Its better to remain single rather than going into abusive marriage. You can walkaway o

Warrior14:
I will be getting married in 3 weeks time but I'm not happy
I'm getting married to a man who has beaten me two different times. I'm getting married to a man who is heartless and doesn't know how to love and treat a woman right. I'm getting married to a man who does not have a mind of his own.

I'm getting married but I'm already thinking of divorce.

I'm overwhelmed! I'm physically strong but I'm weak.
Just don't want to wake up from my sleep so I won't have to continue with this marriage plans as I can't stand the shame of calling off the marriage at this time.

Your years of courtship is enough for you to know what triggers his physical and emotional abuse on you and adopt measures to avoid such triggers, yes its a two way thing, but since he can't bring himself to calm down (despite the height of provocation) by a look at your face, its obvious he feels you are imposing yourself into his life in name of marriage, given an alternative, he would have walked away long ago.


You are about to get married just to please your family and the society, sadly, he is also doing so with same mindset.

I'm still at lost while you can't confide in any of your family members as you are psychologically not at your best to decide about the wedding.

If you walk away after the wedding, family and society will say you destroyed or couldn't keep a man.

If you walk away now, they will still call you names and tag you whatever, so, either way, you will still be called names and tagged.

What matters most is your mental and psychological well being cuz you need them to stay alive and healthy.


You are an adult, the choice is yours to make based on your life priorities.

Warrior14:
I will be getting married in 3 weeks time but I'm not happy
I'm getting married to a man who has beaten me two different times. I'm getting married to a man who is heartless and doesn't know how to love and treat a woman right. I'm getting married to a man who does not have a mind of his own.

I'm getting married but I'm already thinking of divorce.

I'm overwhelmed! I'm physically strong but I'm weak.
Just don't want to wake up from my sleep so I won't have to continue with this marriage plans as I can't stand the shame of calling off the marriage at this time.

Definitely you are the problem. If you don't change you fluctuating mind unstable acts, he will beat you more and more. Obviously, if you are not mentally unstable, then you will not be planning to get married to a woman beater.

Warrior14:
I will be getting married in 3 weeks time but I'm not happy
I'm getting married to a man who has beaten me two different times. I'm getting married to a man who is heartless and doesn't know how to love and treat a woman right. I'm getting married to a man who does not have a mind of his own.

I'm getting married but I'm already thinking of divorce.

I'm overwhelmed! I'm physically strong but I'm weak.
Just don't want to wake up from my sleep so I won't have to continue with this marriage plans as I can't stand the shame of calling off the marriage at this time.

. Even right at the altar or the registry, you can still decline. It's not a must that you do that wedding.

Warrior14:
I will be getting married in 3 weeks time but I'm not happy
I'm getting married to a man who has beaten me two different times. I'm getting married to a man who is heartless and doesn't know how to love and treat a woman right. I'm getting married to a man who does not have a mind of his own.

I'm getting married but I'm already thinking of divorce.

I'm overwhelmed! I'm physically strong but I'm weak.
Just don't want to wake up from my sleep so I won't have to continue with this marriage plans as I can't stand the shame of calling off the marriage at this time.

no man wakes up and start beating someone u most have bad attitude he most have spent his life savings on you trained you did everything for you yet your ungrateful break up with him and pay up the money your owing him fear woman with her emotional blackmail package

Warrior14:
I will be getting married in 3 weeks time but I'm not happy
I'm getting married to a man who has beaten me two different times. I'm getting married to a man who is heartless and doesn't know how to love and treat a woman right. I'm getting married to a man who does not have a mind of his own.

I'm getting married but I'm already thinking of divorce.

I'm overwhelmed! I'm physically strong but I'm weak.
Just don't want to wake up from my sleep so I won't have to continue with this marriage plans as I can't stand the shame of calling off the marriage at this time.

It's a difficult thing to do but I pray right now for courage for you to be able to call it off. We need you alive.

If you can't tell anyone, just walk away and don't show up on wedding day. You can tell the people that matter where you are later so they don't worry sick.

I met a colleague of my sister's once. She was heavily pregnant then. She was a young bride and that was her first pregnancy. My sister later told me she never carried the pregnancy to term. The husband got violent with her and killed her in the process. It's been some years now but I can't seem to shake her image off my mind. She became an emblem of marital violence in my head.
Sister, run for your dear life!

Shokoloko:


Lol, bad mouth

I was really angry with her and her situation, I really wanted her to feel the pain of my word so that she can value her life more than the marriage...that's why i asked for pardon in the first place

Praktikals:

As a married man you should know better than to base your conclusion on what a woman says.

I wasn't judging by what the OP said, because I haven't heard from the other side, but let be fair, a man should in no way raise his hands up to beat a woman...

I beg you in the name of Jesus, please leave. You can just run away. If you go ahead with the wedding/marriage, you will just be signing up for misery.

Please, please, please, don’t do it. Run away for some months and speak to everyone you need to from your hideaway.

Please

Warrior14:
I will be getting married in 3 weeks time but I'm not happy
I'm getting married to a man who has beaten me two different times. I'm getting married to a man who is heartless and doesn't know how to love and treat a woman right. I'm getting married to a man who does not have a mind of his own.

I'm getting married but I'm already thinking of divorce.

I'm overwhelmed! I'm physically strong but I'm weak.
Just don't want to wake up from my sleep so I won't have to continue with this marriage plans as I can't stand the shame of calling off the marriage at this time.

dem tie u there?

Acidosis:
I pity you. You can't stand the shame of calling off a wedding? I hope you will be able to stand the 'shame' and pain of divorce after 3 kids?

All your threads so far on Nairaland are about this same monster that wants to kill you, yet you decided to plan your future with him. What do we call this now? Zero/dead self-esteem? Desperation? Abi na strong d**k wan make you sign your death certificate?

She's pregnant. That could be the only reason she can't walk away. The story no complete.

Cancelling the marriage now and divorcing in less than 2 years or even 1 year which one do you prefer?

You've already already divorced in your heart.

Better run and cancel d marriage plans. Is not by force to marry o.

Warrior14:
I will be getting married in 3 weeks time but I'm not happy
I'm getting married to a man who has beaten me two different times. I'm getting married to a man who is heartless and doesn't know how to love and treat a woman right. I'm getting married to a man who does not have a mind of his own.

I'm getting married but I'm already thinking of divorce.

I'm overwhelmed! I'm physically strong but I'm weak.
Just don't want to wake up from my sleep so I won't have to continue with this marriage plans as I can't stand the shame of calling off the marriage at this time.

Why did u agree to marry him in the first place.? I'm not sorry to say...you don't deserve to be happy. Yes. Was a gun pointed at your head when he was giving you ring? You knew this and you still saying "you can't handle the shame" but you can handle an abusive marriage for the rest of your life? Lol, women lack sense. I'm sure this guy is Rich, cos only a rich guys can make a lady lose her sense of thinking. Gold diggers everywhere

[quote author=Warrior14 post=107031934]I will be getting married in 3 weeks time but I'm not happy
I'm getting married to a man who has beaten me two different times. I'm getting married to a man who is heartless and doesn't know how to love and treat a woman right. I'm getting married to a man who does not have a mind of his own.

I'm getting married but I'm already thinking of divorce.

I'm overwhelmed! I'm physically strong but I'm weak.
Just don't want to wake up from my sleep so I won't have to continue with this marriage plans as I can't stand the shame of calling off the marriage at this time.


[/quote

You are feeling like this when you haven't married yet please for your own sanity and that of your unborn children call this marriage. tell him something that will make him call off the wedding. yes it is that simple ...don't bring kids into this world of suffering and smilling

Marriage is like a contract now and if he non work, everybody pack their things and go! FOR BETTER TO STAY AND FOR WORST TO GO

wunmi590:



a man should in no way raise his hands up to beat a woman...

You are right. But some women will frustrate you to the extent of awakening the beast in you. May we not meet such

In the eyes of God nothing like divorce. U better call it off now.

Praktikals:

You are right. But some women will frustrate you to the extent of awakening the beast in you. May we not meet such

Amen, but in the advent of meeting such woman, the best is just walk out of the woman/house, and go and stay somewhere for sometimes, just to avoid further damage, because you never can tell what would happen in the next minute...

Warrior14:
I will be getting married in 3 weeks time but I'm not happy
I'm getting married to a man who has beaten me two different times. I'm getting married to a man who is heartless and doesn't know how to love and treat a woman right. I'm getting married to a man who does not have a mind of his own.

I'm getting married but I'm already thinking of divorce.

I'm overwhelmed! I'm physically strong but I'm weak.
Just don't want to wake up from my sleep so I won't have to continue with this marriage plans as I can't stand the shame of calling off the marriage at this time.

Chai, you don't love your life. You care about what people will say, i don't get it. Others will not marry the man for you or feel and experience the hell you will pass through this beast.

If you love yourself call of this wedding and if you don't go and pay for your coffin ahead as you will die of emotional, psychological and physical abuse. I dont give a f... K about what people say as it is the owner of the shoe knows where it hurts most.

If You do this, its your funeral.

macrodata:
She's pregnant. That could be the only reason she can't walk away. The story no complete.

Oh right

wunmi590:


Amen, but in the advent of meeting such woman, the best is just walk out of the woman/house, and go and stay somewhere for sometimes, just to avoid further damage, because you never can tell what would happen in the next minute...

You dont seems to know the type I m talking about. When you return, you will continue from where you stopped.

You can't stand the shame of calling off the wedding

Be ready to stand the shame of constant beating and countless abuse.

Brace up and be ready.

As you lay your bed so you'll lie on it.

You are not happy with the man, u are to get married to,yet you are ready to get married to him and still divorce him,what is the essence of getting marry in the first place ? Why not do the right thing now, instead of regretting later. U know the right thing to do since you are unhappy with him.

Imagine. madam marry him and tell us your address so we can come and eat rice at your burial when he finally kills u. This same domestic violence guy go kpai u las Las. Its not as if u are a pauper or gold digger. so why risk your life?

well incase you need side boyfriend to be cleaning your tears and making you happy whenever he pounds u like pounded yam, just call him. I will be there for u.. mtcheewww

Praktikals:

You dont seems to know the type I m talking about. When you return, you will continue from where you stopped.

Nah to park all my load leave house for her be that

Warrior14:
I will be getting married in 3 weeks time but I'm not happy
I'm getting married to a man who has beaten me two different times. I'm getting married to a man who is heartless and doesn't know how to love and treat a woman right. I'm getting married to a man who does not have a mind of his own.

I'm getting married but I'm already thinking of divorce.

I'm overwhelmed! I'm physically strong but I'm weak.
Just don't want to wake up from my sleep so I won't have to continue with this marriage plans as I can't stand the shame of calling off the marriage at this time.

You better cancel the wedding. Else you will live every single day of your life in regret.
The shame of cancelling it now is nothing compared to the trauma and bondage that awaits you.
If you like, hear, if you like, no hear. Wetin i know be say a word is enough for the wise.

wunmi590:


As a married man, one of the things I have always prayed for is never to raise my hand to beat the mother of my kid, who go through alot to bear me my kids (never will I do that)...

Please, that marriage is not for you, because marrying him would give him more leverage to beat you more at will, knowing fully well he has paid your bride price...

Bride price u say? More like Death price

Warrior14:
I will be getting married in 3 weeks time but I'm not happy
I'm getting married to a man who has beaten me two different times. I'm getting married to a man who is heartless and doesn't know how to love and treat a woman right. I'm getting married to a man who does not have a mind of his own.

I'm getting married but I'm already thinking of divorce.

I'm overwhelmed! I'm physically strong but I'm weak.
Just don't want to wake up from my sleep so I won't have to continue with this marriage plans as I can't stand the shame of calling off the marriage at this time.

There is only one thing that can make a woman walk into this kind of marriage with impending doom-Money.

Listen to me, I lost my favorite aunt to an abusive husband, who was a naval officer.

If you know what is good for your future, call that marriage OFF or start telling your family to buy your coffin in advance.

Good luck.

Hmmmm

obowunmi:


My dear, better to DIE a married woman than to be alive, healthy and SINGLE.

Sorry, what did you just say?

Just year yourself!.... You you know all these about a man you want to marry and you are ashamed of calling it off?...Then get married and see which will be more shameful. I give you 2months!....#walksaway

Warrior14:
I will be getting married in 3 weeks time but I'm not happy
I'm getting married to a man who has beaten me two different times. I'm getting married to a man who is heartless and doesn't know how to love and treat a woman right. I'm getting married to a man who does not have a mind of his own.

I'm getting married but I'm already thinking of divorce.

I'm overwhelmed! I'm physically strong but I'm weak.
Just don't want to wake up from my sleep so I won't have to continue with this marriage plans as I can't stand the shame of calling off the marriage at this time.