A married lady having a separate room from her hubby.

^^

[b]Cowgurl:[/b]You need to provide us with more information pertaining to the circumstances surrounding this case, in order for us nairalanders accurately determine whether or not the aformentioned decision taken, is right or wrong.

For example:

* Do either of them snore?

* Is she nursing a baby?

* Is there a medical reason behind the decision to sleep in seperate rooms?

Alright then. Am an only female child in my family and 'v gotten so used to havin my own rum n personal stuff (privacy I mean) since I was 5 and to be candid with you, I won't mind having a separate room from that of my hubby. I opened this thread so I can be in the KNOW of what lies ahead of me by married peeps in the house most esp those with the experience 'v just stated, thanks.

Its not all right. You need to stay together. There is no need for privacy, you should be open as well as vulnerable to your partner am sure at a point in your life you had to a share room with one or two people. Please get used to living in the room with him. Night gist, brainstorming,decision as well as sex are always the best

feminine A: Its not all right. You need to stay together. There is no need for privacy, you should be open as well as vulnerable to your partner am sure at a point in your life you had to a share room with one or two people. Please get used to living in the room with him. Night gist, brainstorming,decision as well as sex are always the best

i agree with o

Thanks Feminine A &Taryour.

cowgurl: Alright then. Am an only female child in my family and 'v gotten so used to havin my own rum n personal stuff (privacy I mean) since I was 5 and to be candid with you, I won't mind having a separate room from that of my hubby. I opened this thread so I can be in the KNOW of what lies ahead of me by married peeps in the house most esp those with the experience 'v just stated, thanks.

Okay then. Based on what you've just written, not a good idea.

In addition to all that's been said so far, sleeping together in the same room, same bed brings you both closer together, both emotionally and physically. You don't want to start off your married life by creating unnecessary distance between you.

Remember also that 2 becomes 1 & being together helps facilitate that.

Another thing, matrimony being the bumpy road that it is, is full of ups and downs. When going through the "downs", being together helps overcome that phase. For example, if you've had a disagreement, it's quite difficult (unless you're a complete nutcase of course), to remain angry with your other half lying next to you.

Question for you though: Did you grow up witnessing your parents sleep in seperate rooms? I ask because most kids tend to emulate what the adults around them do...

Hmm, I see. So what if my hubby also wants it that way, should I oppose him?

^^ Now that's odd. It's like being thrown back to the Victorian era.

No, I wouldn't advocate you "oppose" him, but explain to him the benefits of being together as a couple, as already outlined by everyone here.

But then again, if it's a mutual agreement between you both...then I guess it's whatever works for you both...

Just remember that you'll be missing out on each other though...

Hmm, I get u Efemena. My present spouse does not dig it as well even afta much pleas, so I gues am stuck wit al ur suggestions cos I luv him so much 2 let dat get in d way.