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lostgirl
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I am an American with a Nigerian Husband. Eventhough I have admitted to knowing what kind of man I married on other threads here I still want to know some of the secrets he has locked away that effect me. He has done his best to drive a wedge between his family and me. If anyone of hem tell him they like me he comes up with a way for them to dislike me. LOL. He doesnt want any of us to communicate because I think he is afraid that lies he has told me will be brought to light. But there is one thing in particular I would like to know. That is A woman he claims is his sister, I want to know is she really his wife. I feel in my heart that she really is and all around him are covering for them. But how can I find out for certain? Any ideas?
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chaircover (f)
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How long have you been married?
Do you have kids together?
What makes you suspicious of his sister?
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toba (m)
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Tell us a bit about your background,how u met&if he actually used u to get what he wanted
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posakosa (m)
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its better if you stay lost girl.
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ubiaa5 (f)
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Tell him to take u to nigeria to visit his family.
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Tanna (f)
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I once had similar suspicions, but I had no reason to think that he had another wife except because of stereotypes My husband also is a VERY BIG liar sometimes. But he will lie about the most insignificant things. its confusing.
To lie- when avoiding trouble, or to impress someone- I understnad. It's not right, but i understand.
But my hubby sometimes just tells random pointless lies. Like, he'll say he doesn't eat, or like broccoli, but then he eats it secretly when I cook it for me and the kids.
He says he bought a shirt for $50 when it really cost $30.00.
I THINK IGNORANCE IS BLISS. Don't go looking for proof. But if it one day SLAPS you in the face (like it did me a few weeks ago) Then you shld confront it at that point.
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lostgirl
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@ Tanna
I think ignorance is bliss in some cases too. But this is nagging at me. Is what you found out a few weeks ago the fact that he has another wife? Are you american?
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posakosa (m)
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I don't want to call you a dummy but pls find yourself another man.
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lostgirl
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@Posakosa
Ha ha ha ha. I already did. If He has another wife and I will get a new man.
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posakosa (m)
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ok, so why post this thread ? what a waste of precious time.
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lostgirl
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In some situations no matter how done they are, you still seek closure and truth. I want to be absolutely certain before i go on with my life. Have no hangups.
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posakosa (m)
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woman you better move on with your life, no such thing as closure with a Nigerian man.
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lostgirl
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i like you, lol
you tell it like it is. I think I have to agrree with you on that
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posakosa (m)
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seriously woman he has moved on and so should you---- even if he comes back; he would either be coming back for a green card or to just fcuk you.
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r231 (m)
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woman you better move on with your life, no such thing as closure with a Nigerian man.
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Fhemmmy
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Well, tell him to feel free to be himself.
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coolier (f)
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But there is one thing in particular I would like to know. That is A woman he claims is his sister, I want to know is she really his wife. I feel in my heart that she really is and all around him are covering for them. But how can I find out for certain? Any ideas?
@Posakosa
Ha ha ha ha. I already did. He has another wife and I got a man.
In some situations no matter how done they are, you still seek closure and truth. I want to be absolutely certain before i go on with my life. Have no hangups.
What exactly is your problem? |
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lostgirl
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@ coolier
I don't have a problem anymore. I found the closure I needed. The answer to my question was given to me and I went on to post my divorce question. No hangups. Nothing left dangling. Just full steam ahead to my new life.
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spikedcylinder
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What exactly is your problem?
Thank you. This is attention seeking of the highest order. |
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lostgirl
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@ spiked. Who needs your attention? i needed what I said I did. Closure. If I wanted attention, I can get that in reality. i would not have to come here for it. I am sorry I even voiced my concerns here. Some of you people are ignorant to the variety of human emotions and needs. Some of us are sensitive and need closure on things. dang what is your problem? why did you even reply? I guess you wanted some attention.
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lostgirl
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I wasn't hounding anyone. I do have the right to defend myself and express my opinion of someones reply. This thread is dead if anyone would take the time to read all. I said I found my closure and moved on. That is how the Divorce thread even came to be. READ! Dang some people are just hard headed knowitalls.
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morpheus24
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@ poster
Americans and closure
Too much sentimentality will kill you
You go wound o!
Move on!!
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spikedcylinder
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@ spiked. Who needs your attention? i needed what I said I did. Closure. If I wanted attention, I can get that in reality. i would not have to come here for it. I am sorry I even voiced my concerns here. Some of you people are ignorant to the variety of human emotions and needs. Some of us are sensitive and need closure on things. dang what is your problem? why did you even reply? I guess you wanted some attention.
Err, madam Americanah, this is your original post:I am an American with a Nigerian Husband. Eventhough I have admitted to knowing what kind of man I married on other threads here I still want to know some of the secrets he has locked away that effect me. He has done his best to drive a wedge between his family and me. If anyone of hem tell him they like me he comes up with a way for them to dislike me. LOL. He doesnt want any of us to communicate because I think he is afraid that lies he has told me will be brought to light. But there is one thing in particular I would like to know. That is A woman he claims is his sister, I want to know is she really his wife. I feel in my heart that she really is and all around him are covering for them. But how can I find out for certain? Any ideas?
I don't know what English is like where you are but the highlighted depicts a current and on going phase -- a present tense.
Issue is, you opened a thread in one day and posted absolutely contradictory hogwash on the same thread! One minute, you are trying to find out 'lies' about your husband, next minute you have found closure. You really don't have a problem, just trying to create one for yourself.
You are an attention whore. |
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lostgirl
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@ spiked. Can your dumb ass read. comments have been made past the original post you idiot. is it not possible that via the thread i found closure? it seems to me you are the attention seeker. In all honesty I got what I was looking for. you people are the ones who keep it going. What was said was not in contrast The conversation simply evolved into something else.
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lostgirl
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Let all this nonsense go! what the heck? Find something better to talk about. i got what I needed and I moved on to the next thing.
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lostgirl
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posakosa you are nothing more than an instigator.
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