Richochett:

You don't have any legal right to lock her out of her personal belongings (e.g clothes). If you're not comfortable with her attitude simply tell her to start looking for accommodation.

Moreover, from your narratives I can't see anywhere the girl has wronged you. You're are just acting bossy because its your house

Allow her to enter the house.

Are you for real? OR a simp. Just imagine

HustlerGurl:
Life goes on

Let's hook up

Richochett:

At least I'm more intelligent than you.

U think?
Better wake up to reality

benjanny:
If all you said here are true,definitely you are a very gentle fellow.

Don't leave her outside because of the dangers in school environment, you shall be held responsible for anything that happen to her because her parent is aware that you are accommodating the ingrate.
Warn her to behave herself if she refuse evict her from your house.

That reminds me of my time in Federal polytechnic Nekede Owerri,I have a stupid roommate,he was in ND1 while I was in my finals then,I met him through someone, by the time we meet,I have already equipped the room,he only came with his cloths.This guy never one day wash our bedspread or curtains,he doesn't care about our room properties like our buckets and the rest. Even if I wash our curtains and bedspread, when am not around he will take them in to spread on our foam or fix the curtains as they were washed.He can see our bucket or our Jerrycans outside and and he will not take them in

So as I graduated,he asked me to give him those curtains bucket,Jerrycans and the rest,but u refuse and gave it out to other people.How can I give you something you never cherished or valued?! who does that

Some people like home training wlh, it's not there fault it's just so many parents raising hoes and expecting to man up and marry them

Richochett:

At least I'm more intelligent than you.

Impossible!!

Wetin dey vex the girl plenty. You are treating her like.a girl sister instead of a woman.

Mexzy4sho:



Bro, I off cap for you. Best response to someone like that....

Omo me sef shock oo

Its not good to be too good and because you decided to be too good, that is why you're in this saga! Nevertheless, I like your actions, but next time learn how avoid fools.

Two bottles of origin for you!

The gods are wise!

drLammy:


True bro
I accommodated a friend from year one till final level
Once in a while when we talk he still sounds like he's Indebted to me somehow till today he's appreciative.

Although some guys might be an exception o

That's men for you try that with daughters of Jezebel please, it will be what have you ever done to me after

daveyjay:
Good day NLers, please I need your take on this.
I'm a student in one of Nigeria's prominent public universities.

A girl decided to vie for admission in my school via the predigree programme but she had no accommodation. Because of the relationship between my parents and hers, I offered to take her in from January till now

I offered a roof over her head.

The first night she came, she slept on the floor and I wasn't okay with that, the following night, I told her she could have the bed, I vacated my bed and relegated myself to sleeping on the floor, we can't share same bed since she's neither my babe nor sister. And this sleeping routine has continued ever since then. The floor is my new bed

I gave her my spare key, uncensored access to my kitchen and everything within my legal occupancy.
Cut long story short, last week Tuesday she woke up, had her bath, ate then stepped out briefly, when she returned we were outta water. Tap water of course. She called my attention to it to which I remained calm. Meanwhile I hadn't eaten neither had I bathed. At noon, she came to me that she was hungry but couldn't cook due to unavailability of water, I then asked her if I am to fetch her water??!.

She said she was gonn take food stuff to her friend's place (upstairs) to cook.
I replied by asking how many of her friends had lacked water and brought food stuff to cook here??!


She got angry and took some money and left


That same Tuesday, I went to see Chelsea game, when I returned, I asked her if she cooked but she didn't dignify me with her attention talk more of a response.
I thought it was rude but considered it as one of the many tantrums of ladies

The following morning, she woke up, acted like I don't exist, couldn't greet... had her bathe and left. Returned, unlocked the door, walked in like I wasn't there, ate, left to her friend's place.

On Thursday she repeated the routine, I called her back when she was going out, I asked her if she considered me as her father, brother or boyfriend that she'd wake up and start throwing attitudes...
I made her understand that I am her benefactor.
Hardly did I finish before she left. She returned and continued in same path and that has continued till this very moment...

Last night she didn't sleep at home, when she returned in the morning, she unlocked the door with her spare, walked in, ate, brushed, dressed and walked out without a single word e come be like say I be ghost.

What I did, I changed the locks, took some stuff, sealed my door with strict instructions to the caretaker then moved to a friends place outside my lodge and I've been there ever since.

She has returned and has been calling my line but I've been ignoring...

Now, is my action too harsh or still in line??!

oga go back to your house and tell her that you can't continue to accommodate her and she must leave... you're making a simple thing complicated.

UwaMmebii:


So you have been sleeping in the same room with a girl not ur sister or coursing and haven't sleep/sex her? Wow u strong. Perhaps the girl is ugly or not sexy. If to say u are hitting that gal with ur ogbunigwe she won't have been acting disrepectfull to you. But who am I to judge, as u locked her out another sharp guy will accommodate her and service her engine routinely.

but sleeping with her with compound the problem believe me

NWAAMARA:

she dey vex cos u refuse to make her feel like a woman. you're neglecting her vital need. pls help the poor lady

What is her vital needs

Richochett:

You don't have any legal right to lock her out of her personal belongings (e.g clothes). If you're not comfortable with her attitude simply tell her to start looking for accommodation.

Moreover, from your narratives I can't see anywhere the girl has wronged you. You're are just acting bossy because its your house

Allow her to enter the house.

I don’t agree with the locking her out for days.

The relationship degenerated since the water incident.
I think your opinion would’ve changed if it were two girls living together and one was accommodating the other.

This is guy who is a student, has his own challenges as well, sacrificed his comfort and adjusted his lifestyle to accommodate another person.

Has this person reciprocated the magnanimity shown her?
He might not have been in a good mood when the girl told him about the lack of water in the house...I think the guy should’ve handled that situation better instead of ignoring and not talking to her...he should’ve remained calm and talked to her about it...Yes she should’ve fetched water or made effort to have water in the room since they don’t go outside of the compound for water...provision of water shouldn’t be left for the guy...Mind you, this is a guy who might be one of few male students in a class dominated by females...he sees them everyday, study with them, mind his business, probably teach some of them, is disciplined and is no SIMP. I give him props for that.

Lots of guys would be thinking of how to take advantage of the girl sexually. This guy has no time for such. I give him maximum respect for that.
I don’t agree with the locking out of her stuffs and disappearing from the house.
It’ll be nice if they talk and sort their issues.

CalmElder:





Seems both parents want to seal their friendship by joining them together in matrimony

Haha that's how some parents are doing now if they discovered you are responsible they will try by force to wife up their hoe daughter to you, "you are a respectable man you should man up "

harrwix:
Apart from your actions, I appreciate the fact that you initially reached out to her. Let her know henceforth you will not welcome an insolent behaviour of which she has two choice, apologize and turn a new leaf or take her stuffs and leave your apartment

O.P, take note of this and LOUD IT into her Ears!

She get luck sef......if it was me I will never vacate my bed for her, maybe bcoz she has some friends around already that why she's misbehaving but when u throw her out nw she will know those friend won't tolerate her madness

[quote author=daveyjay post=101166418]Good day NLers, please I need your take on this.
I'm a student in one of Nigeria's prominent public universities.

A girl decided to vie for admission in my school via the predigree programme but she had no accommodation. Because of the relationship between my parents and hers, I offered to take her in from January till now

I offered a roof over her head.

The first night she came, she slept on the floor and I wasn't okay with that, the following night, I told her she could have the bed, I vacated my bed and relegated myself to sleeping on the floor, we can't share same bed since she's neither my babe nor sister. And this sleeping routine has continued ever since then. The floor is my new bed

I gave her my spare key, uncensored access to my kitchen and everything within my legal occupancy.
Cut long story short, last week Tuesday she woke up, had her bath, ate then stepped out briefly. Na now you act as a guy, if i were u i will do worse

Well, if this is true,

Guy you try Sha. Make una de ghost mode small for now.

First thing wen you decide to answer her call, give quick notice and let her start packing her things. This life is easy. You can't be running away from your house because of someone


I dislike malice with passion. Even if I offend you, no matter what, talk to me. Let's settle immediately

Moreover,

This is not a continuous fetching of water in the house oooo. It's just for a few periods then you went to your friends place. She is sending a signal that she has seen a better place


Don't let her use you to do cover up
Time up. call it quite before something else comes up abi you Wan beg her?

Kingcalls:
Thats the entitlement mentality women have...imagine say u decide to de hammer am , she will do worse... thats the difference between guys and girls...if na man u accommodate freely...he will sleep on the floor and still act like house boy to u...he will b going on errands free for u and will b fetching the water without u knowing that the is water problem...men are more appreciative than woman and never forget the help u gave them when they were in need ... women act like entitled spoilt kids

Not all the time. Had a babe was staying with in my finals. I had decided to leave her everything I owned and she told me she'd want her cousin to stay with her. No wahala. Few weeks before I rounded up clearance, the dude came and afterwards was forming attitude. At the peak of it, the newly blent idiot called Cartel men on me. When the retards came and we started capping they knew they came on a wrong mission.

Long story short, as an Aba boy he decided to engage me in a personal fisticuffs, I beat him up so bad the neighbours were dazed seeing a guy who hardly talks this vicious.

I'm summary, men can be ungrateful too...

Obimiz:
I cannot accommodate someone who's not my sister or related to me for that long ooo.
Does she even have a parent atall? To permit their daughter to stay with a guy who is not a blood relation in the room alone, haba.
I cannot permit my sister to do that talk more of daughter.
It's too risky, I don't advise anybody to do that, nor matter how much you trust the fellow.

My guy, I salute your level of discipline.

That's the kind of society now we found ourselves, may be they are trying to pin the girl on the young lad

daveyjay:
My neighbor called that she's stranded that I should return

let her in, let her pack her bags and leave. If not she go carry all your things for house and disappear. I have seen it happen a lot of times

Kzinne:
don't mind the guy. He's a learner ���

Lmao....he obviously is

daveyjay:
Good day NLers, please I need your take on this.
I'm a student in one of Nigeria's prominent public universities.

A girl decided to vie for admission in my school via the predigree programme but she had no accommodation. Because of the relationship between my parents and hers, I offered to take her in from January till now

I offered a roof over her head.

The first night she came, she slept on the floor and I wasn't okay with that, the following night, I told her she could have the bed, I vacated my bed and relegated myself to sleeping on the floor, we can't share same bed since she's neither my babe nor sister. And this sleeping routine has continued ever since then. The floor is my new bed

I gave her my spare key, uncensored access to my kitchen and everything within my legal occupancy.
Cut long story short, last week Tuesday she woke up, had her bath, ate then stepped out briefly, when she returned we were outta water. Tap water of course. She called my attention to it to which I remained calm. Meanwhile I hadn't eaten neither had I bathed. At noon, she came to me that she was hungry but couldn't cook due to unavailability of water, I then asked her if I am to fetch her water??!.

She said she was gonn take food stuff to her friend's place (upstairs) to cook.
I replied by asking how many of her friends had lacked water and brought food stuff to cook here??!


She got angry and took some money and left


That same Tuesday, I went to see Chelsea game, when I returned, I asked her if she cooked but she didn't dignify me with her attention talk more of a response.
I thought it was rude but considered it as one of the many tantrums of ladies

The following morning, she woke up, acted like I don't exist, couldn't greet... had her bathe and left. Returned, unlocked the door, walked in like I wasn't there, ate, left to her friend's place.

On Thursday she repeated the routine, I called her back when she was going out, I asked her if she considered me as her father, brother or boyfriend that she'd wake up and start throwing attitudes...
I made her understand that I am her benefactor.
Hardly did I finish before she left. She returned and continued in same path and that has continued till this very moment...

Last night she didn't sleep at home, when she returned in the morning, she unlocked the door with her spare, walked in, ate, brushed, dressed and walked out without a single word e come be like say I be ghost.

What I did, I changed the locks, took some stuff, sealed my door with strict instructions to the caretaker then moved to a friends place outside my lodge and I've been there ever since.

She has returned and has been calling my line but I've been ignoring...

Now, is my action too harsh or still in line??!

You've done the right thing, na man u be.

You can't bite the finger that feeds you, nah nah.
You even try self if na me she for don go since

Richochett:

You don't have any legal right to lock her out of her personal belongings (e.g clothes). If you're not comfortable with her attitude simply tell her to start looking for accommodation.

Moreover, from your narratives I can't see anywhere the girl has wronged you. You're are just acting bossy because its your house

Allow her to enter the house.

Or deh
Goan open the door for her nau

LordDarius:

You're trying so hard to sound Intelligent, but you ain't... Sorry Bro, No vex

u sure say na bros him be ? E fit be angry bird (naija feminist)

daveyjay:
What I'm concerned about is how both families will receive the news...

Her parents will believe whatever lie she sells

that’s their business. They won’t say they don’t know their daughter

Richochett:

At least I'm more intelligent than you.

You wish...
So pathetic

Hassanmaye:
Haha if she poison you nko

Poison me with her pussy?? I will be glad....

daveyjay:
What I'm concerned about is how both families will receive the news...

Her parents will believe whatever lie she sells

Forget it bro, that's her character her parents mist have known what and what she can do no matter what lies she told them unless they just decided to back her up.

daveyjay:
I actually cannot rent an apartment for her as she isn't my responsibility and I am a student, every money is valuable to me

Dont even try it.

Nice
But guy this life wey we dey now
No need to they follow anybody do yeye challenge
If she no dey make sense just jejely tell her to pack her load , and give her just 20mins to do that or you do it yourself
In fact don't be a good person , being good cause more harm these days
Very useless girl
In fact share me her contact for my mail make I turn her to olosho

Lights up my kpoli in peace

so i think this was the main problem, she expected you to advise her on how to get water since you've been living there before her.

daveyjay:
I am not bossy at all.
True that I do not relate with her often.
I'm too busy with myself...