whole sorry z the pay a fee of 3750#..this man z nuthang but an office man.I know his type.

Double 3,
I think it really unfair that you reach such a strong inference just by reading a single article. Just because all the previous ladies you dated were gold diggers does not mean the next girl you meet will be one.

Why don't you go to my facebook page and do a background check on me. Read some other articles I've written, see the quality of my wallposts, then you will have enough data to make a logical conclusion. You don't have to be on my friends list to do that. And you won't be paying a dime also.

but dis post could have been shortened, but nice information tho!

dasparrow:

How did you come to this conclusion? Did you conduct a research like its done during a Phd dissertation? I knew many Nigerian children back in the day born to married Nigerian couples who never divorced but their father was not in their lives because he is polygamous and too busy chasing after anything in skirt. I know many Nigerian kids whose parents never divorced and lived under the same roof yet the father never took an active part in raising the children and left it all to his wife the mother of the kids.

What about all those rude spoilt children of Nigerian big men/politicians whose parents are not divorced yet their parents failed to give them a moral upbringing and today they are a complete nuisance to Nigerian society and perhaps the world? They go about spending daddy's money which he looted from the Nigerian coffers in the UK, USA, South Africa and wherever else. Did abdumutallab the under wear bomber not grow up in a two parent home?

Just admit that you have a bias against people raised in a single parent home. Please don't blame the kids and adults raised by divorced parents because it is not their fault that their parent's marraige failed. Some people had to divorce because they were in abusive marital relationships. Look at the late Titi Arowolo who was butchered by her husband. Now her daughter will grow up without a mother because her mother is dead and without a father because his behind is in jail. Would you rather prefer children born to abusive parents face that? It is better to divorce and let peace and sanity reign in the home. Atleast both parents will stay alive and the children will have atleast one parent dedicated to raising and providing for them.

Divorce is a societal ill, do not try to justify it, the reason why these ills are now seen as normal today is because we have compromised our standards, we have traded value for insubstancial benefits, thus the result we are having today.
would you rather raise your child as a single parent?, there are alot of psychological impact that this creates in the life of such child, just because it cannot be physically seen doesn't mean it would impede certain social, psychological and even physical growth in the life of such child.

You may say divorce is the best option other than be physically abused by a partner, but like i initially said, when we trade values and let in compromise, what result do you expect?, what happened to the days when intended couples would court for a long period of time to be able to assertain their level of compatibility and other essential factors before finally getting married? we have thrown those days to the dust, nowadays people just meet and get married and expect eternal bliss, the fairy tale "happily ever after". The result is what we see today as broken homes/marraiges, mind you, there are also challenges that even the 2 parent homes face and that is a part of life, but the bottom line is, if something, is wrong, its wrong, no matter how widely accepted(divorce) it is, there by giving room to the large number of wayward children in the world today

shilling: Thanks OP

You are welcome.

claremont: Well-written! Most people would rather spend all day on Nairaland than spend an hour reading a book/journal/research.

Nairaland is not such a bad place to spend ones time if one knows what one is doing!
Somethings here are more than book/journal/reseach!
But, one still need to expand one's horizon by attending to others!
@OP
Thanks very much...like the best piece Im reading from NL lately.
A word is enough for the wise!

ayobase:
@OP
Thanks very much...like the best piece Im reading from NL lately.
A word is enough for the wise!

Thank you Ayo. That really meant a lot. You can read more of my articles on my facebook page, www.facebook.com/mutehimself
Thanks.

jstmee99: “Life is an opportunity, benefit from it.
Life is beauty, admire it.
Life is a dream, realize it.
Life is a challenge, meet it.
Life is a duty, complete it.
Life is a game, play it.
Life is a promise, fulfill it.
Life is sorrow, overcome it.
Life is a song, sing it.
Life is a struggle, accept it.
Life is a tragedy, confront it.
Life is an adventure, dare it.
Life is luck, make it.
Life is too precious, do not destroy it.
Life is life, fight for it.”

hmm

Step-G:
hmm

Jstmee99,
Which one is this poem that you keep repeating?

True words! This is so wonderful. I like your exposition, OP.

mute4real: What I want to share with us today is about the pain of pleasure. We live in a world today where we are literally killing ourselves with pleasure. We are dying everyday, not out of pain as we define it, but out of pleasure. And nobody seems to be saying anything about it. We are amusing ourselves to death and nobody really cares. Stella Damascus, the Nollywood actress, shared in her column in about how a friend of hers was mad at her because when her(the friend’s) kids wanted to watch TV the only channel that the decoder was locked on Nickelodeon and the kids wanted one of the “more interesting” channels like Ben Ten where some real violence take place.

Today, entire families sit in front of the television box and are ingesting pleasure capsules hour after hour not realizing that they are dying. May I suggest to you that just like any other thing in this life, pleasure can be addictive? And the addictive nature of pleasure brings about negative repercussions. I don’t have to be a genius to know that unless urgent measures are taken to fight this addiction we are going to keep seeing an increase in divorce rates as families become mere acquaintances of one another. And an increase in divorce rates will lead to an increase in fatherless and motherless homes, which leads to half-prepared children sent out to face the pressure of society, which leads to these kids growing up to be men and women who are not responsible enough to be fathers and mothers themselves but have the tools between their legs to make them have babies. So, when they have kids they abandon them. They never knew what it is like to have a father or a mother so they have no idea how to be one, themselves.

Besides the long term effect of the addictive nature of pleasure like just narrated in the preceding paragraph. I also see that one of the more immediate effects of the pain of pleasure is the reluctance to learn. I see a dearth of knowledge all around. All that is on the minds of recent graduates now is how he or she can get his or her own Blackberry. I hear the cost of a new Blackberry today begins at N20,000 ($130). I even hear that the cost of some go for as high as over N100,000 ($660). Is that true? And when I turn to have a decent conversation with one of these young and beautiful ladies brandishing their Blackberrys all around, I get the shock of my life that all there is is a Brazilian hair and an empty brain. Except for the well developed part of the brain used in pinging.

I and a friend in Benin run what is commonly called a Business Center. Nothing much, just a few copiers, about 10 computers, 2 printers, a scanner, two good digital cameras for passport photographs, etc. You get the drift. He manages the day to day running of the business, since I reside in Lagos. But once a year I go to Benin and spend a couple of weeks there. And whenever I am in Benin, I usually spend some time with him at the shop. In my last but one visit to Benin, I was at the shop with him when a beautiful young lady in her NYSC Khaki pants came in. She needed to work on her CV. The two employees we have working for us are just Senior School Certificate holders, so we just pointed to one of the computer systems for her to use by herself. To my utter disdain she knew nothing about Microsoft Word. Maybe she is only used to Excel, but I doubt that too. It was one of our employees that ended up working on the CV for her. But she had in her hands one of the higher classes of Blackberry. Of course the lower classes are for guys.

I worship in a church where there are over 20,000 regular members. My church seats over 5,000 people per service and holds 4 services every Sunday. And this number does not include children who have a different building. It’s one of the new generation churches. Once in a while corporate trainings are held so members can develop themselves. These trainings are not free but very cheap. As low as N7,000. There was even one that was for N2,500, but the training materials was like N5,000 which was optional. One would expect that for a new generation church where everything from religion to business is being taught there will be a mad rush for such trainings. You will be surprised to know that for some of these trainings only 700 people participate out of over 20,000 members. And these are trainings that go for as high as N100,000 in the corporate world. But why should I spend N5,000 for a training when I can get some good time with my babe in a fast food restaurant with some cups of ice cream?

I advice the young ladies, I am focusing on you because you are at the frontline of the receiving end of the ills of the society. I advice the young ladies, there is more to life than “my boyfriend dresses well and smells good. Hmm! I am so in love with him.” It’s high time you started asking the right questions. How much of his budget does he invest on Personal Development? How many books did he buy in the last six months? How many has he read? What did he learn? When was the last time he spent his own money, not the company’s, to attend a training session for himself. You need to have an answer for these questions because perfumes never made any marriage work. Any marriage where the woman has a flare for personal development and the man does not, can never be a happy one. Just listen to one episode of Real Life issues aired on Inspiration FM 92.3 in Lagos if you doubt me.

If you, referring to the young ladies, would follow through on the advice given on the previous paragraph, I promise you, many of you will be shocked to discover that that guy you’ve been kissing for more than a year now, has not bought a single book in the last one year. That means all he knows now is still the same things he knew like 3 or 5 yrs ago. Except maybe that Jonathan did not have any shoes. I have met guys who never bought a book in the last 5yrs but never failed to renew their DSTV subscription. And when you are the type that wants to spend your Saturdays attending seminars and your husband sits at home to watch football, then trouble is brewing. Why not nip it in the bud now? It may hurt but you will be saving yourself a lifetime of pain.

From my personal projections based on the number of people that have enrolled for the April session of School for Personal Leadership, for the first time in three sessions ladies will outnumber guys by a long pole. And this is a trend that is beginning to show all over the world, especially among the black race. In the United States today, the ratio of educated black girls to guys in the corporate world is about 3:1. There are not enough good guys to go around anymore so sex is now being used as a weapon to keep the few good black guys. The crave for pleasure in the Rap industry is causing a lot of young black brothers to drop out of schools while those ladies in bra and G-strings dancing in the music videos are attending night classes to further their education.

Am I going to continue to see this kind of trend in the School for Personal Leadership that current projection is indicating? More ladies interested in Personal Development than guys? Are guys only interested in buying Blackberrys for the ladies so they can at least get some sex in exchange for it? But I want us all to have a rethink. The problem with the world today is not just pain as we know it. It is pleasure. The pain of pleasure is far worse than any other kind of pain you can think of.

I want to encourage you. If you are the type that has never seen the need to invest in Personal Development, begin with School for Personal Leadership. It holds right on Facebook, completely flexible, you go into the online classroom when it is most convenient for you. You get to meet people from different fields, different states of the nation, and residing in different countries. It is awesome. Come spend some time with other people who have a desire to make a difference in their lives and in the lives of others. Come and learn principles that will change your life forever. All you have to do is to first add me as friend on facebook then send a text in the following format, WSPL*SURNAME*FIRST NAME*SEX*STATE OF RESIDENCE (If in Nigeria) or COUNTRY (If outside Nigeria)*EMAIL ADDRESS*PHONE NUMBER to +234-803-874-9796. Payment details will be sent to you within 24hrs. The fee for this August's special weekend Session is N3,750. God bless you.

Thanks,
Mute Efe,
+234-803-874-9796 (SMS only)
www.facebook.com/mutehimself

N.B
Please leave a comment as an encouragement after reading the note.

Wow, it's high time we woke up from this slumber of silly pleasure at the expense of things that truly matter more and veer into this sphere of personal development (most especially as men cos the women are fast taking over since most of us abdicated our responsibility far too long) as on it hinges a whole lot which our lives depend on. Thanks for the awareness. Hope a positive change ensue.

LordRazor1:
Wow, it's high time we woke up from this slumber of silly pleasure at the expense of things that truly matter more and veer into this sphere of personal development (most especially as men cos the women are fast taking over since most of us abdicated our responsibility far too long) as on it hinges a whole lot which our lives depend on. Thanks for the awareness. Hope a positive change ensue.

You are welcome, LordRazor. Thank you, also, for taking the time to read through that long article.

courage89:


While i agree with you that the greatest inspiration a man can have is his will to achieve something. I therefore disagree with you that e-books, seminars are waste of time and money.

When you attend seminars; you don't just gain knowledge based on the preaching, you also network with like minds. When you read, you gain valuable knowledge that can/will help you succeed in this information era. The knowledge, network and other benefits you gained from sacrificing your time, money and other resources can only work for you depending on your belief and vision. They are part of your acquired asset waiting for judicial dispensation and utilization, and as long as you have those assets at your disposal, they will always work for you...hence justifying the resources spent.

There is a saying "Not all readers are leaders, but all leaders are readers. Also, "Not all the books you read and /or all the network created will lead to success...but to be successful, you need to read all the books you can get and network with every necessary being possible. You don’t know where your success will come from and in what form... but, you need to be prepared to spot them whenever they rear their head and to capitalize on them. Whenever preparation meets opportunity, success is always inevitable.

Read more, attend the seminars, and create plans for meeting the right people and you’ll be happy you did because success will always be inevitable.

Well said, courage89. I couldn't have said it better, myself.

I just came back to see how this post did. I am amazed at the number of views it got. Thank you nairalanders.

Good talkGood talkGood talk