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Re: My Sister Wants To Quit Her Young Marriage. by jasmine1600: 6:13pm On Aug 24, 2021 |
2ndtimeuncle:My brother, it rains everywhere. No marriage is perfect. Once she quits, she has become a second class n there is no certainty tht d next guy if any will be decent. She should stick with d guy. |
Re: My Sister Wants To Quit Her Young Marriage. by zamirikpo(m): 6:15pm On Aug 24, 2021 |
bros tell ur sister to calm down, even if she leaves her hubby now ,who says she would find a man who wont bring in another wife. she should get a job, plan her life and manage her marriage. men will always be men.....unless she prefers to be celibate the rest of her life. |
Re: My Sister Wants To Quit Her Young Marriage. by josite: 6:16pm On Aug 24, 2021 |
MadeMan01:. Let us educate our wives,there is nothing called cheating.man do more than one women.it is biological.but the guy that signs one man one wife and fail truly deserves hell . |
Re: My Sister Wants To Quit Her Young Marriage. by Ajilenu: 6:16pm On Aug 24, 2021 |
2ndtimeuncle:advice her to be logical rather than emotional now. Let her balance well and stand on her feet before she can think of leaving. |
Re: My Sister Wants To Quit Her Young Marriage. by djon78(m): 6:21pm On Aug 24, 2021 |
Lostchild: You guys will be saying it as if it's easier Do you know the trauma that woman is going through ? It's something you don't wish on your worst enemy She should just find ways to improve her earnings first And then find her levels This is a warning to women Make sure you have a good earning capacity before marriage Because honestly many men nowadays are just mean 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Sister Wants To Quit Her Young Marriage. by chidiwar(m): 6:26pm On Aug 24, 2021 |
GenAbacha: Its like u didn't read this part slowpoke ... Note : My Dad is late and my younger sister is a house wife hence solely dependent on her husband. Please ignore my grammatical errors. I am putting this out here because I have ran out of ideas. |
Re: My Sister Wants To Quit Her Young Marriage. by Brunosamel(m): 6:27pm On Aug 24, 2021 |
2ndtimeuncle:She can't stop the man from seeing his baby mama it's not possible she should just learn how to leave with it or rather she should tell the husband to bring his kids home... She has everything to loose if she leave her husband she might regret it Men are polygamous in nature it rear to see a men who doesn't run things out side but as long as he takes care of his family and makes it his priority things will take it's tolls... It will more be unfortunate cuz she might listen to anyone opinion about the issue and will do her own thing but as your only sister I will advice you to stand firm and make sure she doesn't leave he husband she will thank you in future.... |
Re: My Sister Wants To Quit Her Young Marriage. by djon78(m): 6:31pm On Aug 24, 2021 |
JovialJune: That's the same thing I suggested Any woman getting into marriage must find something serious, productive and tangible doing To avoid trauma like this story 4 Likes |
Re: My Sister Wants To Quit Her Young Marriage. by uniqueboi1(m): 6:32pm On Aug 24, 2021 |
yuping: You are wise. Me thinks the op is also depending on the inlaw That's why he doesn't want the union to end. 6 Likes |
Re: My Sister Wants To Quit Her Young Marriage. by Ekugbeh(m): 6:34pm On Aug 24, 2021 |
Your sister should find something doing than being a housewife |
Re: My Sister Wants To Quit Her Young Marriage. by tunwumi: 6:49pm On Aug 24, 2021 |
cococandy: At least she still a "Mrs" |
Re: My Sister Wants To Quit Her Young Marriage. by Rodinat: 6:53pm On Aug 24, 2021 |
Advise her to stop looking into her husband's phone if she want to live long.She shouldn't confront her husband. You cant stop a man nor a woman from having concubine,the fact that he confess to her means the man still loves her.She should look straight and face her marriage or else she will send herself packing and that woman will take her place and she may end up with depression. |
Re: My Sister Wants To Quit Her Young Marriage. by authority2006(m): 6:54pm On Aug 24, 2021 |
GenAbacha: And what is she going to benefit by quiting? I'm just asking. She's a full housewife with two kids, right? Firstly, when she moves out, where is she heading to in terms of shelter? Secondly, will she move out with the kids or leave the kids behind? Thirdly, how will she cope her finances with or without the kids living with her? Do you think the husband will send enough money for the kids needs? Never! Fourthly, is she ready for her kids to grow up in a broken marriage and a single parent? Once again, what will be here gains moving out and leaving her marriage? Copy 2ndtimeuncle |
Re: My Sister Wants To Quit Her Young Marriage. by suffering: 6:55pm On Aug 24, 2021 |
Allow her quit the marriage then marry the man since you don’t want him to leave your life. |
Re: My Sister Wants To Quit Her Young Marriage. by Hathor5(f): 6:55pm On Aug 24, 2021 |
Rodinat: But she won't end up with depression with a cheating husband, right? The way some of you reason. 8 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: My Sister Wants To Quit Her Young Marriage. by ogunsbanjul(m): 7:02pm On Aug 24, 2021 |
My advice for you is to take the case to God in prayers to intervene rather expecting advice that might not be useful here. Who knows what your sister too is doing that pushed her husband out to go and misbehaved. All will be well in Jesus name |
Re: My Sister Wants To Quit Her Young Marriage. by Nobody: 7:02pm On Aug 24, 2021 |
2ndtimeuncle: Exactly…. She quits d marriage and d baby mama moves in…. And she is not working… she needs to weigh her options. It has happened already and she needs to really calm down and forget about the guy and dat lady. The guy will never stop flogging d baby mama as long as d mama is ready to flog. At this point she needs to think of her future… this is a simple case that doesn’t need emotional trauma.. she will make sure her children are taken care off and when she has a good income and enough money for herself and d children then she can leave d guy. Not leaving now that she has nothing to fall back on. My own advice |
Re: My Sister Wants To Quit Her Young Marriage. by OdenKelechi(m): 7:05pm On Aug 24, 2021 |
UDUJ: I dey fear o! I no go lie you |
Re: My Sister Wants To Quit Her Young Marriage. by Jayslyder: 7:12pm On Aug 24, 2021 |
Are you sure y'all are related? Cause no sane human coming out of the same womb would even nurse the idea for his sister to remain in such torment 5 Likes |
Re: My Sister Wants To Quit Her Young Marriage. by JovialJune(f): 7:13pm On Aug 24, 2021 |
josite: Explain in biological details, with proven scientific research, the molecule, membrane, cells, the parts of a male human body, that makes them do more than one woman, show us a screenshoted graphical evidence well labeled while at it, We are waiting. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Sister Wants To Quit Her Young Marriage. by Powerfly(f): 7:15pm On Aug 24, 2021 |
crackhaus: Before nkor The emphasis is on "Nigerian" hope you know.... |
Re: My Sister Wants To Quit Her Young Marriage. by larryking540: 7:16pm On Aug 24, 2021 |
2ndtimeuncle:guys guys ,a guy man that consider himself to be a high value man ,a real niggee doesn't go around creating baby Mama's , infact you have down graded yourself , if you are financially stable get your sister a job ,that guy isn't worth having a full time woman as a house wife ,real men ,high value men are the ones who deserve a house wife not a guy who creates baby Mama's outside marriage . 5 Likes |
Re: My Sister Wants To Quit Her Young Marriage. by placeofallure(f): 7:17pm On Aug 24, 2021 |
2ndtimeuncle: Yoruba people will say, the market child don enter, don turn counterfeit. The baby mama cannot disappear from your brother-in-law's life. As a man, he'll say there won't be anything between them but she won't be there to ensure that handshake doesn't become a hug. The mistake she made is ever agreeing to be a housewife. No man can pin me down with that housewife nonsense. I have to earn my own money. Now she can't just leave because she and her kids will become a burden on you and your poor mum that's supposed to just sit and enjoy her labour yielding fruits. Tell her to calm down, even if she would leave, let there be something she is leaving to. I know things will be a bit awkward for you now but just man up and let her see reasons with you. Her husband is a nincompoop no doubt. 3 Likes |
Re: My Sister Wants To Quit Her Young Marriage. by larryking540: 7:19pm On Aug 24, 2021 |
josite:and you consider a man with more than one wife as a high value man ,a man that goes around creating baby's for different ladies as a high value man ,man that guy just down graded himself...you don't go around creating baby Mama's and baby's for different ladies and u call ur self real niggeer bro 4 Likes |
Re: My Sister Wants To Quit Her Young Marriage. by Skindiveaa7: 7:29pm On Aug 24, 2021 |
Gbam GenAbacha: 1 Like |
Re: My Sister Wants To Quit Her Young Marriage. by ucyonline: 7:30pm On Aug 24, 2021 |
The man married her. Made vows to stick to her alone till death do them apart. She gave him 2wonderful children. He decided to cheat on her with a strange woman and in the process, got her pregnant. The man has broken the vows he made in the presence of God and man. Infidelity is the only reason for divorce that is supported by the bible. There can also be room for forgiveness if the man totally repents of his wrong deeds. My counsel is this, because children are already involved, a third party needs to be involved now to see how things can be amended. The pastor who joined them and the parents of the man needs to know what is happening and if after their intervention, he still continues, she should quit, for her own peace of mind and health (especially STI). 4 Likes |
Re: My Sister Wants To Quit Her Young Marriage. by Luak(m): 7:31pm On Aug 24, 2021 |
2ndtimeuncle:This is quite humiliating. God shall wipe her tears. Let her stay in her marriage while being more prayerful and resourceful. Some men are not focused |
Re: My Sister Wants To Quit Her Young Marriage. by VULCAN(m): 7:33pm On Aug 24, 2021 |
Who was the man who injured you. Father? Boyfriend? Husband? Wish I knew you IRL so I could warn men to keep off this damaged woman. Because despite all your noise (unless you're a lesbian) you still crave to receive gifts from men. Avviala: |
Re: My Sister Wants To Quit Her Young Marriage. by lanocfoods: 7:34pm On Aug 24, 2021 |
2ndtimeuncle:It rains everywhere seriously? Is it till he infect your sister with a deadly diesase or she died from heartache you will get it. Jeez, men will always be men condoning evil. I'm sure if your sister was your brother instead and the reverse is the case you won't even need to bring it here 4 Likes |
Re: My Sister Wants To Quit Her Young Marriage. by authority2006(m): 7:35pm On Aug 24, 2021 |
GenAbacha: Those two scenarios are not even close at all. |
Re: My Sister Wants To Quit Her Young Marriage. by wallrichy: 7:40pm On Aug 24, 2021 |
Op, this issue can best be approach from the point of your sister getting some business to start doing right away. Tell her to think of a good business she loves and would love to do, make a very good proposal and hand over to the husband. She shouldn't fight him but be in her best of best behaviour. She should cry on his neck before even getting the proposal worked out and inform him that she's tired of not bringing anything to the table and doing practically nothing. It's the truth that where a child connects two people together, nobody can separate them again except they mutually agree to go their separate ways and the more they come together cos of the child, the chances anything can happen between them. That's a fact and don't let anybody tell you otherwise. Divorcing him also is not the solution except she's set to go to the convent. Like you rightly said OP, , ,it rains everywhere even in Afghanistan and Sahara desert. Two kids ain't easy to train alone with a woman that doesn't have any source of income than the husband. Let her upgrade herself financially through her husband. If she's not well educated, let her get registered in a school and upgrade her educational standard and at the same time open up a business like supermarket or so .....now is the perfect time for her to have all her demands met without much refusal from the husband. She shouldn't fight him but just warn him that you agree that he made a mistake in the past and he's forgiven but never should he allow such to happen again. The most that would make her Very angry is this one OP.....She must tell the husband to bring the other woman's child home to her so that she would train them together under her roof as one family. That's the solution to everything. The husband might stop sleeping with the other woman by doing this.....not a guarantee but possibility. Bringing the kid home authomatically empowers your sister. All these I write from my experience....I rest my case... |
Re: My Sister Wants To Quit Her Young Marriage. by faithfull18(f): 7:41pm On Aug 24, 2021 |
It rains everywhere |
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