Man shall not live by bread alone

adezie:

Welcome to the family.

Yeah

This thread prompted me to register an account. It seems I've found my community

litigator:
Any INFJ here? Either an A or a T?

germaphobe:
feel like giving you a hug bro. I'm INFJ_A

Present

Team we're going to change and make friends with people and be social buuut not right now

Modified: I'm Turbulent... I wish I was Assertive

Apus:
I don't know about others, but being an introvert is the biggest gift nature has given me.

My life is peaceful; no drama or burning desire to feel attached or depend on any one, either physically or emotionally. I tried in the past to get deep in friendship with some few, I ended up regretting I did. Though I'm a very likeable person and easy for people to make friends with, but when I notice you about to cross that line, I ghost you. Only my immediate family have that privilege.


I protect my space, and it has been key to my happiness.

If I was to guess I'd say you're an INTP... you guys are everyone's best friend but you don't have a best friend. Am I right?

Kanbe:


If I was to guess I'd say you're an INTP... you guys are everyone's best friend but you don't have a best friend. Am I right?

Spot on bro!
Everything I read about INTPs mirrored me. Never heard of this before though.. very insightful.
Gracias!!

The accuracy of this test is a little concerning

The only thing I don't quite like about my personality is my inability to put a call across my family members. I can stay upto months without calling my brothers and sister.
Whenever I pickup a phone to call, not knowing what to say when I call will make me change mind immediately.

Please I have made a bold step of attending a public event that is wedding this Saturday
Can you please help with the following:
1. How do I greet the celebrants
2. How should I dress.
3. How should I behave
4. When is the right time to leave the wedding venue
5. If I later refuse to go, how should I apologize

Anonymous9345:
Please I have made a bold step of attending a public event that is wedding this Saturday
Can you please help with the following:
1. How do I greet the celebrants
2. How should I dress.
3. How should I behave
4. When is the right time to leave the wedding venue
5. If I later refuse to go, how should I apologize

Better forget going and send a simple text and if possible request for account details..

starbuck:




Better forget going and send a simple text and if possible request for account details..

thank you. I will send an apology message immediately

Anonymous9345:
thank you. I will send an apology message immediately

I think you should push yourself out of your comfort zone. Dress smart casual, and shake hands with those who approach you. Go with a friend if you're afraid you won't be comfort with anyone there.

The thing with introverts is that we live out the experience in our minds and it's never as bad as we think it is. When you get there you will enjoy yourself, it's the getting there that's a challenge.

Treat yourself to a nice haircut, some new clothes and go there for a couple of hours. Leave when you want to but go. I have to go to my nephew's wedding next week and I'm dreading it so I have decided to make it a day to treat and pamper myself. I'm looking forward to that and it makes it easier because I think about my massage, facial, new haircut instead of the event.

Let's do this together! It's a one time occasion so we can do it.

starbuck:

Better forget going and send a simple text and if possible request for account details..

This is honestly not a good advice!
If u can't encourage that guy to go out, it is better u keep shut! That guy is pretty messy right now! Didn't u read his first post on this thread?
If he doesn't go out at least once a while to event as this, where he can interact with people, how will he improve? I expect everyone on this thread to encourage that guy to go out as possible as he can. Below is an excerpt from his post, this guy is already losing it, going out, where he can interact with people is the only solution to his problems. No amount of books he will read staying indoors can solve this level of introversion!

Anonymous9345:
Good day everyone,
I am a terrible useless introvert, I don't have girlfriend and I have never ever had one. My self confidence, self esteem, etc are very low. I can't walk to someone especially the opposite sex to talk, even just saying hi. I can't maintain eye contact, I can't speak well, I can't do anything well.
So please I am begging your guys here to help me. I am dying in loneliness and depression. I know some of you guys are in a relationship, please help me, train me.

You just need to face your fears and start going out by attending that wedding on Saturday! It is your first step to living a normal life. Believe me, u are not living a normal life, u are living a life full of fears. You fear for everything u do, that is no life! Wish I can see u physically to explain certain things to u.

Kanbe:


I think you should push yourself out of your comfort zone. Dress smart casual, and shake hands with those who approach you. Go with a friend if you're afraid you won't be comfort with anyone there.

The thing with introverts is that we live out the experience in our minds and it's never as bad as we think it is. When you get there you will enjoy yourself, it's the getting there that's a challenge.

Treat yourself to a nice haircut, some new clothes and go there for a couple of hours. Leave when you want to but go. I have to go to my nephew's wedding next week and I'm dreading it so I have decided to make it a day to treat and pamper myself. I'm looking forward to that and it makes it easier because I think about my massage, facial, new haircut instead of the event.

Let's do this together! It's a one time occasion so we can do it.

Thank u!

@ Anonymous9345
This is what u need now, go for that wedding, even if it is only 5 minutes u spend there, try to go! Gradually u start building your confidence by doing so. Do not act fearful this time!

Rubbiish:

Thank u!

@ Anonymous9345
This is what u need now, go for that wedding, even if it is only 5 minutes u spend there, try to go! Gradually u start building your confidence by doing so. Do not act fearful this time!

I'd add that even if you are fearful go anyway. There's no magic wond that will cure you. Accept yourself because it's the "not accepting" that causes all the pain.

What's the worst that can happen? You'll get there and feel self-conscious, you'll feel uncomfortable, you'll want to leave. If that's the case focus on being present, engage your senses, feel the chair under your butt, or the ground under your feet, smell the air and listen to the sounds around you. Look around the room and people watch. Get up and walk around.

Shit, if people ask you what's wrong say you're not feeling too well. Just be present and you may even have a good night but even if you don't it's okay because the goal was to go there and if you're there then you've won so pat yourself on the back and celebrate that

Ps. I'm telling this to myself and you guys because we're in this together

Kanbe:


I'd add that even if you are fearful go anyway. There's no magic wond that will cure you. Accept yourself because it's the "not accepting" that causes all the pain.

What's the worst that can happen? You'll get there and feel self-conscious, you'll feel uncomfortable, you'll want to leave. If that's the case focus on being present, engage your senses, feel the chair under your butt, or the ground under your feet, smell the air and listen to the sounds around you. Look around the room and people watch. Get up and walk around.

Shit, if people ask you what's wrong say you're not feeling too well. Just be present and you may even have a good night but even if you don't it's okay because the goal was to go there and if you're there then you've won so pat yourself on the back and celebrate that

Ps. I'm telling this to myself and you guys because we're in this together

I agree with u sir, mistakes are part of improvement. Don't act fearful I stated earlier was in regards to he shouldn't be afraid to go. Even if he goes there to act fearful, he will learn from it & improve next time.

Rubbiish:

I agree with u sir, mistakes are part of improvement. Don't act fearful I stated earlier was in regards to he shouldn't be afraid to go. Even if he goes there to act fearful, he will learn from it & improve next time.

I agree with you 100... I think he'll skip this opportunity thanks to lil miss negative up there but maybe next time we can get to him first

Hello guys!!!

I didn't know an introvert thread was on Nairaland.... Wow!!! Nice to meet y'all.

Result of my own test. It's disconcerting how on-point this test is though. Got me figured out with pinpoint accuracy. No one has ever understood me deeply apart from myself. Not my siblings, not my parents, not my friends, not society. Except for this damn test.

INTJ-A (Architect), everyone...

Dem say na we bad pass

May be this will be of help to someone, especially a shy person who have no choice but to take up a public role.

Personally, I worried a lot about how people will judge me when I was much younger and this led to shyness on my part.

When I was yet a teenager, I attended a youth meeting in church. A paper bearing selected Bible verses was being passed around and I took one despite the protestations of my eldest sister. She felt I would not be able to read and share what I understood from the verse I picked.

I went to the front when it got to my turn and just bowed my head while reading from the Bible. I mumbled some words which the person closest to me picked out. He/she did the explanation and one of the attendees remarked that if I said what was reported to them, I did well indeed.

That was the earliest indication of the fact that I can lead the Bible study which has become second nature to me right now. Though, I was short of confidence at that time, in fact, I suffered from low self-esteem.

I struggled with this state and also discovered I hate to be seen and heard. I hardly spoke loud especially when given a microphone to speak. This proved a huge flaw even in my service year and that was the time I discovered a book titled, Confidence by Alan G. McGinnis. Brilliant book which proved a much needed boost to my search for a solution on low self-esteem.

It did not change the things I dislike about myself. It only gave me the much needed boost to work on myself, physically, mentally and spiritually.

The thing with being an introvert is the desire to remain safe from fear and regret. The desire not to confront some certain realities but then, regret is not something anyone would want to have. If you feel you need to be in the public face to fulfil your purpose, prepare to fit in by tapping into your innate intelligence and telling without extreme self-consciousness.

One thing that will help you is just letting go of thinking about yourself for the moment and focusing on your listener. Do without worrying too much about how they perceive you.

Finally, don't get stuck on vices in your desire to stay within your confine. Join groups in the areas of your interest as human relationship is important.

waywardpikin:
Result of my own test. It's disconcerting how on-point this test is though. Got me figured out with pinpoint accuracy. No one has ever understood me deeply apart from myself. Not my siblings, not my parents, not my friends, not society. Except for this damn test.

INTJ-A (Architect), everyone...

Dem say na we bad pass

How can I do this test?

oyetpel:


How can I do this test?

Go to 16personalitiesdotcom to take the test.

waywardpikin:
Result of my own test. It's disconcerting how on-point this test is though. Got me figured out with pinpoint accuracy. No one has ever understood me deeply apart from myself. Not my siblings, not my parents, not my friends, not society. Except for this damn test.

INTJ-A (Architect), everyone...

Dem say na we bad pass

I just took the test also.
Proudly introverted

waywardpikin:


Go to 16personalitiesdotcom to take the test.

Ok

Please who knows the price of a bigsize whiteboard?

It’s surprising we have different characters and our relationship towards others

how did you guys do on your first day at your job or work as an introvert?

waploger:
how did you guys do on your first day at your job or work as an introvert?

We try to analyze people so we could know the matured minds we can keep real work relationship with, this might go on for the first week or a bit more. The qualities we look out for in these people might differ according to our personality types.

But we all try to avoid small talk, we just observe instead of mingling. Nevertheless, we extend normal courtesy to everyone.

sherylbaky:
We try to analyze people so we could know the matured minds we can keep real work relationship with, this might go on for the first week or a bit more. The qualities we look out for in these people might differ according to our personality types.

But we all try to avoid small talk, we just observe instead of mingling. Nevertheless, we extend normal courtesy to everyone.

Wow!!! that was almost how i started..

waywardpikin:
Result of my own test. It's disconcerting how on-point this test is though. Got me figured out with pinpoint accuracy. No one has ever understood me deeply apart from myself. Not my siblings, not my parents, not my friends, not society. Except for this damn test.

INTJ-A (Architect), everyone...

Dem say na we bad pass

Same here bro
have you ever been told or asked why are you always angry when in reality you're not

icedavidson:

Same here bro
have you ever been told or asked why are you always angry when in reality you're not

Only all the time hahaha

I love it though. Because on the flipside I'm quite funny and people tend to gravitate towards me. I keep my stern look to keep unwanted company away.