DjBigMoni:
Thank God for safe delivery, even though it was CS everything went successful.

So my mum came around for Omugwo first and ever since my wife had been having issues with her. it got to the extent my wife pulled a knife on my mum and I, she even fought my mum before she left.

So her mum now came around for Omugwo also and I have not been giving her face even despite she has apologised with my wife also and even her Dad. But I'm still finding it difficult to forgive her don't know why.

Mariangeles:
Have you considered the fact that your wife might be going or might've gone through postpartum depression, which might've led to that behaviour?

Were she and your mum having problems before your wife got pregnant and had a baby?

N.B. Postpartum depression is not an excuse for bad behaviour, it is real.

Mariangeles:


No dey talk wetin you no know. If you no understand, ask!

Wetin you think say omugwo be for? Vacation?
You think say na about food, and toys, and echetara'm na echetara'm?

Omugwo for Igbo land na to help woman wey just born pikin.

To help her with herself and the baby, until she's strong enough to handle things herself.

DjBigMoni:
Thank God for safe delivery, even though it was CS everything went successful.

So my mum came around for Omugwo first and ever since my wife had been having issues with her. it got to the extent my wife pulled a knife on my mum and I, she even fought my mum before she left.

So her mum now came around for Omugwo also and I have not been giving her face even despite she has apologised with my wife also and even her Dad. But I'm still finding it difficult to forgive her don't know why.

Mariangeles:
[s][/s]Have you considered the fact that your wife might be going or might've gone through postpartum depression, which might've led to that behaviour?

Were she and your mum having problems before your wife got pregnant and had a baby?[s][/s]

N.B. Postpartum depression is not an excuse for bad behaviour, it is real.

Kobojunkie:
Her husband can and should adequately fill that post instead. After all, the baby was made by both of them in the marriage.

It ought to be the man caring for and helping nurse his wife back to health after the ordeal, unless circumstances don't allow for it - busy work schedule for example. Oyinbo husbands dey even take time off from work in order to care for wife and baby during such times. Rarely do you see them inviting a third partyover during those times and they take turns feeding baby during night shift and all.

Surely Nigeria husbands aren't shigidi that can't lift a finger to care their own wife and kid in similar situations naw!

Mariangeles:
Have you considered the fact that your wife might be going or might've gone through postpartum depression, which might've led to that behaviour?

Were she and your mum having problems before your wife got pregnant and had a baby?

N.B. Postpartum depression is not an excuse for bad behaviour, it is real.

Tallesty1:
Selective postpartum depression abi? why is she not having issues with her own mother?



@OP I think say nah wife's mother dey first come omugwo ni?

slimjohn2k5:
The best person to come for omugwo is from wife's family unless they are not available.

Moreover, do not take it against her as the person above me have told you she may be suffering from
postpartum depression.

Despite that please let her own people come first

slimjohn2k5:
The best person to come for omugwo is from wife's family unless they are not available.

Moreover, do not take it against her as the person above me have told you she may be suffering from
postpartum depression.

Despite that please let her own people come first

Vickyvice:
[s][/s]my brother forget this omugwo yeye philosophy wey poor people invent. My sisters are married and given birth, but my mum no go. She just arrange baby accessories,,, clothes, toys, and their soaps, powder, foods and fill their kitchen with assorted foods, by waybill them abroad,. What's omugwo? Na low mentality slang. Like say we be low grade family, na so my mum go dey urge to go abroad for omugwo.[s][/s]

DjBigMoni:
No other reason, she even had to threaten my life again after my mum incident, wanted to pure me hot water in the presence of her mum all because I said I'll still deal with her after all the pleading. she still begged for forgiveness that night

Optimistguy1969:



In Kiriku's voice: ABEG SHIFT

DjBigMoni:
Thank God for safe delivery, even though it was CS everything went successful.

So my mum came around for Omugwo first and ever since my wife had been having issues with her. it got to the extent my wife pulled a knife on my mum and I, she even fought my mum before she left.

So her mum now came around for Omugwo also and I have not been giving her face even despite she has apologised with my wife also and even her Dad. But I'm still finding it difficult to forgive her don't know why.

Lordbinsmar:


Rubbish post, even the richest group of people in the world do spend quality time with their children when they give birth.

DjBigMoni:
Just that my wife is hot tempered , they've never had issues before. First time mum is visiting

GreatG:
Oga but you didn't tell us what led to the fight. Calmly ask your wife what happened before you conclude. Some mother inlaw are something else

ABANGWABOI:



Same postpartum cannot make her pull a Knife on her own mom but only on her MIL ..
Not surprised that you are a female saying this, after all most of you have only a single digit IQ..

This kain comment makes me understand why many guys feels y'all in your gender have fish brain..
Infact, Mosdii come and see this confused thing saying rubbish..

Tallesty1:
Selective postpartum depression abi? why is she not having issues with her own mother?



@OP I think say nah wife's mother dey first come omugwo ni?

viyon02:
So her mum can come for omugo abi? If you don't want thunder fire you, don't allow her mum too to come for omugo period.

slimjohn2k5:
The best person to come for omugwo is from wife's family unless they are not available.

Moreover, do not take it against her as the person above me have told you she may be suffering from
postpartum depression.

Despite that please let her own people come first

EkehPraise:
Except there's any other reason you are not telling us, then I suggest you let your wife's mother go so that you and your wife and the new baby can have some time alone as a family. Before this whole thing I believe you must have been living peacefully with your wife therefore whatever happened between her and your mother shouldn't be a yardstick to coming online to for people to paint her as trash.

We4all:


Calm down and reason like a normal human being. Have you ever wondered why a mad man harasses some people but never do the same to others?

It is because of our demeanor and display of attitude. When my sis was ill and feeling frustrated, she was very calm with me. But with others, her aggression tripled.

She must be cool with the mom because she knows how to manage her, unlike the mother in law.