Pls friends,i need advice on how to start making friends again. I'm a married woman,but separated with my hubby because i couldn't live with a man as heartless as him. We got married 4 years ago,but i discovered after our wedding dat everything abt him was fake. He had no job nd lived in d villa. But claimed to live nd work in PH. I found out later nd confronted him,he begged me nt to go since i was d only person who could help him change. I accepted because i luved him and was ready to bring d change since he was ready for it and since we r both graduates,i believe we can always get our feet back if we worked together. Little did i knw how wrong i was. Few months into d wedding,i went for youth service and invited him to live with me there while i helped him apply in some plces. But he turned my service year into a miserable one by always beating me each time i go to church,with d excuse that he doesn't fear anyone,even God. Dat was when he told me he was a cult guy. He drinks a lot and smoked weed. He doesn't give me money,rather i spent all d money i earned on him hoping dat he'll change. When i gave birth to my first child,he abandoned my child and i on d road nd i had to go to my parents to stay with my family. For almost two years, we were separated and i roamed the streets of lagos in search of a job i neva got. I only depended on friends and family for sustainance. Finally a friend gave me 30k to start any biz,i came bk to owerri nd started selling OK wears. Few moths later,he called and appologized for all he did to me and want a reunion. Friends advised dat i shld accept him since he has begged, but my family was against it. Considering my baby nd d fact dat i already wedded him,i went bak. But i didn't knw i got it wrong again, cos as i took in with my second baby, he started ignoring us. He'll go out and come bk anytime he wnts without caring abt me nd my baby. He took all d money i was doing biz with. Anytime a girl called him, he'll go. With time,i got infected dat i had a very irritating discharge dat kept me unconfortable for weeks. I complained to him,all he said was dat i should take kia of myself. And dat if i die in his house,he'll will just bury me nd move on. My health was deteriorating and he didn't kia. I had to call my baby sis who arranged a taxi with her money. Dat was how i walked away with my baby and pregnancy. Months later,i gave birth to a baby boy. Till now i'm taking care of them with d help of friends. I'm yet to get a job or raise money to get trained in any handwork. He doesn't care if we live or not. And i'm just stuck in my world without friends(both male and female) i don't knw where and how to start making friends again. I go to bed every night hoping to find happiness again. I'm happy with my kids,but i'm nt happy cos i feel so alone

What a sad story. I'm really amazed at the strings you knitted.
Didnt you date this dude before marrying him?
A man who has no authority above him is in my opinion, a beast. How could you be in a relationship and yet not know regular things about this dude?
Good a thing you are out of his house, stay out if you must secure your future.
@all: this is an exact scene that plays out whenever a sister becomes desperate to get married.
May God save us all

there is always light at the end of every tunnel. Let ur experience make you stronger and not weaker. At this point, u dnt need self pity or regret, rather you should live for tomorrow. yesterdays are gone and gone for ever. tomorrows are promising with lots of goodies.

I am a man but I tell u that some men are Beast in human nature. i say this with proofs. Just take good kia of those kids as if your life depends on it and always dont fail draw them close to God for good moral upbringing. At times men don worth the trouble.

At times I think marriage is over rated. I dnt advocate for divorce, bt wat if it is not working? Please live ur life and 4get the boy u call man.

Call me on 08105977902.its alright

I am a single Parent. i am also very, very lonely. Av looking for a companion. I think you are going to be a good companion.

What a touching story...hmmm....you are far, would have introduced u to someone u can helping to sell products for, plus pray, I may contact u again if something works, just interested in making sure your kids have better tomorrow, but be strong, prayerful & faithful to God and He will surprise you, even though it doesn't come very fast now that u need His help, be steadfast, He will surely help u. God is with u!

If u stil nd a friend, please reach me at michky54@yahoo.com (n.b. Dat 54 in my email does not indicate my age. Infact, am nt even close). However, am lonely and need some1 2 talk 2 aswel. Hope 2 hear 4rm u soon. U'r nt alone.

so men rili do change afta marriage?
God help us single o

and the people say! Amen

Dat make's both of us,we r now in d advise/companion seeker's club,welcome 2 da club,poor us.

Dyt: so men rili do change afta marriage?
God help us single o

So, no be only women abi?

Splendid4: Call me on 08105977902.its alright

Good heart there.
U shld have made it more private.
NLers?

ayobase:

So, no be only women abi?

I v always bn of d opinion dat changes in women r caused my men

Dyt:

I v always bn of d opinion dat changes in women r caused my men

More often caused by women!

ayobase:

More often caused by women!

N men r so weak so let it get 2 dem, hence display dere weakness by hittin er
Smh

Such a touching story, but I think the guy in question may be acting out of frustration cos you might neva knw hw a man feels without any money. However, I wud advice you hold on to God for intervention and liberation for his acting to enable him to a better person, with this I think you might save a soul instead of leaving hin for another man, cos the devil u knw as far better than the angel you don't know as they said. Gud luck and may God give you the heart and strenght to move on, kias

Dyt:

N men r so weak so let it get 2 dem, hence display dere weakness by hittin er
Smh

Our weakness is sometimes attributed to the love we have for them.
Hit a woman?
The man is still a boy then!

oh rili
love u say